Women must not accept their fate

01

Most elegant women are not born with it, but are acquired through hard work and practice.

The last time I saw my cousin Xiao Yuan was two years ago, when I was admitted to a university in Wuhan and she came to see me off.

That year, I was 19 years old, 1.63 meters tall and 92 pounds. Xiao Yuan is 23 years old, 1.65 meters tall and 120 pounds, and Dabao is one year old.

Xiao Yuan and I grew up walking in the alleys of Wuzhen during our childhood. She and I have very different temperaments, and climbing over walls is her special skill.

At the age of 22, her uncle's joke completely wiped out her freedom of marriage, and she had no choice but to marry the son of Liu Dazui, the owner of the inn opposite.

Liu Youcai is a well-known drunkard in the village, and he can be said to be undetected when he engages in cheating. Even if everyone can see it, they can't grasp any clues.

When Xiao Yuan got married to him, the wedding was naturally very beautiful. The whole street was decorated with lights and streamers, and the gongs and drums were not very lively.

Of course, my uncle naturally used the betrothal gift to pay off all the debts he owed on the Liu family’s mahjong table.

Despite this, I could see the sadness in Xiao Yuan’s eyes, and the feeling of being used as an equivalent in exchange for currency was unreservedly displayed on her face.

Since getting married, Liu Youcai has been playing mahjong until midnight every day. Xiao Yuan's role at home is comparable to that of a maid, and she is used as a tool for venting by Liu Youcai.

For a year, she was accompanied every day by endless mahjong games and endless drinks.

If you don’t know how to resist in the face of fate, then it will hurt you unscrupulously.

At the age of 23, Xiao Yuan had a caesarean section for Liu Youcai and gave birth to a baby girl, named Liu Baoyuan. The doctor said that Xiao Yuan’s uterus had become a scarred uterus and future pregnancies would be risky, so it was not recommended to have more children.

For this reason, Xiao Yuan had a big quarrel with Liu Youcai, and she suffered from postpartum depression.

The reason is that Xiao Yuan failed to give birth to a baby boy to the Liu family as he wished. The Liu family has a great business and Qineng has no descendants to inherit it.

Although his daughter's surname was also Liu, she was going to marry into another family after all. From then on, Liu Youcai was unyielding to Xiao Yuan.

Obviously, this marriage arranged by parents was quite a failure.

02

Until he got the news that I was going to Wuhan, Xiao Yuan entrusted Bao Yuan to his aunt and came to see me.

In just one year, Xiao Yuan is no longer the same Xiao Yuan who laughed and laughed with me in the past.

Her face was solemn, her eyes were dull, and her former high spirits had been exhausted by reality.

Her sagging skin, out-of-shape figure, the strange smell emanating from her body, and her plaintive eyes perfectly interpret the typical image of a harem abandoned by life.

Since then, I have silently vowed in my heart that unless I meet someone who makes me willing to fall, I will not get married even if I die alone.

Xiao Yuan held my hand and talked about all kinds of things in daily life. Tears always filled her eyes. She wanted to burst out but was restrained by her force.

I felt sorry for her, but I couldn't think of anything to say to comfort her, so I stretched out my arms and had no choice but to take her into my arms.

"Qing Yatou, remember, in this world, no one is really worthy of you putting down your dignity and dreams to please him. Except for your own heart, never listen to other people's arrangements." Xiao Yuan sobbed and gave me the true meaning of life that she had summarized with tears in this year.

"Sister Yuan, this is not you. You used to be so free and happy. What else is left in your life besides Bao Yuan now? A good life is given by yourself, and dignity is also given by yourself. Yes, no one will come to hurt you for no reason, and no one will come to respect you for no reason." I put my hand on Xiao Yuan's shoulder and said seriously.

I said these words to Xiao Yuan when I said goodbye two years ago, but they have been deeply etched in my mind for two years.

03

This year, I am 21 years old, 168cm, 98 pounds, a sophomore in college, and this is my second summer vacation.

I ended my social practice early and went back to Wuzhen to see Xiao Yuan.

Two years later, I brought Xiao Yuan’s favorite sticky cake to see her, but Xiao Yuan moved.

I asked around and learned that Liu Youcai went bankrupt three months after I left. Xiao Yuan took Bao Yuan out of the house, opened a tailor shop at the entrance of the alley, and started a small business. In business, life is tight, but I can barely make ends meet.

Little Yuan wakes up early and stays late every day. Fortunately, Bao Yuan was born well-behaved and is not like his father at all, which greatly reduces Xiao Yuan's pressure.

Not long ago, Xiao Yuan signed a stable contract with a clothing supermarket, hired an aunt to take care of Bao Yuan, and also had her own work team.

The hard days were finally over. After leaving Liu Youcai, Xiao Yuan's life was as exciting as a cheat.

When I met her this time, I was not disappointed at all. Xiao Yuan changed her past habit of being hunched over, straightened her chest and raised her head, and simply wore a suit vest and light makeup. He looks ten years younger than he did two years ago.

Some people say that marriage brings a woman a dependence, but in my opinion, ending that failed marriage is another starting point for Xiao Yuan's new life.

This year, Xiao Yuan is 25 years old, 167cm, 93 pounds, and Dabao is three years old. She is in the rising stage of her life.

04

Sometimes, we take it for granted that women should find someone to rely on, to be held in the palm of their hands, to stretch out their clothes, and to open their mouths.

But we have forgotten that this world is so realistic that all long-cherished wishes are short-lived and like a dream.

Maybe you are beautiful enough and have enough conditions to get what others have worked hard for without any effort. In this world, many people spend all their energy just living.

However, if one day the person who loves you no longer loves you and the person who gives to you stops giving, you will be like a fish leaving the lake and dying of thirst on dry land.

As a woman, you can love, but you must have the capital to leave; you can take, but you must also have the capital to be taken; you can be refined, but you must have the capital to make yourself refined.

Only when you become stronger can this cruel world make concessions for you and me.

Life is only once for everyone, why not be more unrestrained and unrestrained, why should you exchange your dignity for everything that you can get with your efforts.

In this world, there are many girls who are not short of money and work hard, there are many girls who have great figures and insist on working out, and there are many girls who are beautiful and continue to study hard and are talented.

Don’t be complacent just because of your beauty, there are too many good-looking girls.

The so-called whiteness, wealth and beauty: cleanliness and self-care are whiteness, self-reliance is wealth, and internal and external cultivation is beauty. You must have your own thoughts, behaviors and personality.

You only have a short life to live, and you have to keep working hard to become a better version of yourself.

You must have the ability to stand out among many outstanding people, and you must have the confidence to be respected by the world.

After all, as human beings, hard work is an essential quality for us to live.

This world is very cruel and will not show mercy to you just because you are a woman.

Women, if you want to live a good life, you must not only be beautiful, but also live a charming life!