What should I do if I am nervous at the meeting? How to overcome it?

I think it is a process that everyone must go through, and I am no exception. Now even if I speak in front of hundreds of people, I will not feel nervous, because I have learned a method of psychological self-suggestion.

First of all, let's talk about how people feel when they are nervous. In my memory, I went to a speech contest for the first time when I was in college. At that time, my body was stiff, my mind was blank, and my hands and feet were shaking in front of everyone. "At that time, what I thought in my heart was if I said something wrong, would I be laughed at by everyone?" I stood on the stage that time without accident, having forgotten the content of my speech, I stood on the stage for two minutes and then came down.

In the next few months, I kept reading books about speeches, and I took part in every competition. Slowly, I found my own speech skills.

First, be fully prepared

Whether it is a meeting or a speech, if you are not prepared for what you want to say, you will definitely be nervous. You should prepare what you want to say in advance.

second, practice

if you want to be not nervous during the meeting, you should keep practicing. I just practice speaking in front of the mirror for half an hour every day to see my expression and movements when I speak.

3. Speak with a shared mind

Why do you say this? Because when you share your things with others, your mood will not be so tense. If you aim at the competition, the competition pressure will be enough to turn your mind into a blank. When sharing, I feel that what I said today can help a person, and that is a good harvest. These are the three points. If you do it, I believe you won't be nervous at the meeting.

As a doctor, we often have to face the handover of meetings, public speaking to discuss the illness, and going out for communication. You have to make a slide presentation, and we often meet this opportunity to speak at meetings.

I have rich experience in this field, whether for professional reasons or personal reasons. First of all, I want to tell you that as an ordinary person, it is very normal to be nervous in a meeting, because no matter how well prepared we are, we can't predict the reaction of others to our speech, which will bring us an invisible pressure, which will cause the light person's voice to float, his hands to tremble and his expression to be unnatural. In severe cases, there will be palpitation, shaking hands, wanting to go to the toilet, and even some people will feel like defecation. If you are afraid of socializing and speaking anytime and anywhere, it may be social phobia.

here are a few tips to help you get through this tense period, which can alleviate this anxiety before speaking.

firstly, before speaking, we should make a comprehensive combing and memorizing of all our contents, and practice it several times at home. First, we should read it to people close to us, and ask them to point out the shortcomings of our speech, so as to accurately grasp the time of each speech, so as not to panic when something happens.

Secondly, when you are on the stage, you should keep one. We can give ourselves some positive hints. It is a great thing that you were able to speak in public.

Third, you can have a simulated practice of your upcoming speech by deep breathing and meditation before speaking. Psychologically, this is called gradual exposure, slow simulation, and a scene simulation in which you enter the venue-it's your turn to speak, which can gradually alleviate your temporary nervousness.

Fourthly, if you feel that you are not so afraid to make eye contact with others, you can focus on the audience who feel that you are friendly to you, and then gain your confidence through their positive feedback. If you can't find an acquaintance at the scene, you can find a fixed focus, then think about where your eyes are, and then give yourself a psychological hint, so that you won't be affected by the expressions of people around you.

Fifth, our nervousness in speaking may still be due to our lack of preparation. If you feel that your performance is not good enough and the content of your speech is not good enough, don't be discouraged. When you go home, you can ask others to listen to your video recordings over and over again, find out your own gaps and practice more.

There is a book called Repeated Practice, which means that you have to practice everything repeatedly, and you won't be nervous when you are very skilled. For example, if you are told to count from 1 to 1 in public, it is estimated that you won't be so nervous.

When speaking in front of everyone, it is a psychological problem (poor psychological quality) to feel shy or uncomfortable. If you are not confident, you have a lot of scruples, and you are afraid of the other person or the gas field, you will have psychological obstacles. In fact, everyone can understand this psychological situation.

Then how to improve or exercise one's natural confidence in speaking in front of people or one's ability to speak? That is, one must first stabilize one's psychology and not be influenced by the other party or occasion.

The following methods are used for reference: 1. When we speak in front of people, we must be confident, {speak loudly, from the abdomen}, and our hands also have synchronous and natural movements.

