20 17-04-02 "Funny Bu"; "once a week"; Swearing; Can I read in the middle class?

"Okay, I'll finish the task. You said "pull, pull, pull radish" too fast. This is my latest mantra, which I learned from the cartoon Octopus. Every time I say this, my children and I will naturally speed up together.

Children are easy to accept simple and repetitive language.

Because of the influence of living environment, my little niece often hears the advertisement of "buying a car". Sometimes when she goes up the stairs, she mumbles: buy a new car, buy a good car, buy a car ... while reading a book, she shakes her toys like a scalper shouting for tickets. That sound is real magic.

Some time ago, in order to keep the children in step after school, I made up some words while holding their hands: children hold hands, don't run around after school, put their hands together and remember to ride safely. This is really effective for coordinating the pace of two active children.

Talking to children requires a language that children can understand. Simple as it is, sometimes we forget it easily.

Two days ago, I heard a father say to his crying son in the car, "You are three years old, so you should be able to distinguish right from wrong." The father lectured his son a lot and poured out his mother's bitter water. Dad has a single instruction; While the child was unconscious, he tried to endure sobs, and at the same time he suddenly felt deeply wronged and croaked twice. Father and son are interacting, but they are not at a crossroads at all.

1, Funny Bu

Just after picking up the children from school, I heard them ask each other: "Is it fun?" There is such a dialogue in the car: Tintin asks Doudou: "Come, do you ask me if I am funny?" Doudou asked, "Is it funny?" Tintin shook his head and said, "It's not funny." And smiled. Next, Doudou will ask Tintin, "Do you ask me if I am funny?" Tintin asked, "Is it funny?" Doudou pretended not to answer, and then said, "It's not funny!" " "Tintin said," Now you ask me. " Doudou asked, "Is it funny?" Ding Ding said: "Fart". ? laugh ...

Humor? They enjoyed it, and both of them tried to make different reactions. This ratio is different from the previous follow-up and blind repetition. And this theme is "funny"? It seems that I sent it. I learned it from my niece again. It is a great honor to participate in the interactive session of children's catchwords.

I want to use this "funny Bob" to test their views on humor. Originally, they were unmoved by this sentence. Nobody laughed at what I said. Now this sentence is a joke!

Reminder:

In collective life, the same language is also a display of life intimacy. A class often has one or two popular words, and a small group may even create their own language. When I lip-synched with my best friend in middle school, I knew what he said, which is not difficult for people who have experienced it. I also heard a middle school student's parents share her experience. Her children have reached the point where they refuse to communicate with her. Some time ago, the movie "Warcraft" was released, and she used this time to understand what Warcraft is all about. After returning home, she told the child that the child patted her on the shoulder and said, "You followed the trend." That night, they discussed a lot about Warcraft. I think having the same language and specific forms of communication with children will increase the intimacy with children. Have you ever thought about what kind of communication you have with your children?

2. Once a week

When it comes to specific forms of communication, holding family meetings with children is an easy way to promote. Meet the children? Yes, more accurately, it is to discuss with children and encourage them to express their views and ideas. How to hold this meeting? There are many forms to try. However, the first thing is: drive. Last time I discussed with them, "What should I do if both of them want to play with this toy?" ? ",and then they will really implement my suggestion. So I decided to have a meeting once a week. This week's theme is: how to protect yourself on the road. " I started with a story and a question to encourage them to express their views. They can really express their views this time: they should hold the hands of adults; Don't cross the road by yourself; You can't run alone There are also some very innovative sayings, such as greeting the driver's uncle and telling him to stop when he sees the child and let the child pass first. These are all put forward by themselves, and I am responsible for writing them down. The meeting ended in a warm and friendly atmosphere. Maybe what else do I need to do next? The chapter on family meetings in positive discipline should be introduced in detail.

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There are not only forms of getting along with small groups, but also forms of getting along with mother and son, father and son. As far as I know, Tintin's father will take Tintin to play badminton at a fixed time. If this activity persists, it will become a permanent memory of children. I once heard from my tutor how he solved the problem of getting along with children when he was busy at work. One of them is the concrete activities between them. Every time he goes back, he will definitely take his children to play table tennis and help him solve the difficulties in life in the process of playing. When children play table tennis, they will think of their father. This fixed pattern became their bond.

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The word "Doudou" suddenly appeared, which startled us. "Fuck" sounds like an adult. We all want to know where this sentence comes from. Dad said he learned it from mom, and mom said he learned it from dad. In short, adults think they have never said this. Then, both sides can hear the word from each other's mouth. It turns out that we will inadvertently say something, and we will not realize that we have said it.

I realized that the problem was me. First of all, apologize to the child. I said, "I found that you said" fuck "and learned it from us. This is very impolite, and sometimes my mother will speak ill of me. I don't want to talk about it either. If you hear what mom said, you tell me at once and I will correct it. "

The child seems to understand, but let him supervise his mother's performance. He understands and he is willing to do it.

Then I made a performance ball. Anyone who curses will throw a red ball into the performance ball.

The ball was not thrown much, and both of them were willing to take the initiative to correct it.

One day, Doudou suddenly asked me, Mom, are you saying that mom and mom are not good? "

I said yes. At the same time, it reminds me that he still doesn't understand the meaning of this mantra, but just uses it blindly.

He learned this sentence from us, so we have a chance to set an example. Children are really mirrors of adults. Taking children as a mirror, first of all, adults should correct their image of Byakki Smoker. What if children learn something from other places? If it doesn't hurt, I think it's better to ignore the child's expression as far as possible and not to strengthen it. It will disappear naturally after a while.

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By the age of four or five, children seem to have a concentrated outbreak of swearing. Smell, fart, shit and so on. Adults don't like to hear such words, and they are very worried and say, "What's wrong with this child? What went wrong? " Our worries are normal, but it will be a bit narrow to draw a line between children and society by using the word "not learning well" unless children are put in a vacuum. I have heard with my own ears that children will say something to each other that adults think is indecent, and some are about sex. In fact, they don't understand what this means, and sometimes they just want to share something new with their friends. But why so exciting? I can't make it clear in one or two sentences. The whole psychology is studying it. People have two themes: one is life and death, and the other is sex.

Swearing, from the perspective of psychoanalysis, is that the baby is not satisfied during oral sex; From the sensitive period, it may also be that children have begun to enter the language sensitive period; From the perspective of psychological growth, swearing is a manifestation of children's language rights. In a word, swearing by children is a common phenomenon, not an individual phenomenon. Properly handled, these sudden swearing words will disappear unconsciously. If forced to stop, it may cause other psychological problems because of being suppressed. The way to correct it should be adapted to local conditions.

Small survey:

Can middle-class children start reading? I have long wanted to read to my children, but I can't predict the consequences? Some people say that the sooner children study, the better, and the sooner they form habits, the better they will be cultivated! Some people say that children can't read early, and once they read, it will destroy the important stage of graphic cognition and perception. I tried to read to my child, and he followed it like a play, but it didn't last long. I gave up without knowing a few words. I don't think I can continue studying like this, so I don't continue. Why don't I do some research first? How old did your child start reading? What do you think is the effective method?

Please say what you think. I will investigate the literacy classes in the market and make a special report combining everyone's opinions and my own way! :))