Women and men have nothing to do with each other.

Women and men have nothing to do with each other

"Go! Keep an eye on your mother!" The husband said this to his daughter for the nth time.

Because at the end of the year, there are a lot of gatherings with colleagues and friends. My daughter and I told her that there will be gatherings on Friday night, Saturday and Sunday at noon, and we cannot eat at home. After my husband heard this, he immediately asked my daughter to come with me and let her stare at me as usual.

I think most men will be a little worried when their wives frequently attend gatherings with colleagues and friends! Although I don't object to my wife going out alone to drink and chat with others, she is still a little reluctant.

They will whisper in their hearts:

Why does that guy always have dinner with my wife?

Why was that guy so close to my wife during the photo shoot?

What is the relationship between them?

……

In fact, as a wife, I have also worried about this when I encountered him frequently attending various gatherings. I am his wife and she is my husband. I think so because I care about him and he cares about me.

The relationship between husband and wife always has one more emotion called "love" than the friendship between opposite sex.

However, this word has nothing to do with love or romance, but only with a woman and her male friend.

There is a kind of opposite sex who cares about you unreservedly without asking for anything in return, because he only treats you as a buddy and a best friend. There is no talk of love between them, let alone sex. Between them, there is a heartbeat, but no emotion. There is a heart-warming friendship with them, not a fleeting passion.

My husband doesn’t understand Tim Burton’s dark gothic style, but they understand, and like me we see the innocence in those movies; my husband doesn’t understand the classic dialogue between the Little Prince and the Fox, but they understand , and have already understood it clearly; my husband gets annoyed when I say something about too much housework, but they are not annoyed, and they will say with a smile, whose family is not the same?

I thought about some of my worries and wanted to tell my husband later, but all I got from him was a disappointed response. But after telling them, I felt the comfort and warmth of being understood. The friendship between us is much easier than the love in marriage. Whether we talk about work or our respective family lives, whether we talk about hobbies or social news, we are very happy, because when we spend time together, we completely transcend gender equality.

I have two male friends who talk about everything, no more, no less.

Do you have any male friends?

In the latest fashion magazine for women aged 30-40, there is such a survey:

Among the 400 women who answered the questions, 28% He said that he has male friends with whom he talks about everything. Most of them are former classmates, colleagues, or people with the same interests and hobbies. Although up to 72% of women do not have male friends with whom they talk about everything, the vast majority of these 72% of women hope to make male friends in their future lives.

After becoming wives and mothers, many women gradually alienate their former friends of the opposite sex. First, because their lifestyles have changed and they no longer have much time and energy to spend with their friends. Another reason is to take into account the feelings of the husband and the other wife.

However, I think as long as you are a confident and self-disciplined woman, you can break through the barriers, believe in each other, believe in yourself, and make male friends with similar interests.

They will show you a broader world from a male’s unique rational perspective. It was from two male friends who talked about everything that I learned from my husband and best friend. This knowledge made me more confident, and I found a strong sense of presence in my equal conversations with them.

They encouraged me to use my talents to start my own business. When I had no clue at all, they taught me how to conduct user market research, how to prepare a business plan and profit and loss statement, how to publicize to attract customers' attention, and how to analyze future market trends.

They are all business owners and have experienced failure. A grown man has also cried alone in the middle of the night. They shared their failure experiences with me, which helped me avoid many detours on my entrepreneurial journey.

In fact, don’t just look at the high-end cars they drive, how comfortable their wives live as rich wives, and which expensive private schools their children attend.

I would rather listen to them talk about the hardships along the way, the powerlessness of living in a foreign land, and their plans for future life and career.

Because from these contents, I see the firm will, extraordinary wisdom and courage to move forward of successful people.

Their wives, parents, and children don’t fully understand this side of them, but I do, and it has been deeply affecting my life now and in the future.

Tagore once said:

The difference between friendship and love is that friendship is two people and the world, but love means that two people are the world; in friendship, one plus one equals Second, in love, one plus one is still one.

