Don't disturb anyone when you are at a low ebb.

Xin Qiji has a saying: "Sighing about life, unhappy things, nine times out of ten."

Life is like four seasons, no one can always be smooth sailing, and there will be peaks and valleys.

When people are in the trough, it is equivalent to the "winter" of life. Only when you really see the people around you can you feel the warmth and coldness of human feelings.

When you are in a trough, don't lose your ambition to rise again, and don't bother anyone easily.

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At the bottom, we should reflect on ourselves.

People at the bottom often complain, why don't I have a chance to get rich and a job with a surge in income?

In fact, while complaining, you should also think about it. Is it because you are not good enough?

Confucius said, "A gentleman seeks for himself, while a villain seeks for others."

When encountering some problems, gentlemen will try their best to find the reasons from themselves, while villains will abandon their relationship with themselves without scruple.

There is a good saying: "there is nothing wrong with villains, but gentlemen often make mistakes."

It means that the villain always feels that he is not wrong, and the fault is others. This gentleman often reflects on his mistakes.

In fact, the higher the level of people, the more they seek internally, and the lower the level, the more they seek externally.

The more incompetent people are, the more they like to find fault with others.

Lv Chunqiu recorded a story that happened in Xia Dynasty:

After the summer, Qi Bo and Hu did not win the Ganze War.

Qi Bo's people were not persuaded and asked to continue the attack, but Qi Bo said, "There is no need. I have more soldiers and more land than him, but he beat me. This must be because my virtue is not as good as his, and my method of leading troops is not as good as his. From today, I will try my best to correct it. "

From then on, Qi Bo got up early to work every day, ate humble food, took care of the people, appointed talented people and respected moral people. After a year, when the Hu family learned about it, they not only dared not infringe again, but surrendered voluntarily.

Mencius said, "Do not do whatever you want, but do whatever you want."

When you are in a trough, you should reflect on yourself: Have you made good use of your leisure time? Have skills been enriched and improved? Have the shortcomings in the work been corrected? Has interpersonal relationship improved?

As the Classic of French Sentences says: "It is not good to complain about others, but to reflect on yourself;" If you know this, you will not die. "

At the low tide, if you can review yourself with an open mind and correct your missing places in real time, then you must stay away from disaster.

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When you are depressed, don't complain everywhere.

There is a famous saying in "Augmented Xianwen": "The poor live in downtown areas and no one asks, while the rich have distant relatives in the mountains".

It means: when people are poor, relatives and friends seldom come and go, and when they are rich, relatives will come to you even if they are far away.

There is a folk saying that "a horse is thin and never leaves the army, and a man is poor and never leaves his relatives."

When you are poor, try not to go to relatives and friends' homes. At this time, many people are cynical and sneer at your jokes.

When you are at a low point, few people really want to understand your pain. It is the best choice not to complain everywhere.

When people are at the bottom, they find that there is no such thing as empathy in this world;

When people are in the trough, they know that some roads can only be taken by themselves, and some grievances can only be suffered by themselves;

Only when people are at a low ebb do they know that if they want to get out of trouble, they still have to rely on themselves.

Xin Qiji, 800 under Li, joined the army at the age of 20 and left the army at the age of 20. He once captured enemy generals in the army and made meritorious military service. At the age of twenty-five, he wrote "Ten Theories of Harmony Madness", pointing out the heroism of mountains and rivers with the spirit of Huo Qubing and Wei Qing.

But soon, after a fall, the hero was demoted to a vegetable Weng, during which he felt lonely. Who sang it?

Don't you want to complain about Xin Jiaxuan who wrote Now I Know the Taste of Sadness?

It's not that he doesn't want to, but it's useless to complain, so he simply doesn't complain. He used words to turn his loneliness and anger into a ravine, and that kind of anger and injustice made him go down in history.

A person's heart must be deep enough to hold something.

If the heart is as shallow as a plate, nothing can fit, and it will flow out if it is slightly depressed.

Every dust is bitter, bitter, turn bitter into bitter, not bitter.

Among them, the most important thing is practice.

Not complaining everywhere is not self-repression, but a kind of wisdom that struggles in vain and a kind of courage to get out of the trough.

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When the valley is low, you must change yourself.

Wang Yangming said: "People must sharpen their minds in order to stand firm, calm and firm."

Facing adversity is the best training for the soul.

There is a cloud in the Book of Changes: "If you eat dry, you will get a golden arrow. Li Zhen, Ji. "

When you eat dried meat with bones, you find a metal arrow in the bones. In this case, only by self-motivation with the heart of "difficult to keep chastity" can we have an auspicious result.

This sentence tells us a truth:

When you encounter a problem, face up to the difficulties and overcome many obstacles. In the end, you will turn luck into luck.

There is no eternal trough in life, only those who despair in front of it.

The trough can be the root of defeating a person, or it can be an opportunity to achieve a person.

"Night talk around the stove" has a cloud: "The bench is low and sit; Don't miss the good times. "

Only those who sit patiently on the bench and work hard can gain gains and rewards.

Good times are fleeting, so don't miss opportunities easily.

In the Journey to the West, four Tang Sanzang apprentices experienced eighty-one difficulties and gained the true scriptures. Many people have always thought that the soul of Journey to the West is the scriptures they brought back, but it is not.

In this story, the most important thing is that the four of them experienced 81 difficulties.

During the "August 1st Incident", the Monkey King lost his exposed spirit, Bajie lost his inertia and desire, Friar Sand lost his rudeness, and Tang Priest lost his weakness. They experienced 81 difficulties before they really grew up.

Breaking through one's core in the trough is to have the spirit of precipitation and upward, to have the action of completely changing oneself, and to make oneself stronger, instead of being decadent and depressed in the predicament.

Hemingway said: "It is not noble to be superior to others. True nobility should be superior to the past. "

If you make a little progress every day, you can make a small pile into rivers and seas.

Crossing the trough is a new starting point.