Use these four tricks to save a passable marriage.

Hello, this is an adult emotional guide. Let's discuss the emotions of adults together.

I received such a question. A lady said that my husband has changed since he got married. I don't think he cares about my feelings as much as before. He once ran all over the streets for a strawberry. Now I have a stomachache during my physiological period, and he will only say faintly, drink some hot water. We have been married for three years, and the time for chatting is getting less and less. Many times, we have nothing to say. We have dinner together at the dinner table, and there is nothing to say. The two men were silent, feeling embarrassed, and even the food was not delicious. That's why he always said I was looking for trouble. Couples who have been married for several years are always like this. How can there be a husband and wife Xuchang who stick together all day? But now I even have the heart to divorce. After years of marriage, can we really just make do?

Answer: You can't talk when you eat together, and your husband refuses to cooperate with your idea of improving your marital status. The passion between you has disappeared, and feelings are like food without salt. It still looks delicious, but only the eater knows the taste. This is also the status quo faced by most people's marriages. The more prosaic the feelings are, the more communication problems there will be between two people. Marriage can't meet each other's needs, which will lead to serious emotional consequences, such as cheating. More seriously, let the other party die in marriage and divorce as the end of marriage.

So, how can we get the passion that has disappeared back and make your feelings full of vitality again? Let's share with you some tips to find the passion that has disappeared.

The first move, don't treat each other as what you already have, and keep a sense of crisis in your feelings. The sense of crisis here does not mean not trusting each other or staring at each other all the time. But always regard him as a person who may leave at any time and choose his own rights. Not a partner who is always around unconditionally. It is precisely because some couples always feel that the other person is already in their own pocket, so they no longer know how to cherish after marriage and refuse to spend time and energy. I thought he would always be here, but I won't keep him if the relationship is not good. If we can maintain a sense of crisis, we will regard the other half as lovers, and we will think about maintaining our feelings.

The second trick is to leave appropriate space and time for each other. In interpersonal relationships, we need to know that everyone needs space. If you are bored with each other all the time, you will inevitably deprive each other of time to think and relax. In addition to love, there are other feelings such as family and friendship that need to be taken care of and maintained. Therefore, it is wise not to invade his world too much. If there is no passion in marriage, what we need to do is not to bind each other to ourselves by force. On the contrary, you should give him space to feel that he is understood in the family and his needs are met, so you can ask him to meet his own needs.

The third trick is to try new things together. Another way for two people to stay passionate is to keep looking for new goals and then work together to achieve them. Such a goal can be short-term or long-term, it can be a small goal of fitness, or it can be a big plan for their income. It can be a short-term plan to travel abroad or a long-term plan to change rooms and cars together.

Fourth, maintain regular communication. Communication is the most important way for two people to repair their relationship. Without communication, there will be no sustained and healthy development of feelings. Long-term communication is not necessarily a long and in-depth conversation.

For example, at home, you can talk about the interesting things that happened in the company recently. Sometimes a funny program on TV, even a short story or joke between friends and girlfriends, is a little magic to break your relationship. Fifth, don't stop growing. The growth mentioned here is not only internal growth, but also external growth. First of all, we should keep a curiosity and always keep a sense of freshness to the world. Try to learn something new. Tea, painting, illustration and cooking are all keys to the new world. At the same time, pay attention to your image management, don't indulge yourself just because you get married, and don't pay attention to dressing yourself up. I believe no one wants to see his girlfriend or wife pulling him all day and raising bats in front of him. Beautiful image, decent manners and elegant conversation are all guarantees for you to keep adding points in your feelings.

At the same time, we should learn to change a style occasionally and be a changeable queen, which always gives people a feeling and makes people shine at the moment. By doing so, I believe you will always hold his eyes tightly. Making do with life, in fact, I just don't know how to run a marriage. The results show that all kinds of problems in marriage have not been solved. In fact, life doesn't have to make do. Sooner or later, you will encounter a serious emotional crisis.

I am the lecture hall of love. If you are experiencing emotional problems and marriage crisis, you can tell me your problems and I will help you solve them. If your friend has emotional problems and marital crisis, share my article with him and we will help him together.