Halfway through the wedding, the bride said "Dink" status. How should the mother-in-law deal with it?

The word dink means that both husband and wife are fertile, but they actively choose the barren group.

With the development of the times, people gradually take self-feeling as the center, and more and more people choose not to have children in marriage. First of all, families without children have less financial pressure and allow exquisite life.

Secondly, couples have more free time and can choose different lifestyles such as traveling and playing, and will not be stumped by the daily necessities at home.

Of course, even now, marriage and childbirth are tied together, and Dink's behavior is still unacceptable to most families.

Especially in rural areas, or economically and culturally underdeveloped areas, rashly choosing not to have children after marriage is bound to cause a lot of criticism. Even if this kind of life is good, it is a bad choice for the elderly.

Today's example is a debate about "to be or not to be". In the end, you will find that no matter which of these two choices you choose, someone will make sacrifices in the end, killing two birds with one stone will not solve it.

0 1 When making trouble in the bridal chamber, the bride made a surprising speech and was driven out of the house by her mother-in-law.

Reader Song Yue played a "big joke" at the wedding.

As an honest and frank person, she has always been an outspoken figure with a big horn. She said something she shouldn't have said at the wedding, and her mother-in-law threw it out directly, spilling her luggage all over the floor.

This is cause and effect. Song Yue got married last June+10. Because the man asked to go home from the hotel after the wedding, there was a wedding ceremony.

The so-called "disturbing the bridal chamber" is like a traditional question and answer, such as giving the bride a bite of raw jiaozi.

The bride was surprised and blurted out, "Ah, how did it happen?" Even if it is complete.

Or, give the bride a few dates to eat, eat a few, and spit a few stones to represent how many children to have in the future.

All the above usually represent a good omen and a good meaning. Song Yue spoke his mind directly, because he had never experienced rehearsal and persuasion.

When asked how many children she would have, Song Yue said directly, "No, no". I agree with Zhang Feng that we will have a DINK in the future. "

Zhang Feng is Song Yue's new husband.

When this was said, her mother-in-law was dumbfounded and grabbed Song Yue's wrist: "What did you say? What dink? "

At this time, Song Yue realized that he had said something wrong, but it was difficult to ride a tiger. He could only reply in a low voice: "Zhang Feng said that he had discussed it with you. We don't want children after marriage, Dink. "

This time, the bridal chamber was completely disturbed. My mother-in-law seems to have drunk ecstasy soup. She suddenly felt very dizzy and fell on her relatives. She didn't forget to hold her breath and ordered, "Come on, call Xiaofeng, I want to ask him face to face."

After that, my mother-in-law did not forget to stretch out her trembling finger and pointed to Song Yue and said, "You go, you go, we don't want a childless daughter-in-law, you don't come into my door, you go, you go."

Relatives around decisively dragged her mother-in-law out, but did not stop her from throwing the suitcase brought by Song Yue out of the door.

Three relatives went into battle together to persuade the benefits of having children.

For this matter, relatives and friends undoubtedly saw a big joke.

Everyone is whispering on the wine table, talking about nothing more than the "happy event" of the Zhang family. Speculation is rampant. Some people suspect that there is something wrong with Zhang Feng, while others suspect that Song Yue is not a good girl.

Water under the bridge. It's hard to gag people. However, the way to dispel all rumors is simple, that is, the young couple get pregnant and have children early, and what they say in the bridal chamber will become a shy joke of the bride over time.

So, as soon as the wedding was over, the relatives of the three parties bombed the young couple in turn, hoping to make them change their minds as soon as possible.

But Zhang Feng doesn't want to. He protected Song Yue: "It's just a fact. Just say it. Sooner or later, parents should know that although the timing is wrong, it is a good thing that you didn't lie. "

When Zhang Feng was dating, he had already set the tone for Ding Ke in the future. Unexpectedly, only when he and Song Yue hit it off, they began to associate and developed into a marriage.

His meaning is simple. Life is only a few decades. There is nothing wrong with living for yourself for a few more days and enjoying life more.

His only mistake was that he didn't take the initiative to tell his parents the truth, and even lied to Song Yue, saying that he had confessed to his parents.

In short, Zhang Feng is at the forefront of bombing relatives and friends. He doesn't blame Song Yue, but thinks his parents "crossed the line".

"Do you want children is our husband and wife. You have no right to participate. This is the right to have children, understand? " Zhang Feng said this.

"I don't care if you have this right or that right, get married and have children. This has been the case since ancient times. You can change it if you change it? Why are you two so special? If everyone is like you, are there still humans? " In-laws are not to be outdone and aggressive.

In the end, the two sides were deadlocked. Because Song Yue's new wife has a good attitude towards the door, her in-laws don't give her a hard time, but they have a lot of opinions about Zhang Feng.

After all, this matter is not decided by one person, and young couples are each responsible for half.

Couples avoid gossip and enjoy city life.

After the wedding leave, Song Yue and Zhang Feng both returned to the city and lived in a newly bought house, so they could fully enjoy the quiet time together.

For her mother-in-law to drive Song Yue out of the house in public, she thought it was okay: "There are some things that the old man can't accept for a while. Although the method is too radical, it is also my fault. I don't know what to say and what not to say. "

Some people say that most young people who choose not to have children after marriage are more rational.

Because I am too rational about life, I think "having children" is not cost-effective.

No joke is like this. Someone advised: "You have no children. If you are sick, you can only go alone."

Another person replied, "Is it difficult to take everyone with you?"

Jokes are jokes, but in real life, even if there are children, there are many examples of old people lying in bed unattended; Childless and childless, enjoying their old age, countless people live in senior nursing homes.

After all, each has its own way of life. As long as he feels good, it is really good.

Life doesn't have to go the same way, but it must be comfortable. On the one hand, Song Yue and Zhang Feng can get over it, and their parents will try to convince them again, but their own lives must be in their own hands and refuse to be dominated by others.