I dare to assure you that in a good friendship with the opposite sex, one plus one is not as simple and boring as just equaling two.

When they encounter unsatisfactory things at work, they often say to me: "After working hard, getting the results you expected can increase your self-confidence, but there is no need to be disappointed if you fail to achieve the goal, because it is rare. Experience. Keep your true colors, keep working hard, and stick to it!"

I am particularly happy every time they say that you have made great progress compared to before. This is on the road to female self-improvement. The highest award.

Yes! They won't begrudge me any of my merits or my little achievements. They never acted emotionally or echoed my opinions. They always answered my questions after thinking calmly. They are humorous and make me feel very happy after talking about happy or unhappy things. They pointed out my shortcomings directly and told me how to correct them. They have rich social experience and have helped me a lot in my career. They will analyze the reasons for the conflict between my husband and me from the perspective of bystanders. They have a big heart and I never have to worry about saying the wrong thing in their presence. They take my business as their own and are always there when I need them most.

The most important thing is that they will keep it secret and will not tell anyone about everything I tell them.

In short, it is my male friends who gave me the ability to analyze myself rationally and recognize myself clearly. It was they who resolved many conflicts between my husband and me and made me understand how to be a wife who understands her husband and tolerates his shortcomings. At the same time, they also made me broad-minded and able to face all the unsatisfactory situations in work and life calmly.

Actually! These are not things that women can realize alone, nor can they gain wisdom from their husbands and female friends.

If you like gossip and are sensitive, you will definitely ask: "Will your relationship affect your relationship as a couple?"

I can tell you for sure, no!

Because we all maintain just the right distance and appropriate measures, because no one wants to use romantic affairs to destroy the trusting relationship that has been built with care.

We have been doing this:

Eat on a regular basis

Drink in moderation

Don’t see each other late at night without other friends< /p>

Our families often gather together

Tell each other what time I will go home

Do not meet frequently

Sit across from each other , there is always a desk or dining table in between

After I got home, I told my husband, and he told his wife that we met

In fact, we did not regard each other as the opposite sex, but Interactions that transcend gender. We all understand and cherish this kind of relationship that lasts longer than love. What we rely on is mutual restraint and respect.

We talk about our views on marriage, love, and friendship. When we agree, we nod and clink glasses. When we disagree, we discuss, learn from each other, and respect each other. Being with them always makes me feel that as a woman, when I step out of the noisy social circle of family and men and women, I am not moving forward alone. They are here and my life is not alone and is full of intellectual power.

Not long ago, I was extremely depressed when my most cherished female friend for many years broke up with me. They said: "The purpose of friendship is to make people happy physically and mentally. Therefore, you must cherish yourself first. Your matters can be solved by giving time."

"After listening to their persuasion, I suddenly felt a lot more relaxed.

I can tell them what I can't express to my husband, and I can let them see my vulnerability, because if I tell my husband, he will definitely laugh at me. , but they won’t. They are my best listeners and consultants, and they have relieved me of a lot of confusion and pain in my heart. They sit across the dining table one meter away and will listen to me quietly. Boring topics are thrown to them endlessly, and they continue happily. Only we understand the fun between us

Compared with someone who shouts cheers to you when you are tired or injured, What I need more is a friend who is not far away and can say "It's okay, I understand you" after listening to my nagging.

Our friendship is the most important thing besides romance. Pure and true. Enjoy jazz music with them and discuss Maugham's "The Moon and Sixpence" together, but they will never give each other a little flower during the music, nor will they hold each other's hands under the moonlight.

Fengyue matters are related to men and women, but the matters between men and women have nothing to do with Feng Yue.

Here, I want to say to my husband and all the gentlemen in the world, you can rest assured, in fact. Our children are not willing to attend adult gatherings at all. There is really no need to force children to stare at their mothers.

I also want to express my gratitude to my male friends and all the men in the world who have female friends. Say, thank you! Please take care of me in the future!