"Mother-in-law, why don't you help me with my confinement?" How to treat "no, who let you have a daughter?" 」

As we all know, confinement is the most difficult time in a woman's life. It is also the time when women and in-laws are most likely to have conflicts.

If you meet a good husband who is willing to adjust the contradiction between daughter-in-law and mother-in-law, then the daughter-in-law will not have to suffer a lot of grievances in the new family.

If you meet your mother, or always feel that her mother is very hard, this life is not easy, then let her husband and woman live very hard in the month.

Chang 'an thought that she would meet the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. In order to adjust the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law in advance and avoid confrontation with her mother-in-law, she has already done psychological construction with her husband. Chang 'an thought a lot about getting along with her mother-in-law, but she didn't think that she didn't want to come at all when she was confined.

Chang 'an even agreed with her mother that if her mother-in-law came to take care of her, she would be asked not to take care of those things that could not be done. Chang 'an's mother is still at work, not retired, and her daughter is in confinement. She wanted to take a month's long vacation and take good care of it, but the unit refused. She only took a week off.

Mom hopes Chang 'an can be pregnant for 42 days and not get sick.

02.

When Chang 'an became ill, her husband and mother took her to the hospital and waited for her to give birth smoothly outside the delivery room. My parents-in-law never came over, and my mother-in-law said that she couldn't let go of the chickens, sheep and pigs raised at home.

When the baby was born smoothly, the husband called his mother-in-law to report the good news. My husband was very excited when he saw Chang 'an, walked through the gate of hell and gave birth to his daughter. When introducing the delivery room, he kissed Chang 'an's forehead and repeatedly said, Wife, you have worked hard.

My husband tried his best to take care of Chang 'an during the half-month holiday. How time flies! Mom's holiday is coming, and I have to go back to work. My mother was very uneasy before going back to work, urging her son-in-law: I must ask my in-laws to help take care of my daughter who is confinement.

A week after my mother left, my husband took care of Chang 'an, who was confinement, and lost almost 10 kg.

My husband wants to take care of the baby alone, and he has to cook a monthly meal for Chang' an, buy food and wash clothes. A big man is too busy to change his baby's diaper and burp at night.

Chang' an couldn't bear to see her husband so hard, and said to her husband, why don't you take her mother-in-law there? There are only more than 20 days before confinement, so you don't have to help her so hard. You will start work next week, and there is no one at home. I will cook with my children alone, so it won't work.

My husband thinks Chang 'an is right. After he went to work, he was really worried that his daughter-in-law and children were alone at home and called his mother. The old man said, if you want me to give your daughter-in-law a confinement, you can let your daughter-in-law call herself.

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The voice on the other end of the phone is her mother-in-law's voice, which is very loud and full of Chang 'an's ears. Chang' an answered her husband's phone and cried sweetly to her mother-in-law: Mom, when will you take care of my confinement?

The mother-in-law at the other end of the phone said: My father-in-law is in poor health and needs someone to take care of him. The chickens, ducks and sheep at home are inseparable from myself. My father-in-law knows nothing and can't count on it.

Chang 'an's heart is so soft that she can't hear her mother-in-law suffering herself. She knew that her husband was helpless, and she couldn't bear to be embarrassed by him. Think about the remaining 20 days, maybe she will endure, and it should not be so hard to take care of the baby alone.

After her husband went to work, Chang 'an began a journey of taking care of the baby alone. In the middle of the night, Chang 'an suddenly had a high fever, and her husband helped to cool down. After feeding the medicine, Chang 'an slowly cooled down and fell asleep.

Before going to work the next day, my husband called my mother and told her that Chang 'an had a high fever and could not take care of the baby alone. I hope the old man can take care of his wife and children.

Mother-in-law didn't agree, only said: When Chang 'an wakes up, ask her to call me.

Chang 'an saw her husband's WeChat and called her mother-in-law. Mother-in-law said earnestly to Chang 'an: Chang 'an, mother-in-law knows that you are uncomfortable and sick. Maybe you don't know. In the tradition of our hometown, having a daughter and a mother-in-law will not take care of it. Only when a son is born will the mother-in-law take care of it. Who let your stomach disappoint? You gave birth to a son. I went early. Now that you have a daughter, I can't go if I want to. Others will laugh.

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Chang 'an listened to her mother-in-law's words and her fallacy of preferring sons to daughters, and said directly to her mother-in-law: Mom, our tradition there is that her mother-in-law is responsible for her daughter-in-law's confinement, and her daughter-in-law will help take care of her parents-in-law when she is old. In the second month, my mother-in-law didn't come to take care of her. When she is old, my daughter-in-law can take care of the elderly. Since you should follow your tradition, I will follow ours when you are old.

