What is the psychology after people get out of prison?

It depends on what crime he committed.

We have a man here who was sentenced to 12 years in prison for raping a girl. He was 19 years old when he was sentenced. Great changes have taken place in his family since he was released from prison. He can't accept any of them, but this is the reality.

When his parents died, his younger brother left his hometown to work in other places. He also had no face to meet his relatives and friends and left his hometown to work far away.

Once when he came back to do business, he came to my shop to wait for the bus and buy something. I asked him if he was okay now, and he said, "I'm fine outside, but I don't know anyone." I said, "The people in my hometown forgave you, and you paid the price for it. Don't think so much. "

He said, "I'm going back to my hometown now, and no one wants to see me. It's really embarrassing to think about what you have done! I regret it too much. "

I asked,' Are you married now? "He said," any girl who is willing to marry me has a bad reputation. Now my brother is far away from me, afraid that I will influence him. "

He lowered his head and said thoughtfully, "My life is over. Let's live every day. Don't think too much. I'm so tired. What a short trip, a long regret! "

I asked, "Where are you going this time?" He said, "It's not decided yet. I can go anywhere where I have a job, mainly the port. People in that place are strangers. Don't worry about being known about yourself. If you have an acquaintance, it will be very embarrassing. "

I said, "That's all in the past. Nobody remembers. Don't think so much. Just be a good person in the future. "

He said, "It's too late for me to atone. I humiliated my parents and made a negative example for my brother. I can only be a good person and live a lifetime. "

He left, and I looked at his back and thought, if only he hadn't committed a crime.

Now I can't go home and my brothers can't get together.

Being a man must not break the law, the price is too high!

A person who has been sentenced to prison, our society objectively pushes him to his opposite, which is difficult to change in the short term.

Although the law pursues fairness, in many cases, the only fairness is difficult to heal the wounds of the victims, and people are more willing to stand on the side of the victims and avoid the perpetrators.

After accepting the punishment, how to make the abuser return to the society and really regain his confidence is a slow process, and it is not something that can be "courageous and shocking" in just a few meals.

Compared with high-profile return, low-profile return is less risky, and it can save energy for itself and resist the questioning eyes cast by outsiders.

If a person commits a crime for money and his own physiological needs, then this person is guilty; If a person commits a crime for bread, then the society is guilty; If a person commits a crime for dignity, then everyone is guilty.

Although we are ordinary people, some of our words and deeds are very sensitive to the parties, which may stimulate their most sensitive nerves and thus experience "social evils", which is not conducive to their return.

In a word, regression is a powerful process, but it is not smooth. This requires both the parties to have a strong heart and the tolerance and acceptance of outsiders.

Two colleagues in the same company, the young man, bet that A lost two thousand dollars. The more he thought about it afterwards, the more unconvinced he became. He entangled several associates and ran to the dormitory to find B, saying, XXX, how dare you cheat me of my money! Spit out the money! Several people rushed up, put B on the bed and started to rob! At that time, B and their bed fell apart and their money was robbed. The more he thinks about it, the angrier he gets. He went directly to the police station to report the case. He was afraid that the police station would not act, so he went to the city bureau to report the case. The next morning, the police arrested A! Robbery was sentenced to one and a half years. At first, A let it out that he would kill B, but as soon as he entered, he was repaired and obeyed, and after a year and a half, he came out honestly.

My cousin was imprisoned for three years for fighting. During these three years, my aunt's life was very difficult. On weekdays, she relies on the help of our relatives to tide over the difficulties.

A few days after my cousin was released from prison, the menstruation family suddenly ignored our family, which made us puzzled and didn't know what was going on.

Fortunately, my cousin secretly told me that she said that our family didn't understand my cousin's psychology after she was released from prison, and made a mistake before offending my aunt and them.

My cousin's words made me even more puzzled. What did our family do wrong? What is the psychology after getting out of prison?

Out of curiosity, but also to find out the real reason for offending his aunt. I carefully recalled the changes after my cousin came out, which is what my cousin called "the psychology after getting out of prison."

I think it has the following characteristics:

Before, my cousin was a chatterbox, and like Nana, she was a master of active atmosphere. My mouth is also very sweet. I really see people talking and talking nonsense, and I see Bodhisattva divining.

Now he has become silent, never taking the initiative to speak, and it is inevitable to answer a few words.

My cousin used to be a nightclub prince, but he never saw him every day. He always appears at major parties.

This time, my cousin didn't want to come to an ordinary family dinner, but my aunt dragged him over.

When eating, my cousin may be afraid of being the center. He chose the corner and ate alone with a straight face.

My former cousin was lively and cheerful, never informal, careless, playful and often mischievous.

Now he has become a frightened bird. He can take a joke seriously and arouse emotions.

