What happens when boys and girls break up? Why?

Most women feel that they have suffered a lot after breaking up with men. The general psychology of boys after breaking up, but women usually cry and make a scene after putting down their hands and vent their mentality. What is the general psychological state of boys after breaking up? Generally speaking, it is not easy for a boy to choose to cry. No matter how sad he is, he will always hide it in his heart, and others will not find it easily. Therefore, a boy feels heartless and doesn't care about sex appeal. In fact, breaking up seems to have little impact on him, but they can't see the whole world in their hearts. Boys will be sad, too, just worried about others' understanding. Because boys always take sadness to heart, it is not easy to show it mainly. They don't think this is a boy. Therefore, after breaking up, boys have different mental States and methods in all aspects.

First, tired

It's not that he doesn't love, but that he just can't love anymore. At the moment, you are still attracted to him, but negative emotions and oppression make him want to escape this feeling quickly. So men will feel tired, mostly not because he is selfish or has changed his mind, but because in this relationship, men have been under an uncomfortable oppression for a long time, which is more of a sense of powerlessness and frustration. In this case, the reasons for breaking up are usually girls' long-term troubles, strength and suspicion, so boys will feel relieved and relaxed after breaking up, which usually lasts for about 2 weeks 1 month. During this period, some introverted boys may play games day and night, while some extroverted boys may often engage in some social activities. At this time, if you contact him occasionally, show him your emotional stability and give him more comfort, the other party will gradually replace the negative impression of you with a new impression, thus increasing the possibility of getting back together.

Second, anger.

Their memory period will come earlier than that of tired men, which may be a few days or 20 days at most. However, when they think of their predecessors, they don't think much about their predecessors' advantages, but make an inner assumption: "If you don't hurt me, won't we break up?" It's a pity that my sincerity has not been reciprocated. Men who are angry when they break up are even less willing to reflect on their own problems. In fact, it is not difficult to remind him of your kindness, that is, to make a self-description of the reasons for breaking up. Blame all the reasons for the separation on the outside world, and more importantly, gain trust and strive to stand on the same front with him. For example, women are close to other members of the opposite sex and men are angry. He thinks you are unfaithful and wants to betray him. Then you can tell him, "I don't want to have contact with him either, but it's a work arrangement and I'm helpless." I didn't realize that he was a man until you told me! "

Third, guilt

Guilt also accounts for a considerable part. Because many times, the reason for breaking up is either that the man has moved on or that he intends to give up this relationship first. In this case, the high probability is not dissatisfaction with the predecessor, but a better choice. Such men are more rational, more reluctant and more regretful when they break up, but more just guilty of women. This guilt will make him want to care about your recent situation on the second and third day after breaking up. At this time, if you are indifferent, his guilt will be lower. If you act aggressive, he is guilty, but at the same time he will be glad that he left you. So when a man feels guilty about you, let him inspire the desire to protect you from guilt. But I will really think of your kindness, maybe 2-3 months after breaking up, because it is a reverse contrast with the new life or new love. In this case, we should not only take advantage of each other's guilt, but more importantly, understand each other's core needs. If you have a new love, you can see what value the new love has that you don't have.