A day of treating each other as guests

Respecting each other like guests is a compliment to a harmonious and beautiful marriage. It sounds so happy when couples can respect each other like guests. Huijuan and her husband now live a life of "respect and hospitality", but she feels that this kind of life makes her breathless and depressed. She cannot feel the feeling of happiness. Instead, she misses the life of vomiting, quarreling, and reconciliation. .

Huijuan has reached the age where she knows her destiny. She told us about a "joke" she encountered when she went to the hospital to visit relatives shortly after her marriage. There were four patients living in the ward at that time, three of them were young people, and some had just gotten married. When their husbands stayed with them in the room, they were indispensable for being intimate and "playing" with each other. Some are picking each other's ears, and some are acting coquettishly towards their husbands. The older patient said curiously: "It turns out that couples can be like this! Oh my god! We haven't even joked since we got married. We talked about things when we had something to do, and kept a straight face all day long when nothing happened. After a while he came, You have to talk to him properly, you can’t just respect me like a mother, you also have to know how to be affectionate..."

At that time, Huijuan and her husband still felt that the illness was exaggerated, and that there was no way to treat me like a husband and wife. Guests are also well-behaved. Now, she and her husband have lived a life of "respecting each other as guests", and they have realized the feelings of the sick man and no longer think it is funny.

Huijuan said that there was no mutual respect between them. What he wanted to do would not require her consent, but they were really polite to each other.

"What are you eating today? Are you eating at home? Go home to eat, and you won't come back to eat." Other than that, there is no topic for communication. During the meal, you can only hear the sounds of each other pulling and chewing food. , even changing clothes and going to the bathroom are deliberately avoided, let alone physical contact.

"Perhaps it will be like this when you reach a certain age - living in peace and respecting each other as guests." Huijuan let out a long sigh, and she could see a lot of helplessness!

There is nothing wrong with treating each other as guests. Respecting each other and understanding each other are the ways that couples should get along. But if they are really as reserved and polite as they treat guests, it would be too alienating.