At the age of 2, love is contrary to parents, which is the bud of children's self-awareness.

Although children are cute, they also have a grinding side, especially two or three-year-old babies. Anyone who has had the experience of taking a baby knows that taking a baby is simply the most difficult.

Because you say east, but he insists on west, and you say you can't do it, but he insists on doing it. Adults spend a lot of energy arguing with children.

Colleague Xiao Li's daughter just turned two this year. Because I have to go to work, the task of taking care of the baby is handed over to my daughter's grandmother. But a few days ago, my mother-in-law suddenly joked that she would resign because it was too tiring to take care of the baby. Although it was a joke, Xiao Li saw a trace of helplessness in her mother-in-law's eyes, so she asked in detail.

It turns out that my daughter has suddenly become difficult to take care of recently, and she always sings against her grandmother. For example, when grandma invited her to dinner, she said angrily, "No!" Grandma said she couldn't get out of bed, so she leaned in. Anyway, as long as the mother-in-law has a request, the daughter will definitely refuse.

My mother-in-law is 65 years old, and it is really difficult to raise such a disobedient baby. And after all, after a generation, my granddaughter didn't listen, and my grandmother didn't dare to really hit her, so in the face of her two-year-old granddaughter's licentiousness, my grandmother who lived in her sixties was also helpless.

I believe that an experienced treasure mother must know that when a baby crosses the threshold of 2 years old, his temperament will suddenly change greatly, mainly because he likes to sing against adults. The daughter of colleague Xiao Li is a typical example.

This is not surprising, because the 2-year-old baby's self-awareness is budding, and singing against adults is precisely to declare his own ideas in order to make himself appear very independent.

1. Serious rebellious mood

Playing devil's advocate is a concrete manifestation of rebellious mood attack, and 2-year-old baby is the most serious rebellious mood in infancy. Many parents don't understand, thinking that their children will suddenly be disobedient, so they take some strong measures to adjust and even use violence.

But in fact, the rebellious performance of the 2-year-old baby does not have any profit motive, but only expresses self-awareness. Therefore, once parents take improper measures, it is likely to destroy the formation of children's self-awareness and make him feel inferior and weak.

2. possessive case

Another typical performance of a 2-year-old baby is particularly possessive. As long as they can touch things, they will "take them for themselves", even if they are useless to him.

This indiscriminate possessiveness is also the result of the germination of self-awareness. So if you find that your baby suddenly becomes overbearing, don't worry, it's just a normal growth process.

3. Don't stop until you reach your goal

I believe that many treasure moms have also discovered that when the baby grows to 2 years old, it is not easy to fool. What he wants to do must be realized, otherwise it will be a long trouble.

For example, if the baby wants to serve the bowl by himself, if the adult doesn't let him do it for safety reasons, the baby will haunt you until you agree with him. This character of not giving up until you reach your goal is also a normal manifestation of self-awareness in its infancy.

Although the fact is that in the face of such a baby, parents can't stand the patience. In fact, there is no need to be afraid. It is no trouble to deal with this kind of "grinding people's essence", but it is not a positive hard lever, but a solution from the side or even the opposite side.

Negative is positive, and conversely, just say what you want to do.

What if the baby sings the opposite? Beaten? Of course not. In fact, the solution is very simple, that is, to put what you ask your baby to do on the other hand, to let your baby do something against your wishes is equivalent to meeting your initial requirements.

For example, if the baby refuses to get up in the morning, you should not say "get up quickly" to him, but say "don't get up", so that the baby will get up on his own initiative, in order to oppose you and achieve your original goal.

Give children the right to "choose" more and use less imperative tone.

If you don't want your child to disagree with you, there is another way that works, that is, try to say the request in a selective tone instead of the traditional imperative tone.

For example, if you want your child to eat more vegetables, instead of telling him to eat spinach or cabbage, you should say to him, "Does the baby want spinach or cabbage?" Let him choose. If he chooses spinach, of course he will eat it. After all, the baby won't sing against himself.

As long as parents can master the above two ingenious methods, I believe that no matter how difficult it is to take care of the baby, it will be handy. How high is the IQ of 2-year-old baby? After living for decades, can you still lose to him in wits and wits?

In addition, any other traditional way of discipline is to treat the symptoms rather than the root cause. The baby may temporarily meet your requirements, but the inner rebellious feelings will not be dispelled, but will accumulate more and more. Once the tolerance limit is exceeded, it may have serious consequences.