Why is the joke funny?

We often play some excessive jokes with close relatives and friends, sometimes such jokes are even offensive, but because of their deep feelings, such excessive humor will not only hurt each other's relationship, but also enhance each other's feelings. For example, we give nicknames to others in our daily life. If you are an ordinary person or a stranger, whether you are malicious or not, the other person may feel unhappy. On the contrary, if you are a close friend, calling a nickname can make the other person feel very close, and sometimes it can also be used as a way to communicate feelings.

Some offensive humor can be called banter humor, which is more intimate. The closer you are, the more funny you can be; The more distant, the more polite. There are many stories of close-knit literati joking with each other among the people. Fo Yin monk and Su Dongpo are best friends. One day, Su Dongpo and his good friend Fo Yin went to play chess. As soon as he entered the temple, Mr. Dongpo shouted, "Where is the bald donkey?" I only heard the monk Fo Yin answer, "Dongpo eats grass." Everyone next to them froze, but the two of them burst out laughing. Dongpo laughed at Fo Yin's baldness and shouted: Where is the bald donkey? Fo Yin answered: Dongpo eats grass, which is not only borrowed from Dongpo's name, but also understood as "eating grass in Dongpo". As a response to "Where is the bald donkey?" Pun. Both sides are harmless, just teasing between friends. They often travel together and sing poems in pairs. Both of them are humorous and are talked about by people. Although Fo Yin became a monk, he was still very free and easy. He often drinks and eats meat with Dongpo, without any taboos and is not bound by Buddhist rules and regulations.

Su Dongpo likes to eat roast pigs. When Fo Yin was governor of Hangzhou, he lived in Jinshan Temple and often cooked roast pigs and other Dongpo dishes. One day, early in the morning, Fo Yin sent someone to buy a few Jin of lean meat, which was red and crisp, and also made a few bottles of Qionghua dew, waiting for Dongpo to have a good meal.

Who knows that when Dongpo is invited, the cooked meat is gone. Fo Yin was very unhappy and said apologetically, "I really can't eat barbecue." Su Dongpo immediately made a game poem to comfort Fo Yin:

Yuan Gong sells wine and drinks Tao Qian, Fo Yin cooks pigs and other children;

After picking flowers into honey, I don't know who hard work is sweet to.

The jokes and banter between two good friends are very touching. This kind of humor is based on deep feelings, so it will be free and easy, open and even unscrupulous. Su Dongpo's sister Su Xiaomei is also a talented woman, but her high and prominent forehead is not good-looking.

One day, Su Dongpo joked about his sister's appearance and described her convex forehead and concave eyes as:

Three or five steps before leaving the museum, uh, go to the painting gallery first.

I finally wiped my tears several times, leaving two springs.

Su Xiaomei never show weakness, xi smiled, then retorted:

There is a clump of rotten grass between the lips, and the hair is even apricot.

After quarreling for several times, I couldn't find a place. Suddenly I heard Li Mao's voice.

This poem mocks Su Shi's unkempt beard.

Su Xiaomei wanted to think, only think that Su Shi's beard didn't seem to catch the sore spot, and he didn't take advantage of it himself, so he studied it again and found that his brother's forehead was flat, his horse face was a foot long, and his eyes were far away. The whole facial features are out of proportion, and he immediately crossed to make another poem:

Tian Ping has a wide road of 3,000 miles, looking at the clouds from her brow.

Last year, a tear of acacia never reached my cheek.

This kind of humor is more like a kind of teasing and banter. Although it seems offensive, there is no malice at all, it is entirely to adjust the atmosphere. Joking and teasing are generally harmless, and in most cases, they will expose each other's shortcomings more or less. In this regard, we must master the sense of proportion. Too much or too little may make humor fail to achieve the expected effect.

There is such a rule in social occasions that the more unfamiliar people are, the more polite they are; And the closer you get, the more ridiculous jokes you can make. You might as well try and play a joke on your friends, which will not only show your close relationship, but also enhance your relationship.