Dream becomes fantasy: maybe you were wrong when you set your goals!

I have been determined since I was a child, and all kinds of ambitions have filled my whole life since I was sensible: I will never buy candy again! Study hard in the future! Start school tomorrow and never be late again! I want to be admitted to a key high school! Find a good job after graduating from college! Buy a car and a house within three years! Work hard for a raise! I want to lose weight!

ahhh! How much saliva I wasted on these slogans! Looking back on the sensible life of more than 2 years, how many slogans have been realized? There are really not many. I always thought it was because I didn't work hard enough and didn't persist, so I made my dream a fantasy. When I read the Psychology of Success, I realized that I was wrong when I set my goals in the first step of my dream!

setting goals turned out to be exquisite!

When I watched The Voice of China, I always heard Yang Kun say, "I have 32 concerts this year!" In fact, I didn't take it seriously at that time, thinking it was just bragging. After reading the third chapter of "Psychology of Success"-goals and obstacles, I suddenly remembered this. It turned out that Yang Kun's 32 concerts were a very standard goal.

So I went online and checked to see if he realized it. Sure enough, many people, like me, just took that sentence as a joke, but in fact, Yang Kun really finished it. It's not a joke when it's finished, is it? After reading Psychology of Success, I realized that we took it as a joke because we didn't carefully analyze Yang Kun's goal at all and took it for granted that "this is too difficult."

In the book, there are five important characteristics of a reasonably set goal, which are: specific, measureable, achievable, realistic and time-related, which is simply SMART. A closer look shows that Yang Kun's "holding 32 concerts this year" is indeed a very standard goal!

s-concreteness: this sentence has been made clear, very specific;

m-measurability: 32 games, which is a measurable event. After all the events are completed, you will naturally know that the goal has been achieved.

a-realizability: Yang Kun is a singer. It is not very difficult for him to hold a concert. Although 32 concerts are a bit much, it can be achieved with hard work and planning.

I checked Yang Kun's concert schedule, and it is true that he completed these 32 concerts in different cities in a very dense period of time. Although some netizens joked that this was a "tour of urban and rural areas", it did not affect his achievement in achieving his goal.

r-reality: in terms of skills and interests, Yang Kun didn't have much difficulty in completing the concert, which is completely consistent;

t-time correlation: this goal includes a very clear time period "this year", which can't be more clear.

Yang Kun's goal has been analyzed and realized. Let's take a look at the "volunteers" we have made at ordinary times. Compared with "32 concerts", it is not more difficult. Why did we give up halfway?

many people have said that they should teach themselves English, right? But how many have really learned? Is it because it's too difficult? Is it because there is no time? In fact, it may not be, because I failed to set goals effectively, and then I failed to adopt an effective learning plan, so I went away after studying for a few days.

In terms of setting goals, what's wrong with learning English?

first of all, it is not specific enough and can't be measured: to what extent have you learned? Can you communicate or pass the grade, or can you translate documents, or can you interpret at the same time? Even if you learn, your English level has improved, but you still don't know whether you have achieved your goal or not, because when you first set it, you don't know where the goal is. In this case, you have no sense of accomplishment, or your sense of accomplishment comes too early and you give up because of pride.

secondly, it has no time correlation: how long are you going to study? A month or a year, or a lifetime? I don't know how long I have to walk. Will I get lost when I walk?

In terms of "realizability" and "reality", you can barely pass the test. After all, it is not difficult to learn a language. As long as you persist, you will certainly learn it. As long as you are not deaf, there is nothing special in your skills. Since you want to learn, you should have interest. Long-term interest is realistic. It is unrealistic to fish for three days and dry the net for two days.

It's more about "losing weight" than "learning English by yourself"! When reading Persistence, a Habit that can be formed, there are examples of losing weight. The book focuses on how many days it takes to lose weight, and after forming physical habits, it will become simple. However, the root cause is the step of setting weight loss goals.

There are also examples of losing weight in the book Psychology of Success. For example, I assume that your goal is to lose weight, which is achievable and realistic, but it is not specific, measurable and time-related. How much weight do you want to lose in how long? Let's try to write the goal as follows: I will supervise my diet and walk for half an hour every day in order to lose .5 kg per week in the next 15 weeks.

in this way, the goal becomes specific, measurable and time-related. After a closer look, I feel less confused. I can set up the relevant action plan, and then stick to it according to the plan, and losing weight will naturally become an achievable goal.

In fact, losing weight and learning English should be regarded as a short-term goal. Can these two things be accomplished within one year? However, if it is a big goal, such as wanting to have an objective amount of money, buying a house, and getting a promotion and salary increase, you need to examine your goals more reasonably, and the big goals should be divided into small goals.

For example, you will buy a house with three bedrooms and two halls in the Fifth Ring Road in Beijing within five years. You have to find a way to split this goal: set a goal about money, set a goal about the location of the house, set a goal about the style of the house, and even set a goal about the hostess or man of the house. After the split goal, we will compare it according to the SMART rule. By comparing it, we can know whether our goal can be achieved. After determining the feasibility, we will work out a small plan for each small goal, step by step, and without any accidents, the big goal will be realized.

About the goal, it is only a small part of a chapter in the psychology of success, and the book is finished in ten pages. However, it is not easy to really finish reading these pages, because there are exercises in the book, which guide readers to face up to their goals step by step, truly analyze, make plans and examine the realizability of the goals. It takes a lot of time to read these pages carefully, but it takes more energy to read a book. The nutrition of this book is definitely worth a lecture on career planning worth 6,888 yuan, and it is worth more than ten years of school education and ten years of workplace experience of ordinary people. However, if you don't read carefully, no matter how good the book is, you can't read anything.

after reading this book, I suddenly felt that success was so simple, but I failed so much that I was wrong from the source!

in the future, if you are talking about ideals and setting goals, please refer to the SMART rule, so that the truly right goals can be realized!

you want to ask me why I took your picture instead of typing? You can't even stare at a few lines, how can you talk about success? Success can be simple, but it's never casual!