Why are women always said to worship money?

A few years ago, a dating show was very popular. A female guest said the following famous saying - I would rather cry in a BMW than laugh on a bicycle.

It immediately aroused widespread discussion in the society and criticized the girl's money worship.

Are women really that money-worshipping when choosing a mate? Why do women have a money-worship mentality when choosing a mate?

I wrote in a previous article that human evolution mainly occurred in the hunting-gathering era of the Pleistocene. Evolutionary psychology believes that humans have evolved different psychological mechanisms in order to survive and better preserve their genes.

On the issue of mate selection, evolutionary psychology infers that men love to look for young and beautiful girls. This issue was discussed in the previous article "Why do men love girls no matter how old they are?" 》Already said.

When women choose a mate, they hope to find a spouse who can provide them with better resources.

In the document "Cross-cultural Test of the Psychological Mechanism Hypothesis of Mate Selection in Evolutionary Psychology - Taking the Content Analysis of Marriage Announcements in Tianjin and Boston as an Example", psychologists studied the content of marriage advertisements in Tianjin and Boston. Among the marriage notices, there were 404 cases in Tianjin and 425 cases in Boston. The marriage notices were about evenly divided between men and women.

A marriage notice is a serious notice of mate selection. The content of the notice includes a description of one's own conditions and requirements for a spouse.

It is generally believed that the requirements in a marriage advertisement are carefully considered by the person seeking marriage. Marriage advertisements include two aspects: one is a description of one's own conditions, and the other is a description of requirements for a spouse.

The results found that Tianjin and Boston, two cities that represent Eastern and Western cultures respectively, had surprisingly consistent results.

In female marriage notices, men are required to have good financial conditions and be responsible, and these requirements appear most frequently.

In male marriage announcements, men from both places also unanimously describe themselves with words such as good economic conditions and stable jobs.

This cross-cultural study has verified the consistency of the psychological mechanism of human mate selection - when women choose a mate, they hope to find a mate who can provide them with better resources. And men are also subconsciously catering to this requirement and showing their economic strength to women.

Why did women evolve this mate selection mentality?

The difference between women and men is not only the difference in physical strength, but also the fact that women need to face pregnancy and childbirth. During pregnancy, childbirth and child rearing, women’s personal activities are limited, and it is difficult for women to survive and survive on their own. Raise children. A man who can provide himself with good resources, has a strong sense of responsibility, and is willing to provide resources to pregnant women and babies can ensure the survival of women and young children.

In modern society, favorable economic conditions and stable jobs are undoubtedly proof that good resources can be provided to pregnant women.

From this perspective, it is understandable that women require men to have certain financial conditions before getting married.

Even working women face a drop in income after pregnancy. The protection of nutrition during pregnancy, the supply of milk powder and diapers for children, and the fact that women are unable to work because they accompany their children to grow up are all practical issues that require support from men.

After all, this conclusion only explains the concept of mate selection from a macro perspective. This is not an excuse for us to blindly worship money in the actual process of finding a partner. After all, civilization has developed for thousands of years, and humans who have walked upright should not be controlled by their own instincts.

With the development of civilization and the improvement of social security, human beings, who have long since escaped the crisis of survival, should have greater freedom of choice when it comes to choosing a spouse. You should listen more to your inner voice and find a partner who is connected to your soul, instead of being dominated by the fear inherent in your own genes.