Why do parents always say that children are useless?

College entrance examination failed in the first year, the second year and the third year. I spent three years playing with my classmates for one year. When I graduated from Peking University, there were 50 students in my class, and I was the fifth from the bottom, but my grades did not prevent me from making my own career.

People's growth is a lifelong matter, and it is definitely not determined by your grades in primary school or university. Grades are very important for children, but you can't think that children are worthless just because their grades are low.

Ask parents to change the criteria for judging success.

A child's high score is one of the criteria for success, but it should never be regarded as an inevitable criterion, let alone the only criterion.

Otherwise, your child will be hurt countless times, because there is only one first place in any exam.

If there are 40 students in a class, are all the other 39 children idiots except the first one? Are all losers? Absolutely not!

So I have a self-deprecating remark: in fact, the first is not easy, because he walked very hard. Looking ahead, no one chased him. Looking back, the whole class is chasing themselves, chasing themselves half dead, and there is nothing to fight for the first place.

How happy you are to be the last one. Looking ahead, they are all half-dead people who are chasing themselves. When you look back, no one is chasing you. How chic do you think this life is!

Of course, this view can't be told to children. You must learn how to encourage children. This exam is the last time, and I will encourage him to take it for the second time next time. He got 20 points this time, and I will encourage him to get 30 points next time. Don't talk about your children. He got 60 points this time. You tell him not to go into the house unless he gets 90 points next time.

If you say so, of course, some children will study hard, but some children will not get 90 points even if they work hard. what should he do ？ Did you really let him in? You must let him in. If you let him into the house, it means that you have broken your promise. The children will know later. My parents don't keep their promises, and I won't care anymore. Anyway, he won't stop me from entering the house, so my parents were stabbed by the children.

Therefore, parents must remember one thing, never let their children eat you, and never give anything they want.

For example, if a child loves McDonald's, you can take it as a temptation and promise to take him to McDonald's if he takes the 10 exam, and then add the child's score bit by bit. For example, if your child gets 60 points, you must never say that you will get 90 points next time, or scold your child.

You have to tell the child that 60 points is good enough. Can you get 70 points next time? I don't compare with your classmates. I only see that you are better today than yesterday, and tomorrow will be better. The child's score will go up imperceptibly.

Every time he goes up, you should encourage him.

When the score is low, tell the child that it may be an accidental mistake. Mom and dad support you, don't hurt your child's enthusiasm for learning.