Second, you should let go of your mind and relax your movements. Don't restrain yourself from some habits of speaking. Look straight ahead or at each other with your eyes clear.

Third, when you meet a stranger or unfamiliar scene, you should adopt a familiar attitude or vision, that is, hint or adjust it psychologically.

Fourth, in front of people who are afraid or in the gas field, we should despise each other psychologically. In front of big people, psychology is regarded as a person or a single person.

5. Open your mind, stress your language, be firm, cheerful and positive. If you pay attention to your thoughts and psychology under the stage and worry about this and that, that is the pressure and tension you give yourself. If your mind and mind pay attention to yourself and imply that you are the only one performing, and there is no audience or only one audience. Then it is a free play and a relaxed feeling. This is self-regulation, and there is a good way to do it. To separate you from the audience below means that you are you, and the audience is observing. You concentrate your thoughts and ideas and do a good job of yourself. The audience is their business, not yours, so you don't have to bother about it. Be open-minded, optimistic, positive and confident in your own psychology and mentality. Don't input bad emotions and panic into yourself.

In a word, don't think about anything, and don't worry about the preparatory work that will begin, and the process and results.

dry goods

(to answer a question, first get to the bottom of it, then let the implied meaning of the question surface, and then prescribe the right medicine to solve the problem).

this nervous problem is really a conditioned reflex.

Give an example

1. On the wedding day, the groom's official goes to pick up the bride. It is customary for the bride to wear a corsage and the groom to wear a ring to the bride. Many places have this ritual. When the flowers were put on, everyone asked for thanks. The groom said, "It's the first time I got married. I have no experience and I don't know what to say." Touch your head: "Thank you!"

2. At the dinner party, you are required to accompany the guests for dinner. As a result, I ate Hesse and forgot the guests. Remind your family, why don't you be humble and humble to your guests? As a result, people stood up and drank "eat well and drink well". Then I was embarrassed for ten seconds, rubbed my hands and sat down, and began to bury my head in eating again.

3. On the podium, everyone had planned to read the manuscript slowly, but as a result, a phrase worthy of appreciation caused a ringing sound. After clapping and cheering, he blushed, his neck was thick and his heart beat faster. My eyes are wandering, I can't read the words, and I can't get rid of the manuscript. I have left one and right one, and I forgot what I should say, but I can't find what I should read.

4. At the meeting, opinions and suggestions had already been prepared. When I saw the presiding leader with a face of lost face, my opinions were just the same as the former's speech. When I arrived at myself, I felt uneasy. I didn't know whether to agree or stick to myself.

5. In life, knowing that you have been wronged or misunderstood, you are anxious but nervous, and you don't know how to speak. Where to start?

In this way, the reason why we are nervous in front of many things is not that we are timid, but that the surrounding living environment has portrayed a new concept, a new atmosphere and new ideas for us. Arranged an exciting scene for us and created an atmosphere of awakening. Let us fall into meditation and confusion for a while, and we need to integrate brain information and sort out spiritual ideas. The brain receives a lot of information in the same place at the same time, and if it is overloaded, it will be in a hurry and be at a loss for a short time.

However, the brain also has a memory function, and everyone has a memory. We can make a simple simulation scene at the beginning of something. For example, if you want to make a speech, remember an outline of the speech category and an emergency plan in advance. If you are nervous, you can take a look and comfort yourself. For another example, if you need to read the manuscript, you should take time to read it several times in advance, and mark it with marks you can understand while you are familiar with it, so as to achieve the effect of "playing with the manuscript in your palm". In addition, if you can't make a sound in the meeting and can't pronounce words clearly, you can recite poems as you like in your daily life (I want to recite a poem at this moment) or hum a little tune with emotion. You can achieve the effect of being able to put it away freely in crowded places and be able to speak and write.

nervousness is mostly caused by self-distrust, so you should improve your self-confidence. I suggest that you prepare the contents of the meeting more before the meeting, and consolidate them several times to reach a particularly familiar level, so that you won't get stuck when you speak, avoid embarrassment and be less nervous. Secondly, you should take part in more group activities to enhance your ability to speak in the presence of many people.

don't feel pressure during the meeting, because since you can speak at the meeting, it proves that you are one of the strongest in the room. They are all your younger brothers. What are you afraid of?

