Three articles on the awakening of happiness

For a long time recently, I have been very painful and sad. I can even shed tears while looking at the water glass in a daze. However, I have discovered in my tears many truths that I knew before. Now I understand them more deeply, and my tears also make me cry. It’s not considered white flow. The title I wrote at the beginning was painful discovery. I always felt it was too pessimistic and lacked sunshine. But when I thought about it from another perspective, it was the awakening of happiness! Only after experiencing pain will you know how difficult it is to be happy, and only then will you know how to obtain happiness.

One thing: Don’t try to be the protagonist in someone else’s life movie.

I saw this passage when I was in high school. It probably means that in everyone’s life movie, he is the only protagonist. You should not try to be the protagonist in someone else’s movie and stumble until, in the end, You will find that in other people's world, you will always be a supporting role, your efforts will be meaningless struggles, and in the end, you will be the one suffering. People in love always like to ask each other, do you love me? You are afraid that the other person does not love you enough and feels that the other person is not good enough to you. Love is like forcing entry into another person's world. If you love him, you want to be half of the other person's life, or even more. This is irrational behavior, but people often enjoy it. Love is always the nemesis of reason. Some people also call their lover their other half. In fact, I think this is also an extremely wrong idea. You will never become someone else’s other half. Two independent people and independent thoughts cannot completely merge into one. This requirement itself is Unreasonable. When you want to forcefully enter his whole world, when you have too much hope for him, what you get is often disappointment and sad tears. We have to act in our own movies and live our own lives well.

Two things: Treating others without predetermined positions will often not bring disappointment, but unexpected surprises.

When people get along with each other, they always set a position first. For example, as a lover, you have an expectation for him and want him to treat you how you want him to be. This expectation is often the way you love someone. Often when you do it, you expect others to be like you, which is the source of a lot of unhappiness. For example, if you are sincere to people, you also hope that others will treat you sincerely; if you are enthusiastic to people, you also hope that others can be enthusiastic to you; if you pay attention to the weather every day and remind them to put on more clothes, when the weather is cold, you also hope that they can treat you. Say the same thing. Once the standards of two people are inconsistent, it will bring disappointment and unhappiness. In fact, everyone expresses feelings in different ways. Don't use your own standards to ask others. Just because he doesn't love you the way you expected, doesn't mean he doesn't love you. Try to keep a neutral mind, observe, comprehend, and discover the different wonderfulness of everyone. Treating others without presupposing a position will often not bring disappointment, but rather unexpected surprises.

Three things: Remember, happiness should be the main theme of life.

When you encounter sad things, you can be sad for a while, but you can't stay stuck in it and be unable to get out. I hear this saying all the time, but when it comes to myself, I tend to forget it easily. When I have something on my mind, I feel depressed every day, can’t feel happy about anything, speak negatively, and look at people negatively, even the photos I take. It's all slowly negative energy. We may think that life is short, but people do not live for suffering, but to overcome suffering and pursue happiness. Don't always talk about the pressure at work or the fact that he treats you badly. Look on the bright side of everything, take some time out from your busy schedule, and laugh at a joke; treat yourself after a day's work and reward yourself after work; say a prayer before going to bed every day and look forward to tomorrow. Even better. Remember, the pursuit of happiness is the true meaning of life, and happiness should be the main theme of life.