A person becomes more and more silent, often for the following reasons.

Writer Su Tong said: "Of course, life is not just talking, but also silence. Sometimes I will look back on my silent youth and youth with disappointment, and I will think about the reasons why many people are silent. "

When did you start to be silent? Why are you getting more and more silent? Have you ever seriously thought about this question, or have you ever been silent and too lazy to think about why?

In fact, there is a reason why a person is becoming more and more silent.

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People who have suffered a lot will become silent.

When I was a child, my parents were "shields". No matter what difficulties we encounter, we always contact our parents at the first time, and they always give us the best help.

You can proudly say, "What am I afraid of? If something goes wrong, my parents will bear it. "

When we were young, we quarreled with others. If we lose, we will say, "Wait, I'll go home and tell my dad."

Dad will stand up for you and deal with the mess you left. If you make a mistake and hurt others, dad will take the initiative to bow his head and apologize to others and lose money.

When people reach a certain age, they suddenly find that they have to bear all the pain themselves, and there is no "backing" behind them. At this time, your suffering becomes a force to grow up and will make you "shut up".

For example, if your marriage fails, at first you will talk to someone, and later you will find that others don't like to listen to your nagging and there is no one to comfort you. From then on, you will never talk to anyone again, and you will never discuss the topic of love with others again.

People who suffer a lot are often "out of place". Because of experience, they know more about life, always hide themselves, don't fit in with others, and don't depend on anyone.

People who have suffered a lot are used to carrying suffering and moving forward silently, even if they are injured, they will not hum.

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Unhappy people will become silent.

People are poor and no one listens to anything they say. If they try to show off, they will be laughed at.

When life is down and out, you don't have a sincere friend, and maybe your family won't understand you. Only when you rise will someone make friends with you and walk side by side with you.

Your life is not smooth, why do you give others reason and experience? Others need to learn from successful experiences, not from failures.

For example, you opened a small hotel in the city and later closed down. You talk to people around you about your entrepreneurial experience. No matter how wonderful you say, others just laugh at you and don't think you are an "able person"

When everything goes wrong, just shut up. Later, you learn to observe and slowly precipitate yourself. If there is an opportunity, seize it quickly and strive for a comeback.

These days, there are more people holding fast to the tide, and fewer people are saving people from danger. If you want to reverse Gankun, you have to calm down and think, and don't ask for advice everywhere. Other people's life experiences are different from yours and won't feel the same way with you.

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Really mature people will become silent.

Guya Bingrou said: "Mature people don't ask about the past; Smart people don't ask now; Open-minded people don't ask the future. "

If you were too lazy to ask, don't want to ask now, and don't need to ask in the future, then you will talk a lot less.

When a person is more and more mature, he is used to playing dumb and can always see through things. Be an unknown bystander, see through without telling through, know without telling through.

The afternoon before yesterday, I went to work with my colleague Lao Zhao. After that, we walked back to work together. On the way, I saw a group of people looking at things. I said, "Xiao Zhao, let's go and see what happened."

Xiao Zhao said, "I didn't expect that you still like being an audience." Are you gloating or helping others? "

I said, "I'm just looking. I'm too lazy to get into trouble. "

Xiao Zhao said, "If you don't help others, what will you see?"

Xiao Zhao's words beat around the bush, leaving me speechless.

Yes, smart people are often indifferent to other people's affairs. Try not to interfere in other people's affairs, and your life will be clean.

If it's related to you, deal with it as soon as possible and cut the gordian knot.

When you learn to ignore other people's affairs and handle your own affairs calmly, you will become more mature. When I am alive, I have nothing in my heart, so I have less troubles and less words.

Speaking is to solve problems, not to argue with others, not to laugh at others, and not to create rumors.

Mature people know how to be themselves, can accept the ups and downs of life calmly and don't want to mind other people's business. When people are at the bottom, they go uphill slowly, and when people are at the top, they go downhill slowly. They no longer panic, no longer depressed, no longer talk, always appear peaceful and far-reaching.

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People who work hard will become silent.

There is a kind of person who has been "quietly getting rich". Even if he earns millions, you won't notice.

Just do your best. Why tell others? Nowadays, many people suffer from pinkeye. If you show off your achievements, you will be envied, and some people will undermine them.

As the saying goes, "it's easy to hide when you shoot, but difficult to prevent when you shoot an arrow."

Don't push yourself to the "light", but stick to the "darkness". For example, if you are a businessman, you will find some fruits in the south and sell them in the north, with high profits. You have to find a way to buy a batch of fruit and transport it to the north quickly. Don't tell anyone. It is the last word that you use this opportunity to make a fortune. If you tell others about the "opportunity", maybe others will get ahead of you, and maybe you will lose the opportunity.

People who are really powerful are often very silent, just like a carriage full of goods, walking slowly and making little noise. Loud cars are empty cars.

Of course, there may be other reasons why a person becomes more and more silent. For example, he is introverted and does not like to talk; I am not good at making friends, I have no sincere friends; Did not master the speaking skills, worried about saying the wrong thing; Honest to say nothing.

Silence is also a part of life. If you have to say it, don't say it. No one understands you, and whatever you say is nonsense; People who know you can be thoughtful without saying anything.

To be a man, you should learn to be silent and forge ahead in silence.