My mother regards my grandmother as an enemy. What should I do?

The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is the most difficult since ancient times, and most of them are not very good. But you said that your mother is like your grandmother's enemy, which is also wrong, just to ease the contradiction between them. But it can only be alleviated, not solved. Because the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law was basically determined after your mother and your father got married. You see, before your father got married, the most important woman in life was his mother, that is, your grandmother. But after marriage, your mother will share your father's love. This love will be less and care less. There is some truth in saying that you married your daughter-in-law and forgot your mother.

What do you need to do to ease the relationship between your mother and your grandmother? First of all, don't be partial to yourself, be good to mom and grandma. When they quarrel, you should not only help one side, but also help grandma appropriately. After all, she is an old man. Usually, give your mother and grandmother more opportunities to talk, of course, when they are in a good mood. You can sit next to them and chat with them. Between women, frequent chatting is still very useful to ease the relationship. Let's talk about the shortcomings of the family and the leadership of the family. Then tell some jokes and interesting things. You can liven up the atmosphere inside, and mom and grandma can look at your face and have a good talk. It is very helpful to have such a chat often. After all, communication is a bridge to the soul.

Then you can often ask them out, go for a walk in the park, go to the playground, or go to some scenic spots. If you go out to play, you should be in a good mood. Let them experience more things together and get along more. Not just at home, at home. You can observe what your mother and grandmother have in common. For example, if you like watching soap operas, then you often let them watch soap operas together. After watching TV, it is inevitable to discuss the plot, so there will be more exchanges. Or if two people like singing opera, you can also let them go to the theatre or something. If they have the same interests, there will be more topics.

Secondly, you have to work hard on both sides. In front of grandma, always say good things about her mother and say that her mother cares about her. In front of your mother, you should always speak well of your grandmother and tell her that she cares about her mother. In a short time, maybe two people still can't relieve it. But this influence is subtle and will have an impact over time. When two people think about it privately, they feel more comfortable. On some special days, or festivals, old people will be very happy to persuade their mothers to buy some gifts for their grandmothers. I will tell others that my daughter-in-law bought this. Then people say, your daughter-in-law is really nice. This is very effective.

Finally, you should do the ideological work of your father and grandfather. Let dad persuade mom to be nice to grandma. Let grandpa persuade grandma not to dispute with mom. what can I say? We are all family, so it is not difficult to really get along. Everyone's heart is together, and everything is to ease the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. One day, their relationship will be better. Let mom spend more time with grandma and care more about grandma. Old people are afraid of loneliness, so it is enough to have someone to talk with them.

Although the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is difficult to handle, how many families really want to ease the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law and act for it? It shouldn't be much. After all, a family is a family, and people's hearts are made of meat. It is still possible to want to ease.