"Hurry to send 200,000 bride price money, my brother is waiting to get married." "I'm not getting married." Is this man right?

Marriage is supposed to be a matter of tying the knot, but many couples who were originally good parted ways because of the bride price. Originally, the current mortgage car loan has already overwhelmed young people, and it is even more difficult to add extraordinary bride price money.

As for the bride price, I always think that it is enough to follow the local customs. After all, it is embarrassing to give less to the woman's family, and it is impossible to give more to the husband's family. However, some parents don't think so, thinking about "getting rich" by marrying their daughters, but later the money was not earned, but the happiness of their daughters was lost.

Some women are also stupid and lose happiness for their parents. This kind of woman is what we commonly call the brother-in-law demon. In order to help her brother, she asked her husband's family without principle, thinking that the other party would give everything and gamble on her happiness if she loved herself.

Do you think you can be happy if you win the bet? Impossible, your married husband's family will not give you a good look, they will think that you bought the goods with money; What if I lose the bet? Then your own happiness is really gone, and you may even lose a bad reputation.

Girls, don't put your whole life's happiness on the line in order to ask for a high bride price. You think you are helping your mother's family, but in the eyes of her husband's family, you are just a brother-in-law with three incorrect views.

Some things are too late for you to regret.

I went back to my hometown on holiday these days, and then I asked my mother, didn't I hear that Wang Shujia's daughter got married? But when I passed by her house today, I saw her and felt that she was haggard a lot. I didn't see it carefully.

My mother said with a sigh, it's a long story.

Uncle Wang's daughter Xiaoying is 27 years old (she got married late in our place) and has a younger brother who is two years younger than her. Xiaoying could have gone to college, but Wang Shu thought it useless for a woman to go to college. Anyway, she was getting married, so she didn't let Xiaoying go to college. She has been telling Xiaoying that one day you will get married and there is not much money at home. We still have to rely on your brother to support the elderly in the future. Leave this money to your brother for college.

Xiaoying had no choice but to compromise with her parents and then went to the health school in the city. After graduation, she honestly practiced in a local hospital.

I talked about a boyfriend at work, but later I was transferred because of the boy's job. The two separated from each other in a long distance and broke up soon. Xiaoying wants to work hard first, regardless of love. Xiaoying is a self-motivated person who has always been conscientious in her work, but she basically gave all the money she earned to her parents, and she didn't save any of her own money, even the basic clothes and cosmetics were casually handled.

Originally, the money she didn't have to go to college was for her brother, but her brother just couldn't help the wall. He didn't pass the college entrance examination three times, so he didn't want to go to the junior college first, and then he was promoted to the junior college. Finally, there was no way to let him learn to repair cars with his cousin, but he couldn't bear to feel bad at all and was always lazy. He didn't learn much technology, so he was good at talking.

Xiaoying talked about a boyfriend last year and thought everything was fine. Every time her boyfriend goes to Xiaoying's house, he brings some good wine and cigarettes, and it doesn't cost her brother less money. Neither of them is young. At the beginning of this year, they discussed getting married and everything was settled. The bride price is 6,543,800 yuan (the local average is 6,543,800 yuan, that is, 88,000 yuan), which should have been something worth looking forward to. But who thought that Xiaoying's parents changed their minds two months before their marriage, saying that the bride price should be 200,000 yuan, not a penny less, otherwise the daughter would not want it.

It turned out that the parents asked the matchmaker to tell Xiaoying's brother a marriage. The other party asked for 200,000 bride price. Her brother also took a fancy to this girl, but the family couldn't afford so much money, so her parents put their minds on the future son-in-law. So Uncle Wang went to Xiaoying and said, Daughter, your brother wants a bride price of 200,000 yuan to get married. Your brother is the only person in our family who continues to burn incense. Without this 200 thousand, your brother can't marry a daughter-in-law You have to do something.

Xiaoying said directly that I have given you all the money I have earned in recent years. Where can I have money? Find my own way, I have no choice.

Her father went on to say, hasn't the bride price been given yet? Your mother and I have asked around. Your boyfriend has a good family condition. Let him pay another 65438+ ten thousand bride price. He loves you, and he will love you. If you don't take it, it means that this man doesn't love you.

Xiaoying still disagreed with this, but when her parents and brother took turns to go into battle, she compromised again.

She said to her boyfriend, my brother's wedding gift is 200,000 yuan, and you have to give me 200,000 yuan, not a penny less.

Her boyfriend wanted to persuade Xiaoying, but when he saw her being so tough, he said that the bride price was given by my parents, and I had to go back and discuss it with my parents.

Later, Xiaoying's boyfriend didn't contact her for several days, but she was very anxious. I don't know if his family would disagree. What if you don't agree? Seeing her anxiety, Uncle Wang said, Don't worry, he will definitely give you 200,000 yuan to let your brother get married. What a wonderful thing! Wait a minute.

Later, the two also contacted, but Xiaoying asked her boyfriend how it was, and her boyfriend always said that she had never talked about it.

However, her brother can't afford to wait. People directly said that they would marry the girl without 200 thousand. Uncle Wang directly asked Xiaoying to give her boyfriend an ultimatum. Did Xiaoying discuss it when she called her boyfriend? Hurry up and send 200 thousand, my brother is waiting to get married

Then her boyfriend said directly, I'm sorry, I won't marry. I don't want to marry a brother to help me go home.

Xiaoying began to panic and was going to apologize to her boyfriend, but her mother said by the side that everything was arranged. I don't believe he will cancel the wedding. He will come and beg you to marry him in a few days. If you give up your brother, you will have no money to marry a wife.

Xiaoying believed her parents again, but she never heard from her boyfriend again, so she couldn't get in touch.

A beautiful marriage just fell apart. Later, the neighbors next door knew that the wedding had been cancelled, and they were all talking about the Wangs. Then Wang Shu was so angry that he said directly to Xiaoying, "You have been raising for more than 20 years for nothing, and a man's heart can't be grasped well. Now your brother can't get married. Are you happy? "

Xiaoying can't stand such a blow, which is why you see such a fragile Xiaoying.

After listening to this, I wondered how Wang Shu, as a father, could be so cruel and bet his daughter's happiness. But what is even more puzzling is why Xiaoying has always compromised.

Parents should be filial when they give birth to us and raise us, but it is not unprincipled and bottomless. After listening to this, I don't feel sorry for Xiaoying at all, because she did it all by herself. Instead, I feel sorry for the boyfriend who didn't marry her. Such a silly and filial woman can't make trouble at home when she marries back?

Do you think Xiaoying regrets it? I'm sure I regret it, but does it work? Definitely not. What a happy marriage it was, because I helped my brother without a bottom line, and then it was gone.

The power to choose happiness has always been in our own hands. Don't sacrifice your own happiness for the happiness of others. People won't appreciate you, they'll just push your luck.

We should be filial to our parents, but not ignorant, and help our brothers and sisters, but not without principles.