"Parental Love" - ??the love of a few women

"Parental Love" is a rare high-scoring domestic drama in recent years. Especially the story of Jiang Defu and An Jie who have been together for decades is even more enviable. Male viewers mostly envy Jiang Defu's "big boss" and "white, rich and beautiful" character, while female viewers envy Anjie for having a husband who always loves her and dotes on her, so that she can avoid the troubles of the world and always have "no worries about food and clothing, and a happy spirit".

Why did Jiang Defu like Anjie in the first place? The reason is simple, because Anjie is beautiful and different. In particular, Anjie's growth environment and cultural education made her stand out and become the white moonlight that Jiang Defu yearned for.

Before meeting An Jie, most of the women Jiang Defu met were rural women who could not read a single word and only knew how to work. The appearance of Anjie is undoubtedly a fairy descending to earth, satisfying all his beautiful fantasies about women. Jiang Defu once summed up Anjie: "Diligence is not brave, hard work is not complaining, and beauty is not kind." Anjie's words and deeds made him novel and ashamed; Anjie's squeamishness, pride, and willfulness made him develop a desire for protection.

Jiang Defu always felt that he was not worthy of An Jie. He made a huge profit by marrying An Jie, so he tried his best to treat her well, please her, love her, and pamper her, so that she could be happy even in her young age. Old, still retain the innocence of a child, uncontaminated by the world.

Anjie is undoubtedly the luckiest woman in the whole show. Her beauty, her cultural background, and her temperament are important factors in her luck. In addition to Jiang Defu, her neighbor Lao Ding and the painter Mr. Xia also expressed a certain amount of appreciation and admiration for her. In particular, Lao Ding has always admired An Jie. Even though he was humiliated by An Jie's sharp words, he was convinced of her. Sighing Jiang Defu, "This wife is the right one."

In addition to Anjie, there are also such women in "Parental Love" - ??they are from rural areas, uneducated, and have vulgar behavior, but they are hardworking, capable, Simple and kind, this is embodied in Jiang Dehua and her two friends Wang Xiu'e and Zhang Guiying.

Wang Xiu'e and Zhang Guiying have many similarities: they are the wives of military officers who were born in rural areas. They behave vulgarly and have no culture. They are fond of the family's shortcomings but are simple and kind. As the product of an arranged marriage, although they are hard-working and capable, they do not get the rewards. The husband's respect and love eventually died young and had no good ending.

Wang Xiu'e's words once expressed her grievances: "I'm almost exhausted, where is your heart?" But she had to insist: "I'm not getting divorced anyway."

Wang Xiu'e's death was like the last struggle of a moth to a flame. After having three sons, she didn't have to have another child at a young age. For these women, their children are like the emotional connection between themselves and their husbands, extending the incense for him, and gaining a trace of love and compassion from their husbands through their children.

Wang Xiu'e died in childbirth. Rather than saying that she was careless, it is better to say that she had never cherished herself that much. When Wang Xiu'e met An Jie for the first time, after she accidentally fell down, she repeatedly said: "Not so delicate, not so delicate." Her poor days made her no longer delicate, and her husband never pampered her.

In several conversations with Lao Ding, she mentioned "beating" many times, "beating, beating..." Although Lao Ding has always appeared in a more positive image, there has never been a scene where he The scene of Ding Zhen beating Wang Xiu'e. But these subtexts of Wang Xiu'e also revealed that the life of husband and wife is not so harmonious.

Lao Ding’s depression about marriage comes from his longing and envy for an educated wife, especially when his comrade and neighbor who is not as well educated as him has a wife with both talent and beauty, Lao Ding’s The depression is getting deeper and deeper. Wang Xiu'e's depression is that she works hard without complaining, but has never been understood and cherished. Different from Jiang Dehua's carelessness, Wang Xiu'e is extremely shrewd and sensitive. She knows Lao Ding's "playful heart" and feels inferior to herself. She is also full of a sense of crisis about her loveless marriage with Lao Ding... so she eats Anbu many times. Jie was jealous and tried many times to get An Jie to join the army as soon as possible.

The first time Wang Xiu'e met An Jie, she accidentally fell from the chair to the ground; the last meeting with An Jie also ended in a fall. This is like a metaphor for Wang Xiu'e's life, although it is unpleasant.

Like Wang Xiu'e, Zhang Guiying's life is full of work, busy here and there, but these are taken for granted by their husbands.

The most common words Lao Ding said to Wang Xiu'e were: "What do you listen to when the gentlemen talk?"; "Go and cook"... Zhang Guiying's strength was just a necessary skill in the eyes of political commissar Wang. On the one hand, she was indifferent to housework. Not asking, but on the other hand, he despised: "Woman, why do you need so much strength?"

Political Commissar Wang showed tenderness and love to Teacher Ge in his old age, but he was always indifferent to his first wife Zhang Guiying. The warmth of Zhang Guiying's life mainly comes from her son and good friend Jiang Dehua.

Unlike Wang Xiu'e, Zhang Guiying had been a female cadre in rural areas and had certain courage and courage. If Wang Xiu'e is still a little bit evil towards An Jie, jealous and fanning the flames in front of Jiang Dehua, Zhang Guiying's attitude is much calmer and easy-going. Although she lamented that Anjie had a lot of good clothes and various cups, her help to Anjie was sincere.

When An Jie made a fool of herself while carrying water and was angry and annoyed, it was Zhang Guiying who drove away the children watching the fun and fetched her a full tank of water; An Jie gave birth to twins in confinement, and Jiang Dehua She didn't dare to kill the chickens, so Zhang Guiying helped kill and clean them as if she was helping her own family. When Jiang Dehua told her the joke about An Jie burning newspapers, Zhang Guiying sympathized with An Jie's pity and longing for her parents, and took the initiative to ask her to join her. ...

