There is no absolute fairness in the world. You must understand the truth about human nature.

There is no absolute fairness in the world. You need to understand the truth about human nature

1. People who talk about benevolence, justice and morality, one type lacks social experience and are too real; the other type is pretending and wants to be honest. Profit from it.

2. When your boss starts talking about your ideals with you, it means that your salary will most likely not be increased.

3. Never set "breaking class barriers" as your goal, as it will only aggravate your anxiety and powerlessness. It’s not just that you buy a small Mercedes Benz and add some cool bosses to WeChat, it’s called a breakthrough. If it could be broken so easily, there wouldn’t be so many contradictions in society. This matter still takes time and luck. What's more worth doing, and easier to control, are the little things that may seem trivial but help tremendously. These overlooked small successes are the real source of happiness for most people and are the key to your continued confidence.

4. In adult social interactions, hesitation is just politeness. For example, "I'll treat you" and "I'll treat you" have two different meanings.

5. The less confident a person is, the more likely he is to be looked down upon. This matter has nothing to do with innocence. I trembled when I met the leader and said hello. If you are not confident yourself, why should the leader trust you and value you? Be generous and confident, neither humble nor arrogant, and leaders will be able to reuse you.

6. Don’t pin your happiness on others. You need to nod and bend down to receive what others give you. If one day you are dissatisfied with others, they can kick you away at any time.

7. Don’t be too honest! In the adult world, most benefits are not evenly distributed. Honest people who are too well-behaved and too silent often only get scraps. Only those who know how to take the initiative to fight for it will get the big fish and meat. In a society with a population explosion and fierce competition, most of the time society defaults to distribution according to demand, and children who cry can eat candy.

8. The closer a friend is, the more important it is to avoid conflicts of interest. When going out to eat AA, transfer the money to the person who advanced it as soon as possible; when opening a company, try not to find a good friend as a partner. The best and strongest friendship stems from the same three views, but the key to long-term maintenance is "no conflict of interest."

9. Any unconditional sacrifice and dedication is labeling yourself cheap. Blindly giving generously will not earn any respect, and it will look stupid. If a good person doesn't want to help one day, he will immediately become a bad person; and if a bad person does something good one day, people will think "this person is not bad."

10. The essence of social networking is value exchange. If you don’t have the ability or resources to exchange with others, connections are a joke. If you learn more skills now, you will have to ask for help less often in the future.

11. Don’t lick. Chasing someone cannot rely solely on being "moved". Good mornings and good nights on time, and delivering meals regardless of the weather will not make the other person like you, or even dislike you. A woman can fall in love with you because she loves you and your "steadiness", not your kneeling and licking. You know how to ask for help, but you have no pursuit, you can't recognize the reality, and you think of various ways to please her every day. Although it will make her happy, it will not make her like you, let alone fall in love with you. This kind of man will not really bring a "security" to the other party. Even if the other party says "I love you", he will not stay with him for too long, and the licking will be in vain in the end.

12. When facing people who infringe on your rights, be thorny. The harder your thorn is and the more thunderous it is, the less the weakling will dare to invade you. People like to pick on weaklings, but when they encounter giant beasts, they will give in.

13. Although ability is important, in social interactions, appearance is often the key to determining the first impression. Many people say that they are not a member of the Appearance Association, but when you meet someone for the first time, what is the most time-saving and effortless way to do it? It's the way the other person dresses and grooms you that makes you want to know the person, and then you will be interested in seeing his academic qualifications and abilities. So whether it’s a boy or a girl, there’s nothing wrong with learning a little about how to dress. Many times, the first glance you give others determines whether you can get a precious opportunity.

14. Taking good care of yourself is the prerequisite for loving others. Don’t fall into other people’s definitions of you. He says you are so hardworking, so you work for him for free every day. She says you are so generous, so you treat her to dinner every day. The demanding personality is naturally good at taking advantage of the pleasing personality. You need to keep your eyes open to distinguish who is treating you well and who is taking advantage of you.

15. Say more good things and often do good deeds. People who say "thank you" are more polite and friendly than those who are rude; people who think about everyone are more popular than those who make trouble for no reason.

16. People do not necessarily feel guilty when they do bad things. Real bad people never feel bad. When a person commits more mistakes than he can bear mentally, he will find various reasons to convince himself and make himself feel at ease.

17. When helping others, don’t agree “quickly” and don’t complete it “easily”. When someone asks you for help, even if you have to agree, you should show that you agreed after careful consideration. After helping the person with the matter, you should also tell the other person that you have put in a certain amount of effort to complete it. Otherwise, the other party will think that asking you for help is the lowest-cost option, and they will ask you for help next time.

18. If you hate someone very much, your best way to get revenge is not to bully him or frame him, but to make yourself better than him and live a better life than him. Bullying him will only make you feel good for a while, but if you do better than him, you will always feel good.

19. The atmosphere of the conversation is more important than the content of the conversation. When speaking in public, don't be too afraid of what you say or do wrong. Be bold and express yourself confidently, and you will leave a deeper impression on others. If you don't know what to say, I suggest you read more good books. Reading can quickly increase your knowledge reserve and improve your thinking and cognition. When you read a lot of books, have something in your head, and have ink in your stomach, you will naturally speak at a good level.