Chang An hung up the phone, feeling lost, but when he thought about it, he felt nothing. Chang 'an is a very transparent girl who knows that her mother-in-law is not a mother and can't hurt herself like a mother.

Chang 'an called her husband and asked him to contact the Obstetrics and Gynecology Hospital. Hospitals generally have regular confinement. By the way, she also told her husband what her mother-in-law said.

My husband said after listening, Chang 'an, don't worry. When my parents are old, you just have to respect them. I promise I won't say anything.

Chang 'an is glad that her husband is not a foolish, loyal and filial person. He can understand his mother's hard work and difficulty, and he can also understand Chang 'an as his wife. She is not hard or easy.

The new moon was soon found and everything was done cleanly. Taking care of the baby and Chang 'an during the day, getting up at night, taking care of the baby is particularly intimate.

05.

Looking back, Chang 'an found the moon for more than 20 days, but fortunately it was taken care of by the new moon. Otherwise, if you really live with your mother-in-law, it must be a chicken feather, and there are constant contradictions.

Three years later, Chang 'an gave birth to a second baby boy. When my mother-in-law heard that she had a male grandson, she was anxious to come and take care of Chang 'an. She told her mother-in-law that you don't have to come over. I have found a new moon. You don't have to work hard. Let's forget what happened last time I was grounded.

Last confinement, my mother-in-law didn't want to take care of her. At that time, Chang 'an also said some angry words, which she ignored long ago, because her husband's kindness to her could offset her mother-in-law's unkindness to herself.

After working in Chang 'an, occasionally a little sister always complains that her mother-in-law is unwilling to take care of her confinement. Chang' an will advise her: please have a new moon. The new moon is definitely better than her mother-in-law's care, without grievances and conflicts.

What made her mother-in-law forget the last unhappy confinement was not how generous Chang 'an was, but because she knew that her mother-in-law was really not her own mother. Don't expect your mother-in-law to be like your own mother. The people who love you the most in the world will always be your parents who give you life.

Although Chang 'an doesn't have a good mother-in-law, she has a husband who knows both cold and hot and loves her very much.

In fact, for a woman, what really matters is not her mother-in-law's words and attitude, but her husband's attitude and thoughts. As long as the husband can do it, he will not be partial to his mother-in-law or her mother-in-law. Be a little fairer. There are many things between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and the daughter-in-law really doesn't care about her mother-in-law.

Because Chang 'an knows that she was hurt by her mother-in-law, and her husband can cure her. What a woman fears most is being wronged by her mother-in-law and her husband. Double whammy is the biggest harm to women.

First, if the mother-in-law can't take care of her in the second month, it's best to ask Yueyue to take care of her.

Yue Yue has professional experience and scientific methods to take care of mothers and babies. Yue Yue's care can avoid the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law during the confinement period, thus causing the daughter-in-law's inner depression and depression.

The biggest cause of postpartum depression is the negligence and injustice of mother-in-law or husband. The new moon will not have such a psychological effect on mother.

It is most important for a lying-in woman to keep a good mood when she is confinement, and finding a new moon is one of the best ways to avoid the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.

Second, it is not terrible to meet an unreasonable mother-in-law, as long as her husband is good enough.

Many women are disappointed in their married life. The most fundamental reason is that their husbands don't care about anything except standing on their mother's side. They find it particularly difficult for their mothers to support themselves. They have never considered their wives' difficulties from the standpoint of their husbands.

In fact, women are not afraid at all, unreasonable mother-in-law, not afraid of her mother-in-law's importune, as long as her husband is good enough for himself, the problems between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law can really be solved.

Contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law As a son and husband, a man should be kind to his mother, but he should also try his best to be kind to his daughter-in-law, because this woman once risked her life for you and gave birth to a child.

Men should remember that a husband's kindness to his daughter-in-law can offset all the bad things that her mother-in-law does to her daughter-in-law.

Third, daughter-in-law, please believe that your mother-in-law is not your own mother at any time.

When a woman is married, please remember at any time that her mother-in-law is not your biological mother. What she always cares about most is her son and grandson, and never you.

Especially the daughter-in-law who lives with her mother-in-law can feel this more. A delicious mother-in-law will leave it to her son, and treat her son better than her daughter-in-law.

Although the practice is wrong, it is also human nature, because everyone will pay special attention to their children. No matter how big the son is, he will always be the son of his mother-in-law. If he can get along with his mother-in-law on the basis of understanding this, his wife will not be depressed and angry all the time.

Because the mother-in-law is really not your biological mother, many times women should live a little more transparently, confused and generous, which makes it easier to be happy.