Zhang Guiying admired and loved Teacher Ge and praised Teacher Ge for her beauty many times. She never thought that such an old girl, who seemed harmless to humans and animals, would hook up with her husband and take her place shortly after her death.

Zhang Guiying was also very dedicated to treating Dehua. She saw through the loneliness and helplessness of Dehua who seemed to have no worries about food and clothing: "Dehua must be forty this year... No matter how nice your family is, it is not her own family after all. You have children, you see. What's wrong with Dehua?" In order for Dehua to marry her favorite Lao Ding, Zhang Guiying and Anjie talked earnestly, and went to meet Dr. Wu with Dehua, even losing a good tooth for it. She rarely communicates with her husband, or her husband is rarely willing to listen to her nagging. For Dehua, she called her husband, who was a political commissar, and asked him to come forward to prevent Lao Ding from marrying someone else. Political Commissar Wang showed a rare smile at that time. He must have coveted Teacher Ge at that time, but it was just because of his identity and family that it was not convenient for him to show it. After Political Commissar Wang was promoted, Zhang Guiying left with him. What she could not forget was Dehua. And this time, these good friends never saw each other again.

The most unacceptable and chilling thing is that before Zhang Guiying’s body was even cold, Political Commissar Wang ran back to the island to plan for Teacher Ge to renew her marriage. In her later years, Teacher Ge lived the life she had dreamed of, living in a big house, practicing sword leisurely, wearing cucumber facial masks, drinking coffee ground from coffee beans...and all of this originally belonged to Zhang Guiying, and she would no longer He could never see his only son become a university professor, never see his son marry Yafei, whom he had loved since childhood, never again be able to get together with his good friend Dehua, do housework, and chat about home affairs... …

The name that is very similar to Zhang Guiying is Jiang Defu’s ex-wife Zhang Guilan, and even Jiang Dehua got it wrong for a time. If there was no divorce, her fate would probably be similar to that of Wang Xiu'e and Zhang Guiying. She would be depressed in a loveless marriage until her death... When Jiang Defu returned home with his wife and children in fine clothes, Zhang Guiying, who was only a few years older than him, seemed to be a woman who had experienced many vicissitudes of life. The old woman looked like she was more than ten years older than Jiang. Jiang Weimin explained to Jiang Yafei: "Rural people look older." The important thing is that Zhang Guilan's life was not happy, or even difficult. After divorcing Jiang Defu, she also remarried and gave birth to a son (Yanfeng's husband). During her marriage to her husband, Jiang Changyi once said to Dehua: "My father was not good to me, and my mother couldn't get angry, so she told me everything." In just a few sentences, they also described this arrangement, which was not Happy marriage. How can a second-married woman with children live in a conservative and poor country?

Jiang Changyi is the most disgusting character in the whole drama because of his deliberate actions. After the truth came out, Lao Ding once asked him: "Does your mother agree with you doing this?" Jiang Changyi said: "No, she does not agree..." Although Zhang Guilan was nailed to the "pillar of shame" for committing adultery with Jiang Defu's second brother, But it's not as unbearable as everyone thinks.

Her adultery with her second brother Jiang Defu seems to be easily associated with debauchery and unruly women.

But in the context of the time, Jiang Defu went out to serve as a soldier for many years and his life and death were uncertain. Rather than saying that Zhang Guilan couldn't bear the loneliness, it was better to say that she was seeking comfort and support. Jiang Defu had no love and commitment to her, otherwise he would not have been married for many years and would not even touch her.

After Jiang Defu got divorced, he never came back for decades. He became a majestic commander, had a beautiful wife, a group of children and a happy life. They eventually drifted apart on different roads and never crossed paths again.

She must have loved him after all, so when Jiang Defu returned to his hometown, she tremblingly wanted to see him again: "I want to see what your third uncle has become." But, Her son, who knew her "disgraceful history", stopped her probably to preserve her dignity and dignity.

With the car starting and the crowd seeing him off, she watched him leave in front of the dilapidated hut on the hillside. Compared to him who was surrounded by the crowd, she felt so lonely and lonely. Amid the half-joking provocation from his wife and daughter, Jiang Defu coldly and decisively refused to look at Zhang Guilan. He may still be angry and resentful towards her, but this anger and resentment does not come from self-love, it only hurts his dignity as a man, and blames her for the reason why he and his brother turned against each other. He could forgive his second brother and Jiang Changyi, but he could not and did not want to forgive her. That night, Jiang Defu fell seriously ill in the hotel where he was staying. His wife and children both thought: "Your dad is acclimatized, and his intestines and stomach can no longer adapt to the food in his hometown." But I think that this sudden illness also had a close relationship with Zhang Guilan. It was related to the series of unpleasant memories she had. Dreaming back to those days, did Jiang Defu, who was a poor boy at that time, also have a trace of tenderness for Zhang Guilan, who was in her prime?

Don’t mention the past anymore, after all, Jiang Defu was so happy and peaceful after he was thirty years old. satisfy.

Behind the tender love between parents, there is also the sadness and tears of a group of neglected women. They may not know what love is, but they may also yearn for a trace of love and tenderness from their husbands in moments of loneliness and despair, which becomes the "parental love" in the eyes of the big two, the third and the fourth, and the "parental love" in the eyes of Wang Haiyang. , or the "parental love" in Jiang Changyi's eyes...