My relationship with my mother-in-law is not going well, what should I do?

The way many daughters-in-law treat their mothers-in-law is to keep them at a respectful distance and hide away if they can’t afford to offend them. But for the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law who live under the same roof, hiding is absolutely impossible. It is impossible to live without conflicts. Even if you live with your own mother, you will sometimes be unhappy, let alone your mother-in-law? Then just calm down and comfort her when nothing happens. Old people like to have someone. Chat with her and listen to what she has to say if you have time. She loves to nag, so let her nag, it’s just about her son. 1. You should respect your mother-in-law. Although your mother-in-law did not raise you, she raised your husband. So since you love your husband, you must understand your son’s feelings towards his mother and respect his mother with him. You also have parents. If your husband talks back to your parents and ignores them, will you be happy? So give your mother-in-law more smiles and chat with her more. If you are good to his mother, he will naturally be good to your mother. 2. Don’t be overly affectionate with your husband in front of your mother-in-law. I’ve seen this advice to my daughter-in-law a long time ago. Although you think you are used to this kind of communication, the elderly are elderly after all, and they have traditional ideas. This is just like in front of outsiders. Excessive intimacy with your husband is also a kind of disrespect for others. You say, this is It is true that your home can be whatever you want it to be, but if there are elderly people living at home, you should still pay attention to this aspect. 3. Take care of your husband's emotions when making suggestions. When it comes to matters involving your husband's family, especially money issues, you always have to make suggestions for your husband, but you must take his emotions into consideration and speak with skill. Even if you don't want to, don't say it directly. You should reason with your husband tactfully and let her know that you are willing to help but can't help for some reason, and you should give her more comfort before making any suggestions. But you have no control over some money. For example, if your father-in-law is sick, even if you don't give him money, he will still have to find money for his treatment. So since you can't escape, it's better to be simple when taking the money, and show that you are very willing to hand it over to your mother-in-law. This will please your mother-in-law, satisfy your husband, and think more about you in the future. But here I want to remind the daughters-in-law: It is necessary to be filial to the parents-in-law. Failure to be filial will make others laugh. Also, honor the seven aunts and eight aunts unless they have a lot of money. 4. Don’t boss your husband around in front of your mother-in-law. This principle is actually very easy to understand. Think about it from another perspective, if your parents come to live at home and your husband keeps asking you to do this and that, how will your parents feel? How will they feel? I thought it was very difficult for my daughter to be at home and she was very tired. Especially in a society like China where men are still superior to women, your mother-in-law will definitely be unhappy if she sees you bossing your husband around. Who wouldn’t feel resentful if your son can’t make the decision at home and is being bossed around by a woman? After leaving your mother-in-law’s sight, , you can do whatever you like, just don't let her see it. 5. Pay more attention and consideration to your mother-in-law's daily life. Whether you are modest or hypocritical, you must do your best on the surface. This will also make your husband look at you differently. When I was buying something for my mother, I thought about buying one for my mother-in-law. Observe her daily life more carefully. Is she cold or hot? What does she want to eat? What do she want to do? Take the time to satisfy her wishes. Unless she is sick, she can't spend much of your money. Most mothers-in-law love their sons even more than their own lives. She also wants you to live a happy life and won't spend a lot of your money. She is old and lonely. Your little concern will be remembered by her. 6. Leave some time to listen to her nagging. The way many wives treat their mothers-in-law is to keep them at a distance and avoid them if they can't afford to offend them. But for the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law who live under the same roof, hiding is absolutely impossible. Then just make up your mind and coax her when you have nothing to do. Elderly people like to have someone to chat with her. If you have time, just listen to what she has to say. She loves to nag, so let her nag, it’s just about her son. Talk about the difficulty of raising a son and the process of his growth. While listening, he echoes a few words: "Mom, it's not easy for you. I must respect you well." What's the point of saying something nice? It's just a waste of words.

It's secondary to not being able to do it, but it's necessary to say it. You need to make her feel that you and her are a family. When she has you, she has an extra daughter, not a woman who robbed her son. 7. There is nothing wrong with saying ugly things in advance. Before your mother-in-law comes to your house, you'd better reach a consensus with your husband first. Before living with their mother-in-law, many daughters-in-law thought that their mother-in-law was pretty good, but after living together, they had many conflicts. First of all, you must know that it is impossible to live without conflicts. Even if you live with your own mother, you will sometimes be unhappy, let alone your mother-in-law? However, there are some principled things, such as: you cannot get up early, You cannot do housework every day, and you and your husband do not have the concept of male superiority and female inferiority in your life, etc. It is best for you to communicate with your husband before your mother-in-law comes and let him talk to her about the situation in advance. And if there are some things that you really can't bear while living together, then please don't bear it and let your husband talk to your mother-in-law. 8. Let the past go. Living together, there will always be small frictions between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. Occasionally, an unpleasant word or something that makes you unhappy, let it go. , don’t always keep it in your heart. If your mother talks about you, you will definitely forget it in two days. To a certain extent, your mother-in-law is a bit like a parent. She may like to educate you sometimes. If you want to listen, just listen to a few words. If you don't want to, just pretend that you didn't hear it. No matter how bad it is, you can argue with her. That’s it, we are still a family in a harmonious way. It is never a good idea to be cold-faced. If your husband is embarrassed and you don’t say anything, your mother-in-law still thinks you are ignorant, and you are still angry in your heart. It is not a principled matter, so don’t be too big. Calculating every detail. Of course, what I want to remind you is that it is best not to let the parents-in-law live in the house, because many conflicts occur in small things in life. If there is no way to live in the house, then you must be mentally prepared. You cannot just Start from your own mood.