How can we chat correctly to avoid asking and answering questions?

The first step: multi-line chatting method

In the minds of male compatriots, discussing matters and presenting facts and reasoning are the most normal ways of chatting; while girls are generally more emotional. His chat style likes to use subjective judgment instead of factual description, and use perceptual emotions instead of rational analysis.

For example: Man: What are you doing?

Female: I’m browsing Weibo.

Male: You’re still up so late?

Female: Oh, I’ll fall asleep right away.

Male: Well, then you should go to bed early.

Female: Okay.

This kind of situation where there is no topic even after a few sentences, it is obvious that boys are too stubborn. Although chatting must be supported by topics, if there is no topic, you must also know how to mobilize the atmosphere and always discuss the matter. The chat mode will definitely seem very boring, and it is easy for the chat to end.

If we want to enrich the content of the chat and adjust the atmosphere of the chat, we can increase or decrease the topics in time according to the specific situation, and add some words to moderate the atmosphere appropriately.

For example: Man: Is the night owl still awake? Not going to work tomorrow?

Female: Oh, you can fish at work.

Male: I thought you had something on your mind that made you sleepless. It turned out that you were planning to fish at work. Your idea is very dangerous

Female: Hey, what could I have on my mind?

Male: I think your concern is that you don’t know what to eat after get off work tomorrow.

Female: Oh, you have guessed this

Male: Haha, how about I take you to a restaurant tomorrow? Their food is super delicious.

Female: OK.

Many times, our conversations with girls come to an abrupt end because we don’t find a new entry point to extend the topic. If we can put the spotlight on the other person and start from her feelings, it will be much easier to chat. . The second trick: keyword chat method

The so-called keyword chat method is to find the valuable content in the other party’s words and then extend the topic. The advantage of this is that it can quickly grasp the key points of the topic that girls want to talk about. , thereby mobilizing the other party’s desire to chat. However, Li Zi must first clear the air for everyone to prevent some naive old people from getting the wrong focus of the topic again.

For example: Man: Xiaoli, what are you doing?

Female: I just got home. I have been working overtime today because of a lot of things, and I didn’t even have time to eat.

Male: Do you get paid for overtime work?

Female: No.

Male: It’s the same for me. I often work overtime and I’m used to it now.

Female: Hey, don’t talk anymore, I’m going to wash up and go to bed.

Look, the girl was originally willing to chat, but why did she have nothing to talk about in the end? The reason is that you didn't grasp the key words in the girl's words.

The girl said she was too busy at work and didn’t have time to eat. She was obviously venting her emotions, but the boy brought the topic to the matter of working overtime and failed to take into account the girl’s emotional expression. But if we grasp the keyword "didn't eat", we can easily extend the topic.

For example: Man: Xiaoli, what are you doing?

Female: I just got home. I have been working overtime today because of many things, and I didn’t even have time to eat.

Male: Then hurry up and get something to eat. It’s so late, what are you going to eat?

Female: Love, I’m too tired and don’t want to cook by myself. I’ve already ordered takeout, a spicy hotpot.

Male: Oh, you know how to order. I also like spicy hotpot, but I still have to eat less takeout. It’s not very hygienic. I always ate takeout for a while, and my stomach felt very uncomfortable. Now If you cook your own meals, eat cleanly and with balanced nutrition, your gastrointestinal health will be much better.

Female: Can you still cook?

Male: Yes, do I have time to show you my skills?

Have you given up on your studies? Grasping the right keywords will naturally increase the number of topics, and learning to add a display of self-worth to the chat can also make girls have a better impression of us.

Many times, old guys have nothing to talk to girls, or girls respond very coldly, mostly because they have not found the right topic that girls want to talk about. If you learn to think divergently and find the right keywords, you can easily Nice to continue the chat.

The third tip: Master the rhythm of chatting

When chatting, many veterans generally care about what topics they can chat with girls, but ignore the rhythm of chatting. This will cause two problems: First, I have been leading the topic and did not give the girls a chance to speak. The most typical example is the household registration-style chat; secondly, I keep looking for various topics and talk in generalities, without hitting the girls' points of interest, resulting in a lack of depth in the chat.

A good chat should not only show self-worth but also give girls the right to speak. This is like teasing and complimenting in cross talk performances. Only when two people sing and harmonize can ordinary people The story seems more interesting.

Boys with high emotional intelligence will switch between teasing and flattering at will when chatting with girls, and choose to listen or lead the topic according to the other party’s reaction. If the other party shows obvious interest, we can Continue the conversation along the topic, and then give corresponding feedback.

For example: Man: Didn’t you go to the amusement park to participate in the Halloween event last week? How do you feel?

Female: I think it’s quite interesting, especially at night, the atmosphere is very good.

Male: Really? It's a pity that I didn't go. What fun things are there?

Female: There are a lot of Cosplayers inside, and they are dressed up very exquisitely. There are also some NPCs (non-player characters) in the playground to interact with us.

Male: It sounds very interesting. Remember to call me for this kind of event next time. I feel like you can’t miss it.

Female: Okay!

The above-mentioned chatting method is flattering, which can mobilize the other party's desire to talk and make her talk to you endlessly. However, if we realize that the other party is not interested in continuing the conversation, we should take the initiative to lead the topic and let her follow it. Let’s talk about your ideas.

However, when opening a new topic, it is best to take into account the girl's feelings, or to arouse her interest by creating suspense.

For example: Man: I had a very important meeting this morning. I got up very early, but I was still late.

Female: Huh? What's going on?

Male: Isn’t there a morning rush hour in the morning? I didn’t even get on the several buses, and then when I transferred to the subway, I reversed the direction. That’s not the end of it.

Female: This is too miserable for you, what next?

Male: Actually, I only sat at the wrong station. If I had transferred normally, it would still be too late, but I didn’t know which tendon was short-circuited, so I went to take a taxi, but the driver took the wrong route again.

Female: Hahaha, it’s really too miserable.

Male: Well, fortunately, the boss didn’t care and just gave me a few words of scolding.

Female: Then remember not to take the wrong subway next time.

The most taboo thing in chatting is to talk about things strictly, which can neither arouse a girl's emotions nor arouse the other party's interest. On the contrary, if you know how to lead the conversation and at the same time give the other person a chance to show off, then girls will enjoy chatting with you.

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