Why are the girls in A Dream of Red Mansions so arrogant?

Isn't the status of girls in feudal society relatively low? In a dream of red mansions, according to that standard, are the girls very arrogant?

The former actors of Fangguan and Ouguan should have a low social status at that time, and staying in Jiafu as a servant girl would not be particularly high. However, why are Baoyu and the big girl xiren tolerant everywhere?

As a "grandfather", Jia Lian is also very respectful to Yuanyang and so on, calling her sister and so on. Isn't the hierarchy in Ming and Qing dynasties very strict?

The maids were arrogant because of their master's acquiescence. Why did the master acquiesce? This is divided into two aspects.

First of all, the master's forgiveness

You know, Jia's public office is not much better than those of small families. Their wives have some unwritten codes of conduct, which is what Zhihu called "political correctness". Specifically reflected in:

1, believe in Buddhism, be lenient, poor and weak.

2, the lady does not take money, approachable.

3, will not show great obsession with material, will not get good things in the collection.

Older family members who have served their parents are more decent than younger masters. ...

This is almost a "style".

We should know that this kind of family generally gives people the impression that "Houmen and the government will oppress people with power", but they are not high-profile, and this contrast will get the highest evaluation from outsiders. Whether they are really tolerant and compassionate is another matter. (Comments say that this is the self-cultivation of the giants, and it is true. What is discussed here may be more about the psychological subtext of this cultivation. )

Under the influence of this environment, the status of maids has generally improved. Needless to say, the maids closest to the top of the pyramid (Yuanyang, Pinger, Xiren, etc.). ) is equivalent to the secretary of the president in the enterprise. No matter how high their administrative level is, they are the people who can talk to their masters best, so naturally no one dares to look down on them. Other second-and third-rate maids and even little girls benefit from the big environment, and their lives are much more moist than those of girls outside, just like flowers in a greenhouse. Being driven out of Jia's house will kill them.

Second, the ability of the servant girl.

Even if the Jia family is tolerant, the maids are too abrasive to get such a high position. All the maids in Jia's family came from big waves and washed sand. They were not given for nothing, and they all had some advantages.

For example, if you have certain professional skills, such as Qingwen, there will be a difficult boundary. I remember Aaron asked Xiangyun to help make shoes. Xiangyun said, "This is strange again. You have these talented people at home, how can you teach me to do it? " "Jia Fu wench professional skills.

For example, almost all of them are smart (silly elder sister is a special case). Even the attacker Musk Moon is "stupid", but have you ever seen them do stupid things? We can see what others are like. Why was Xiao Hong frustrated in Yuan? Because Baoyu is surrounded by a bunch of "sharp-tongued claws", even a smart person like Xiaohong can't intervene. Let's not talk about the flat attack on purple flowers. Even a little girl like Xueyan and Aunt Zhao borrowed clothes from her. Her correct answer is surprising. So Xi-feng said, "I don't know, let alone my concubine, but our maid is better than others'. "

In addition, the arrogance of maids is actually within the scope allowed by the rules, but from the perspective of foreigners, their arrogance will not be seen. When foreigners come, for example, when Daiyu first entered the Jia family, the maids are all "silent, respectful and strict"; For example, when Granny Liu first entered Jia's house, she heard that Xifeng was "completely ignorant" of eating there. For example, Jia Yun entered Baoyu's room, Aroma poured tea herself, and so on. This is the embodiment of a good servant's basic professional quality.

Therefore, what Jia Mu said about Baoyu can also be used to describe these maids: "We know that children of people like you and me, because of their quirks, are bound to be treated with formal courtesy when they meet strangers. If he doesn't reciprocate, he won't be allowed to play tricks. Adults spoil him, first, because he is naturally likable, and second, because he thinks others are better behaved than adults and makes people look cute and pitiful, he gives him a little behind his back. If he just doesn't care about anything and doesn't win glory with adults, he should be killed by how he was born. "

1, about housing management. Fang Guan, are these little players very arrogant? It's really arrogant Is Baoyu xiren patient? Not necessarily. In other words, this is not a kind of tolerance, but I don't care and don't want to be serious with her.

Fang Guan and the Champions League, these people are all actors, and they turned to be maids in the middle. About players, there is a fat batch in the eighteenth round:

According to the recent statement, "it is better to raise a soldier for a thousand days than to play." Guy even said that actors can't keep them. Generally speaking, this person in Class One has a slightly outstanding technical background, but this person puts on airs and manages all kinds of abominations, so that the host has to give up his responsibilities one by one. Although he wants to be pitiful, he can't help being pitiful. Although he wants to love or not, he can't help loving. There are many disciples in Yuli Liyuan, all of which are natural. I also talked with my brothers who used to raise pear orchards. Everyone knows about it, but they can't say anything. Today, I watched The Story of the Stone and The Original Play was not my own, so I insisted on not doing it. It can be seen that his bullying can overwhelm the public, and his jealousy is full of papers. When I return to "Wu Li Xiang Ting", I will tell the whole story, and I will be exposed on paper with the people I witnessed thirty years ago.

It can be seen that it is very common for actors to put on airs and dominate the market. The novel also says that they can't knit sweaters and wait on their masters, so they don't know much about the rules of being a girl. As for the attitude of the gentlemen in Jia's house towards these pear fragrance court players, we can see a passage Tanchun said. Back to the sixtieth:

Tanchun said, "Those little girls are stubborn and like it. Let's have a laugh with him. You can ignore him if you don't like it. Even if he is ill, he will scratch and bite like a cat and dog. If you forgive him, you should also call the housekeeper and daughter-in-law to punish him. Why don't you respect yourself and drink too much?

Therefore, even if these players are arrogant, their owners will not bother to punish them, let alone Baoyu, who is the best for his servants.

About calling my sister.

Post an original paragraph first:

Lin zhixiao's wife smiled again: "What Mr. Zhong said has changed these days, and all these big girls are rushing to call names. Although in this room, no matter the old lady or the wife, you should show some respect. If I occasionally shout for help for a while, if I just shout, I am afraid that my brothers and nephews will do the same in the future, which will make people laugh and say that people in this family have no vision for their elders. " Baoyu said with a smile, "Mom said. I am only a moment and a half. " Aroma Qingwen said with a smile, "Don't be wronged. Up to now, his sister has never left her mouth. However, when you are stubborn, calling your name is also half a voice. If you are in front of people, it is the same as before. " Lin Zhixiao's family smiled and said, "That's good. This is the way to learn and be polite. The more humble, the more respectful, not to mention the Chen of the three or five generations. Now it's all transferred from the old lady's house, that is, the old lady's cats and dogs, which are easy to hurt him. This is what a well-trained son should do. "

This passage is very telling, which not only shows that Baoyu wants to call xiren and others his sisters, but also shows the status of these old servants of Jia's family from generation to generation. At home in the evening, Baoyu must get up to meet him, and he will listen to everything the Lins say.

In fact, I think that the young master respects the servant girl as a sister and the old servant as a mother, which is the embodiment of strict hierarchy, which is based on the premise that the younger generation is very respectful and humble to the elders. In addition, it is also because of the upbringing of the extended family. Back to the code of conduct mentioned above, young master can't brag about his identity. If he is a little arrogant, then private discussion of the inferior people is indispensable. If you fall into the eyes of your elders, you will feel uneducated. Don't you see, Daiyu, who is aloof and arrogant, is not as popular as Baochai, and the girls are bound to talk behind her back. 360 days a year, the wind and sword are threatening. But in fact, Daiyu is very enthusiastic about others, which is beside the point.