At which moments can you not deceive yourself no matter what you have experienced?

In Xinhua Dictionary, one of my least favorite idioms is self-deception. It can be seen from the literal meaning that it means to deceive oneself and others. It generally describes people who are unwilling to face reality.

It is hateful to deceive oneself and others. They know everything in their heart, but they choose to pretend to be confused. If you kindly remind him of the truth of the matter, he will not only not believe you, but may also blame you for being nosy. .

It is sad to deceive oneself and others. In the eyes of others, they are stupid, extreme and ridiculous.

But only they know how much courage it takes to insist on hypnotizing themselves to believe a lie? But sometimes, he must rely on this lie to support him in walking.

Self-deception is a kind of self-comfort, and it is also a kind of escape. I hope that no matter what you have experienced, at these moments in your life, you will never deceive yourself.

01

When you are not satisfied with your work, don’t deceive yourself. It’s because you didn’t work hard enough.

A senior HR from the Fortune Global 500 said that a job can never be suitable for you, and you can only continue to adapt to the job.

The employees that bosses hate the most are those who like to make excuses for everything.

Ask him why the project failed? Because he encountered an unexpected accident; asked him why the customer was lost? Because the competitor is too strong; ask him why the order cannot be completed as scheduled? Because energy is limited.

As a professional, you must always remember that when your boss asks you why, he does not really want to hear the process of your failure, but is accusing you of why you gave him a failed result.

In the eyes of the boss, the value of an employee is only linked to results.

This may be reality in relationships, but in the workplace, this is fairness.

Sudden accidents are not just for you, so why can others survive it safely? That's because others know how to plan ahead and prepare a set of alternative plans.

As the saying goes, there is heaven and earth, and there are people outside of people. In any industry and in any job, there will be a large number of competitors. The competitors may be very powerful, but why can't you make yourself stronger than them? ?

Energy is like water in a sponge. If you squeeze it, there will always be some. The so-called limited energy is mostly an excuse for laziness.

So, many times, when your job is unsatisfactory, it’s not that the company is not good enough or that you are not suitable for the job, but just because you did not give your best.

02

When he repeatedly makes you feel insecure, don’t deceive yourself, he just doesn’t love you.

The sixth sense is an extra gift from God to women. As a woman, you must never let down your sixth sense.

You feel that his expression is suddenly a little strange, as if he is hiding something from you. Don't deceive yourself and think that you are overthinking. He has probably really lied to you.

You always feel that he can’t figure things out, and seems unwilling to confess many things to you. Don’t deceive yourself into thinking that he is just reserved. There is a high probability that he has concealed a lot of things from you.

He keeps saying that he loves you, but he never mentions marriage and the future to you. Don’t deceive yourself into thinking that he is not ready or that he doesn’t want to get married yet. Believe me, it’s not that he doesn’t want to get married, but that he doesn’t want to get married to you. .

Women are more emotional and are more likely to fall into relationships than men. They are also more likely to deceive themselves. Sometimes, they don’t even need men to lie to them. They will find good excuses to hypnotize themselves and comfort themselves. .

Girl, if you can get the love you want by deceiving yourself, there will be no more "joke" in this world.

03

When he comes back to you unexpectedly, don’t deceive yourself, he must have a conspiracy.

Some people appear in your world just to verify that you are really easy to cheat, and some people come back to you just to give you another blow.

One night about a year ago, my best friend’s ex-boyfriend suddenly called her and frantically asked her to add him as a WeChat friend. They had broken up for more than a year at that time, and although we had no contact since then, I knew that my best friend had never let go of him.

At that time, many friends, including myself, advised her not to be stupid, as it was not worth it, but her best friend seemed to be possessed and got back together with her ex-boyfriend despite everyone's opposition.

She said with a satisfied look: "He said that he didn't know how much he loved me until we were separated. It's been more than a year, and he has never forgotten me, and neither have I, so we don't want to miss it anymore." "

But if that was true, how could we not get back together until today? How could we endure not looking for her or seeing her for more than a year, not even a WeChat message? Sent it to her?

Sure enough, three months later, the ex-boyfriend took all the best friend’s savings and disappeared without a trace, leaving the best friend with nothing, a confused look on her face, and wounds all over her body. She could not get over this shadow for a long time. Come out.

His lies were obviously so clumsy, but she always believed them so seriously.

The person who really can't let you go, even if there is a knife from the sky, he will rush to you as soon as possible, because he is reluctant to let you wait too long, and he is even more afraid that you won't be able to wait too long.