My wife does nothing, doesn't go to work or do housework, and always says to take care of me.

Your question reminds me that "men are from Mars and women are from Mercury", because different ways of thinking have different demands for marriage. Try to communicate and think from each other's point of view.

No big deal. It's a good thing that you give her a massage before she cleans. She stopped cleaning because you screwed up-I think she doubted your feelings for her because she complained that you didn't cherish the fruits of her labor. That's what women think, so the trick is: restrain your pushing and letting go, plus sweet talk. You are younger than her, try to stimulate her protective desire and motherhood.

Married life for a long time will lead to fatigue, ignore the other party's efforts, take what she/he does for granted, and what she/he doesn't do is heinous. Think more about each other's good, especially the husband's wife's good. If you want to talk more, you can't stop doing and talking, can you?