My former cousin is Lao Zi, who has nothing to hide. You love what you do, never care about other people's opinions, and scoff at their kindness.

Now, my cousin really wants everyone to say to him, "Prison is a new life. You can still be a hero in the future. "

At the same time, I also hope to have a sincere friend around me, don't ask about the past, just talk about the present, treat each other sincerely and sincerely.

My former cousin can't be described as sloppy. He never brushes his teeth or folds the quilt.

Now he will take the initiative to do housework, let his aunt teach him to cook, make tea for his aunt and wash his feet.

Recalling so many psychological changes of my cousin, I finally understand why we have offended him.

First of all:

On the first day of my cousin's release from prison, at the "invitation banquet", my father criticized my cousin as if he had taught him a lesson, so that he would never be impulsive and stupid again.

At that time, my cousin's face suddenly turned white and red, and it was embarrassing to stand there.

Then others didn't say anything, and tacitly avoided the topic of imprisonment. Only my dad was "stupid" and took a "political lesson".

Second:

The day after my cousin was released from prison, relatives and friends invited my cousin to be a guest, but our family didn't invite my cousin.

Although my cousin doesn't like parties, he wants to be respected. The behavior of our family made him think that our family was too snobbish.

So cousin naturally doesn't want to associate with us, and menstruation is eager to protect her son. She doesn't care about her former goodness, but only cares about her son's happiness.

After I understood it, I told my parents about it, and I specially invited the menstruation family to visit me.

My aunt couldn't refuse to come at first, but at my repeated invitation, she agreed to come over for dinner.

After returning home, I asked my mother to buy a lot of good dishes. I took out my housekeeping skills and made eight dishes and one soup.

In the evening, my aunt and they came, and my mother quickly greeted them to eat fruit, eat snacks and chat at home.

When I put all the dishes together, my father asked everyone to eat. As soon as I saw it, my cousin really chose the corner position again.

At the dinner table, my father poured wine for my cousin, but my cousin refused. He said that he had given up drinking.

Because the knot has not been untied, the atmosphere of the whole table is very low, and everyone has no communication, just burying their heads in dry rice.

I've been paying attention to my cousin's situation. When they had almost eaten, I suddenly stood up: "Aunt, cousin, we are close relatives and have been getting along well, but recently you suddenly ignored us." We want to know why? " We don't want some misunderstandings to affect our feelings. Can you tell us the reason? "

My aunt was a little embarrassed and angry, but my cousin looked down and said nothing.

For a long time, my aunt said bitterly, "Brother and sister-in-law, I also know that you have helped me a lot over the years. You should know that I have been looking forward to Kuna's return. This is my greatest wish.

But after my Kuner came back, you seemed to dislike him in every way, and looked down upon him in every way. It was as if my Kuner had made a sinner through the ages and always carried the label of "criminal".

Outsiders give us a dirty look, and we admit it, because society is like this. But you are his uncle, aunt and cousin. Why don't you like Kuner?

My Kuner has no sense of security, so I'm sorry. I'm afraid of being pointed at when I go out. What he needs most now is the affirmation and encouragement of his relatives. Do you think it's right for you to hit someone when he's down? "

After listening to my aunt, it's our turn to be embarrassed. To tell the truth, we never looked down on my cousin, and my father "educated" my cousin for his own good, but we didn't know that he had done bad things with good intentions.

My father quickly explained to my aunt, but her aunt didn't agree with my father's "kindness". Mother and son agreed that our family had "bad intentions".

Alas, shooting yourself in the foot, after a hard afternoon, still failed to change the situation of the two families, and finally broke up in discord.

Write it at the back:

Fortunately, my cousin has only been in prison for three years, and not many people have derailed from society. People who have been in prison for more than ten years or decades will be more anxious and uncomfortable after coming out.

Because no matter who you are before you go to prison, people will look at people who have been in prison differently after you get out of prison.

For example, 80% companies don't need people who have been in prison, and they can only be forced to do coolies or dirty and tired jobs that others don't want to do.

Even if others don't mean to belittle him, people in prison will feel that others are malicious to him.

If the poor go to the rich, the rich teach the poor how to drink red wine and how to cut steak. Although the rich have good intentions, the poor will think that the rich are deliberately fooling him and laughing at his ignorance.

In other words, whether we are sarcastic or not, in the eyes of people who have been in prison, we just despise him. They "voluntarily" are inferior, which is equivalent to the truth that "the second marriage is worthless".

Therefore, people who like impulsive crimes can think for three seconds before impulsive and ask themselves, "Is it worth it?" "Will I regret doing this?" I heard that this is procrastination, which can reduce the occurrence of crimes and contradictions.

Otherwise, the wife may become someone else's, parents become cattle and horses, friends become rich, and younger brothers become leaders.

And they, who used to have unlimited scenery, have now become "street rats", which is a big loss!

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