My son loves to surf the Internet and is going crazy at his friend’s house all day long.

When children go online, look at their psychology and don’t cause conflicts. I have included the following opinions.

Viewpoint 1: Accept new things and learn the Internet with your children. What is the impact of the Internet on us? It is a new thing for a generation, and it has penetrated into our lives more rapidly and quickly than television and video back then. The Internet is not a scourge. Parents must learn and understand the Internet, and assume the responsibility of guidance and supervision, so that their children can boldly access the Internet. I support my child's access to the Internet and learn to use it with her. When my daughter just entered junior high school, when she encountered any difficult problems in her studies, we would look up information online and solve the problems together; sometimes we would also read the news and play some online chess games. We also installed the latest "Yahoo Messenger" together and chatted with distant friends through the voice system. Of course, we also have an agreement: you are not allowed to go online until the homework is completed, and you are not allowed to go online without my permission. I learned a lot of new knowledge from the Internet with her.

View 2: Inform children of the dangers of the Internet and control their online time. Parents will not object to their children obtaining useful knowledge through the Internet, but children often play games online day and night. In this way, parents will inevitably be worried. My children are an example. For a period of time, they would not go to bed until 12 o'clock or 1 o'clock in the middle of the night after surfing the Internet. This is very harmful to the body, and once you go to unhealthy websites, the consequences will be serious. After discussing with his father, I had several serious talks with him to let the child understand the dangers of being obsessed with the Internet and told him to use the Internet in moderation. At the same time, we also carry out some technical controls: we set a password so that he can only access the Internet within the scope and time allowed by us; we also often use "history records" to understand what websites the child has browsed, how long he has been there, etc. If problems are discovered and pointed out promptly, some online time will be deducted as punishment for violations. Now, the measures we have taken are beginning to bear fruit.

Viewpoint 3: The Internet is a spiritual compensation for children, and parents must understand their fun. I support my children in communicating with friends online, and sometimes I participate in their chats with her "permission". I found that they talked most about interesting things that happened in school or their favorite songs, and exchanged small messages and jokes. They also discussed the solutions to the exercises, and sometimes they inevitably complained about the "unfinished" homework and the grievances they suffered from the teachers (classmates). I quite understand the children. They are usually under heavy academic pressure in school and cannot often communicate with their classmates. In addition, we always require children to "students should focus on learning", which invisibly shrinks the children's life circle a lot. Most of today's children are only children and have no friends of the same age to talk to at home. Parents are busy with work and do not have much time to listen to their children's voices. The Internet is also a kind of spiritual compensation for children, where they can communicate with friends, talk about their worries, and share their joy. I support moderation and support children’s moderation and legitimate use of the Internet.

View 4: The Internet is just a tool, the key is to use it properly. Nowadays, when people talk about the Internet, they immediately think of "games, chatting, and pornography." It seems that "Internet" is synonymous with endless harm, and the media often "warns" "Students should stay away from the Internet. I think this view is one-sided. Just like knives and scissors may be the murder weapons of criminals, but we cannot live without them. Similarly, the Internet is just a tool. The key is how parents guide their children to use it scientifically. My attitude towards children playing computers and surfing the Internet is: they have both freedom and constraints. Use it when you need it for study, and don't use it when you don't. At a young age, my son is also financially savvy and will reasonably allocate his online time according to the monthly limit of the network card provided to him, without going too far. I deliberately did not install broadband on the computer at home. He felt that the speed was not as fast as the one at school, so he preferred to go to school and use the computer with his classmates. Learning computers is reassuring in a school environment with the implicit supervision of peers. Of course, I also agreed with my children that Internet cafes are absolutely not allowed (the school also has such requirements), otherwise they will be severely punished. Children can still abide by this.

View 5: Be a supporter and guide for children to explore the online world. I am an educator. I feel that children today are particularly hungry for new knowledge, and there is a lot of knowledge waiting for them to learn in the online world. However, teenagers have poor self-control and weak ability to distinguish. Parents and teachers have the responsibility to guide them across the "chat + game" hurdle, so that they can absorb nutrition from the Internet and grow up healthily.

I remember one time my daughter wanted to edit an environmental tabloid, so I encouraged her to edit it on the computer. I took her to search for environmental protection information on the Internet, download environmental protection pictures, and finally completed the homework brilliantly. I also encouraged her to turn the tabloid she wrote into an "audio publication" and asked her to email her work to her cousin in the United States. Not to mention how happy she is when she receives compliments from afar. It cannot be denied that there are indeed some unhealthy contents on the Internet. To this end, I have taken some preventive measures: such as installing control software to prevent and filter unhealthy content on the Internet.

Viewpoint 6: Use computers with children to cultivate their self-control. My daughter is a little Internet fan. I think there is nothing wrong with this. People who like reading can become book fans. Of course, people who like to surf the Internet can also become Internet fans. However, good and bad coexist in the online world, and children cannot distinguish right from wrong, which is worrying. Therefore, my approach is to use the computer with my children and try to avoid letting them surf the Internet alone. I do this for two purposes: one is to guide the child to surf the Internet correctly and help her solve difficulties in time; the other is to prevent the child from learning "human-machine dialogue" but forgetting "human-machine dialogue". When I don't have time, I invite my daughter's "idol" brother (my sister's child) to surf the Internet with her, and I stipulate that each time I spend online is 35 to 45 minutes, which is the time of one class in school. My daughter is willing to accept it and can abide by the agreement and get off the Internet on time. I believe that a good start is half the battle. If you set the rules from the beginning, then she will be able to control herself well when she surfs the Internet independently.

The Internet has penetrated into all aspects of life. The Internet is an ocean of information and a platform for communication. It is not a bad thing for children to be exposed to the Internet. The key is to let children use the Internet scientifically. They need correct guidance from adults. Parents may wish to abandon the mentality of rejection, experience the online world for themselves, accept and understand the Internet, and extend a warm hand when their children need help.