To be mature and sophisticated, I just want to be childlike and interesting.

In Zhiming and Chunjiao, Zhiming asks for more dry ice every time he buys ice cream in Haagen-Dazs downstairs, and then takes it home and covers the toilet. The fog overflowed from the edge of the toilet lid, creating a feeling of "fairyland". He squatted by the toilet and watched it, which was very interesting. Later, he took Chunjiao home, and they squatted on the ground to enjoy the "toilet wonderland", which I still think is one of the most touching love pictures.

In The True Story of Teddy Boy, the part where Teddy Boy (Leslie Cheung) dances to the music at home is simple, bold, casual and ingenious. At that moment, no matter how sad and helpless you are in this world and how many trivial things make people uneasy, it is very interesting. Every time I think of Wong Kar-wai's films full of literary feelings, I will recall this picture.

In Jin Yong's trilogy, the old urchin is the most "childlike". He is spontaneous and carefree, arguing with Guo Jing, playing tricks on Qiu, playing with the little dragon girl and playing with bees, so he found the lettering on the bees. When he saw Yang Guo, he pulled a martial arts competition ... It was very interesting.

In Haruki Murakami's Norwegian Forest, Yoko invited Watanabe to his home for the first time. After dinner, he found a fire in the distance, but Yoko picked up two cushions, four bottles of beer and guitar, and drank and sang on the balcony, intoxicated with the comfort in front of him. This is really interesting and romantic.

In the narration of Natsume's friends, Teacher Cat, as a "thousand-year-old demon", loves to bicker with Natsume after becoming a cat, likes to eat steamed bread and play tricks on monsters, and often has a hangover in the wild, so she is very spontaneous and extremely cute.

Miyazaki Hayao, My Neighbor Totoro, Spirited Away and Faceless Man, The Witch's House, Borrowing Villain, Ponyo ... galloping in the fields, lost in the forest, looking for love and innocence buried in the bottom of my heart in another parallel world, which is very interesting.

Let's see how psychologists interpret the reasons behind "fun".

Peter McGraw, a professor of psychology at the University of Colorado in the United States, put forward a simple theory of benign conflict in the book Humor Code, that is, fun exists in "benign conflict", that is, the performance of the other party gives people a psychological conflict, which is different from expectations, even "wrong, disturbing or threatening", but it seems to be "appropriate, acceptable or safe".

Matthew M.Hurley of Indiana University and others said in the book Inside Jokes that people will laugh because of things that conflict with reality, especially when these things involve some pleasant elements such as a certain point of view, schadenfreude, superiority and sexual teasing. The simplest are puns and pranks.

Then we go back to innocence. People who remain childlike often give people the performance of "benign conflict" psychologically, such as occasionally talking like a child, like playing some small pranks, dancing casually, and being curious about things in life.

"Benign" and "conflict" are indispensable. For example, it is boring to itch yourself because there is no conflict; For example, if you want to take care of your children all the time, you may no longer feel naive and interesting, because all the innocence of Ta is within your expectation, and there is actually no "conflict". At this time, if Ta suddenly becomes quiet and clever, you will find it "interesting".

If this "conflict" crosses the boundary of "benign", it is no longer interesting. For example, a strange uncle tickles you, "the feeling of threat or uneasiness exceeds the benign boundary", and you are no longer interesting; A colleague who is naive in private will feel "naive" if he shows it in a serious workplace, that is, your "naive" performance interferes with his work and crosses the boundary of "benign".

In fact, from the above theory, we will find that the greater the conflict within the scope of "benign conflict", the more interesting it will be.

For example, if an old urchin is not a peerless master, but a man with ordinary martial arts, his sense of childlike innocence will not be so strong and interesting, and he may just be another "silly aunt" in your eyes. So is Teacher Cat. He is a person who can protect Natsume anytime and anywhere, giving people a very stable and reliable impression, so his "innocence" looks very different. Imagine that he is just a cat, and you may not find it so interesting anymore.

For example, I am very interested in Tianhou Faye Wong, because she is a "Tianhou", but with wit and childlike innocence, it gives people a strong sense of conflict, such as:

1. Reporter: You usually take your children when you go out to sing. Faye Wong: Not necessarily. Look at her ... look at her schedule, haha.

2. Reporter: How to speak for shampoo after a haircut? Faye Wong: Short hair and no shampoo?

3. Reporter: You are the mother of the child, and you still pretend to be cute. Faye Wong: Can't the mother be cute?

4. Li also commented on her like this: "No matter men or women! A 37-year-old or 38-year-old person can still be so innocent and even naive in her mind. I think this is rare in the world.

Our company has a badminton interest group, and the director of the legal department often comes to play. Legal audit usually gives people the impression of being "serious and steady", and he is still responsible. But the minister is cute when he plays ball. He will spin and jump if he wins, and stamp his feet if he loses. This is a "surprise" with a strong sense of contrast, which is very interesting.

1. You don't give people the impression of "naivety", that is, you give people the impression of maturity and reliability first, which is the premise of conflict.

2. You will be childlike in private or relaxed occasions, be as curious as a child, and like some little pranks.

3. Face value and behavior are actually extra points. If you happen to be good-looking and cute, there will be many cute little moves, then your "innocence" will complement your face value and behavior and be more likable.

By the way, all your "naivety" should be sincere and heartfelt, and must not be deliberate or artificial, because "falsehood" will also make contradictions cross benign boundaries, such as "green tea bitch".

Finally, I want to be melodramatic:

Many people have become more and more sophisticated with their growth, and the forms of conversation and greetings have gradually become all "expected routines", especially in the workplace and social occasions where manners and forms have been emphasized for a long time, mature manners have been finalized, but the consciousness of maintaining "childlike innocence" has gradually lost. When the fun of "innocence" is lost, people will lose a lot of curiosity about the world, and natural people will begin to look boring and dull.

You go mature and sophisticated, I just want to be mature and unsophisticated, I want to keep my innocence, and I want to make my life full of little fun and little luck!