First, you are not confident, and there is no problem in the speeches, which will increase your confidence. Encourage yourself in your heart and tell yourself that you can do it. It's just a small speech.

second, you are inexperienced, and you will get used to it after a few more times. If you have more times, sometimes you even throw away all the preparation materials, so you won't be nervous when you speak directly.

Third, those people in the audience put pressure on you. I saw a good way in this movie. Think of them as a group of children who worship you. This speech you made is something they can't do and admire.

fourth, if none of the above works, it is basically that you are too introverted in your own personality, try to communicate more, and even go to the stall to distribute leaflets or something.

5. If this behavior improvement doesn't work, then I can only take out my secret recipe from my family to make you feel less nervous from your physiological essence, but you can't tell it outside. I won't tell him about this ordinary person from my family. Promise me that you won't tell anyone, and you will pull down a little to see the formula.

secret recipe: if you can't drink well, just prepare two bottles of beer or a glass of white wine. If you can drink well, drink 3% of your drunken limit half an hour before your speech. When you give a speech, you will find that, don't say that the speech is now the chairman's arrival, and you dare to go hand in hand with him as brothers.

First of all, nervousness is often due to self-abasement. I am afraid that I can't play well, and I am very concerned about what others think of me. I am more and more insecure, more and more afraid, less and less confident in myself, and I don't even believe in myself. I am sure that I will have no confidence when I speak. If you want to overcome nervousness, you need to pay attention to the following points.

first, keep a normal heart. There are surprises and helplessness everywhere in life, so it is very necessary to keep a normal heart. Normal mind is a kind of psychological state that is not influenced by feelings, not drawn by fame and fortune, understands the essence of things and is completely realistic. If you think about it, it's just a speech. Even if I don't speak well, what can I do? What will I lose at worst? After you figure this out, at least you won't be afraid to express your ideas.

second, you can go further by letting go of your baggage. Life is like walking. The more things you carry, the more tired you get. Li Bai rode a fine horse and galloped on the ancient road of official career, but the darkness of officialdom cooled his blood. He read meanness in Gao Lishi's gaffes, sinister in Yang Guifei's charming smile, and groggy in Tang Minghuang's eyes. He is sober, and would rather spend all his money to get drunk than be a royal scholar. Therefore, he hid the ideal of "securing the world and helping the poor", put down the burden of unsuccessful career and handed himself over to nature. Wine into the intestines, three points into moonlight, seven points into shock wave, a stroke of a pen is half of the Tang Dynasty. He and his friends "share the eternal sorrow" in nature, leaving a beautiful poem in history. It was Li Bai who dared to let go of his burden, and there was an outstanding poet in history. So what is the burden that makes you timid and nervous in front of everyone? It's nothing more than other people's opinions. Don't care about other people's eyes. Everyone's expectations are different, and no one will know everything about you, do what you should do and say what you should say. Don't let other people's eyes become a stumbling block to you. Maybe your opinions are just to the point. You know, you and others are just a member of all sentient beings, and there is nothing special about them.

the third and most important point is to make some preparations before the meeting. Everything is established in advance, and it is abolished if it is not foreseen. If you don't know what the meeting will discuss and do some proper research, how can you answer the questions raised by the boss? Nervousness is inevitable. Usually, you should communicate with your colleagues more, understand the market of your own line, and read more books to increase your knowledge reserve and ability to deal with problems.

reading

First of all, you should have self-confidence, second, you should be fully prepared for your speech, and finally, the content of your speech should be convincing, shocking and friendly. Otherwise, you will be nervous. What are you nervous about? Afraid of embarrassing myself.

watch the movie, the king's speech.

I spread my words carefully, laugh and soothe my nerves, get to the point, and speak fluently. I don't digress from the topic, but I spit it out freely, and everyone praised me and gave me an example.