Social barriers? Teach you how to communicate with others.

Teach you how to communicate with others.

1. Little things, humorously.

In particular, some kind reminders, told with jokes, will not make listeners feel stiff, they will not only accept your reminders, but also enhance their intimacy.

2. It's urgent. Speak slowly.

In an emergency, if you can calm down and think, and then explain things clearly, you will leave a stable and impulsive impression on the listener, thus increasing others' trust in you.

Don't talk nonsense about what didn't happen.

People hate people who make a fuss. If you never speculate or talk nonsense, others will think you are mature, educated and responsible.

If you are not sure, say it carefully.

If you don't say you are uncertain, others will think you are hypocritical; If you can say it carefully, people will think you are a trustworthy person.

5. Don't say hurtful things.

Don't hurt others easily with words, especially between close people. Don't say anything that hurts others. This will make them feel that you are a kind person and help to maintain and enhance their feelings.

6. Don't talk nonsense about what you can't do.

As the saying goes, "Without Jin Gangzuan, don't make porcelain". If you don't easily promise what you can't do, the listener will think that you are a "trustworthy" person and willing to believe you.

7. Be careful about other people's business.

Everyone needs a safe distance, and not commenting and spreading other people's things easily will give people a sense of security.

8. Don't tell others when you are sad.

When people are sad, they all have the desire to talk, but if they talk to each other, it is easy for the listener to have too much psychological pressure, which will lead to doubt and alienation from you. At the same time, it will give people the impression that they don't think about others and want to pass on the pain to others.

9. Listen more and talk less about your elders.

Older people often don't like young people to comment too much on their own affairs. When young people talk a lot, they think you are not a modest, studious and respectful person.

10. Do your own thing and listen to what others say.

Listening to outsiders' views on their own affairs can give people a modest impression; Second, it will make people think that you are a sensible person.

1, enlighten the child and say

Especially adolescent children, they are very rebellious. Taking a gentle and firm attitude to enlighten them can not only make them like you, make friends with you, but also play a role in persuasion.

12, husband and wife, discuss and say

What couples are most afraid of is blaming each other when things happen, and discussing with each other has the function of "affection", which can enhance the feelings of husband and wife.

13. Establish the concept of equality.

The so-called "gregarious" is to maintain equal contact and get along with others through psychological compatibility, which is also commonly known as "getting along". Therefore, if you want to "fit in" with others, you must first be able to treat others equally, regardless of rank. If you think they are vulgar, lack of self-cultivation, have a low level of education, look down on them, and don't touch them on any occasion, it is the unequal psychology at work. That will only lead to alienation and confrontation. In fact, a person who looks down on others is bound to be looked down upon or even spurned. Therefore, when you don't like other people's lifestyles or habits, you'd better respect them and treat them as equals. Never despise them, and don't think that associating with people lower than yourself is detrimental to your dignity. In fact, "the friendship between cloth and clothes" is the most intimate, reliable and beneficial to yourself.

14. Learn to be interested in each other.

Alfred adler, a famous Austrian psychologist, once said: "People who are not interested in others encounter the most difficulties in their lives and hurt others the most." That's the truth. You won't "blend in" with people you're not interested in. Because not being interested will lead to emotional estrangement. Once the feelings are alienated, there will be barriers, which will make you more and more isolated. You will lose the care and help of others and become an insignificant loner. Therefore, to get rid of loneliness and "fit in" with others, we must learn to be sincere and show great enthusiasm and concern for others from some aspects of life. For example, pay attention to each other's life and work and see if there is any need for help; Remember each other's birthdays and say "Happy Birthday to you". Don't forget to say "congratulations" when the other party makes achievements or is promoted; When the other person encounters something unsatisfactory or natural or man-made disasters, he should express comfort, and so on. In this way, frequent contact will enhance understanding and compatibility, and the other party will feel that you have always kept him in mind, will be grateful to you and will take the initiative to contact you.

15. Be good at respecting and understanding each other.

"Understanding can win people's hearts." In interpersonal communication, understanding is the basis of communication, and only by fully understanding each other can we live in harmony. Of course, understanding is based on mutual respect. Without respect, there is no understanding or even misinterpretation. To respect others, we must first respect their opinions. All the people who can say it are netizens. Being able to give advice in person is a sign of mutual understanding and trust, and only true friends can speak freely. So we should be good at listening to each other's opinions and learn from each other's strengths. Only in this way can our communication become deeper and deeper. Secondly, we should respect the living habits of others. A person's living habits are formed from childhood, which is the result of family education and surrounding environment. A person's habits are hard to change. A person's living habits are not directly related to society and others, but are determined by his different temperament. Generally speaking, what kind of temperament will lead to what kind of living habits. Therefore, respecting others' living habits means respecting others' personality. Throughout the ages, no one can "get along well" with people who have insulted their personality.