Why do my wife and I often quarrel?

It is normal for couples to quarrel, but it is not normal to quarrel "often".

What is said here is "serious quarrel", not that kind of quarrel and fight, which doesn't count;

There are also some seemingly controversial differences. For example, when you watch Qi Ba Shuo, each of you took a side. That kind of discussion is not a quarrel.

There are usually real "quarrels" for the following reasons.

1. The two sides have conflicting personalities or really different views.

Both of them are tough and opinionated people. They are very stubborn about their ideas. If they don't listen to a little different opinions, it's easy to give in to different opinions.

Disagreement between the three views means literally, not only the problem of the three views, but also one party who likes to make sarcastic remarks, does not respect the other party's point of view, looks down on the other party in attitude and so on.

In many cases of sexual relations, these two situations are the most common, one is a big fight for three days and the other is a small fight for two days.

However, one manifestation of impulsive personality is that quarreling between two people is obviously a point.

And at this point, there will be two people's views "consistent", but the fact comes from their own mouth, as if it is really "reasonable", I hope the other party will be convinced.

That is, I'll take you.

If the three views disagree, it is very easy to produce contradictions in trivial matters of life.

For example, you can't talk and read books together. You think she is superficial and she thinks you are pretending.

Going to the fly restaurant you can go to and going to the high-end restaurant you can go to is not a disagreement, but you say that you go to the fly restaurant and she thinks you are disgusting; She wants to go to a fancy restaurant. You think it's too extravagant and wasteful.

It's just that three views are different.

If so, two people will be particularly tired if they want to be together.

Because there is no tacit understanding, the east wind will inevitably overwhelm the west wind, and it will not be appreciated and recognized from time to time. It is simply forbearance, or one of the parties compromises in the relationship and would rather quarrel than die.