In the workplace, popularity is very important. Do you need to attend some parties or activities frequently to accumulate popularity?

The popularity of the workplace is very important, and the accumulation personnel don't have to attend some party activities often. People in the workplace are representatives, sometimes representing a country, a group company and a public institution. They attach great importance to personal cultivation, etiquette, representativeness of speech, priority and consistency of language, sense of justice, legitimacy and sufficiency, which makes people feel sweet, comfortable, supportive and supportive after listening, which is inseparable from a person's usual study and workplace experience accumulation.

People in the workplace seldom talk casually, but he pays great attention to observation. His speech is targeted, representative and logical.

People in the workplace have strong sensitivity, strong reaction ability and excellent confidentiality, and will not inadvertently reveal any secrets, let alone inadvertently lay a trap for others.

People in the workplace are very strict. They never say things they shouldn't say, never do things they shouldn't do, and people they shouldn't contact are not easy to contact.

There is another kind of person in the workplace, who has strong organizational discipline, refuses corruption, does not treat guests, and does not accept gifts. He is a good assistant and helper of the leader. That's the real leader. I don't want to worry about the leader at work. When the leader is away, the leadership work is very reassuring.

Hello, I'm glad to be invited to answer questions.

In the workplace, popularity is very important. Do you need to attend some parties or activities frequently to accumulate popularity?

The workplace is also a part of life. The answer to this question is certainly not yes. Why?

In fact, popularity is a very profound problem, which is related to life attitude and personality. There is no need to attend some parties or activities often.

Relationships in the workplace can also be established in many other ways:

First of all, don't speak ill of colleagues behind their backs.

There will inevitably be some "conflicts" and "frictions" between colleagues, and it is inevitable that some people will make some small mistakes. However, don't preach "bad words" or "reverse right and wrong" of colleagues behind their backs; Similarly, don't believe what "little people" say. You must think twice. Over time, you will be able to judge the character of your colleagues.

Of course, we need to praise and praise the advantages of our colleagues, so that after the parties know, your relationship will be bad (note here that it must be heartfelt praise, not "false" flattery, hahaha, you know)

Second, "there must be a teacher in a threesome", and it is a good thing to help others.

A unit, a department, is a team, and the core of the team is to cooperate with each other to become an invincible team!

Sure, how to cooperate? This is a problem ... in fact, we all have feelings, especially on the first day of entering the workplace. What we most expect is to have a senior working with us for a period of time. This is what many companies have been doing and it is very commendable.

In fact, it is to help colleagues solve current problems and improve the overall "combat capability" of the team. We will also find that our close colleagues have either accepted our help or the "group of people" who have helped us.

Therefore, in the workplace, there must be a teacher in a threesome, and everyone has his own skills. This is also a good "weapon" to help others and a good "brush" to gain good popularity.

Third, don't offend "little people" and be polite when meeting.

There is an old saying that it is better to offend a gentleman than a villain.

The "stubborn" flat-headed brother in the animal kingdom and the unruly mink bear, although many of us have never seen their true colors, we have also heard of them. They are stubborn and irritable because they are "bad-tempered", aggressive and unforgiving!

In the workplace, you must stay away from this "excellent" partner, but be more polite when meeting, so as to "avoid disaster", hahaha ... you must understand here again.

Fourth, dare to express personal views and avoid blind obedience.

The person the boss wants to like most is a person with unique opinions, not a blind follower.

In meetings or ordinary workplace communication, when a problem needs to be solved, most people's first reaction is to find the cause of the problem. However, this is not what the boss wants to know most. What the boss wants to know most is how to deal with this problem after it happens!

Therefore, colleagues who dare to express their personal opinions will gain more respect from their partners and more love from their bosses. Do you remember this sentence? "Come on, fart!" This is the boss's "mantra" that often appears in movies. It can be seen that the boss needs employees who can make things clear at once and give "solutions" quickly.

Of course, when you have your own opinions, you can't just "refuse to agree" with others. After all, relationships need to be maintained. When arguing with others, you should also pay attention to avoiding excessive emotions.

There are many ways to accumulate popularity in the workplace, all of which are personal experiences. I hope it will help you.

I wish you success in your work and good popularity. Let's go

However, the connection is actually mutual. If you can't provide others with the resources and help they need, why should others establish so-called contact with you? It can be said that most of the contacts gained through parties and activities can only help you meet the person you want to contact, meet again in the future, or when you need to establish contact, you can tell him/her which party we met before, which is less abrupt and easier to break the ice, but the real connection still comes from your real energy. People who can't provide value are not good contacts, and people won't chat with you casually.

Networking is not a tool and capital to show off. What can really help you when you need it is effective contacts. The contacts gained from party activities may not be able to establish deep connections. Many times, you can only understand it through a business card and a WeChat. It is unlikely that there will be a real intersection. Wandering in various bureaus, imagining that you can become your network as long as you add WeChat? Do you have any misunderstanding about the connection? Unequal connections will never be your effective connections. At best, it's just a name in your address book and business card book.

Make friends with people higher than you. There is a book called How to Make Friends with People Better than You: Building a Network Thinking Mode. Isn't there a popular saying that the five people you contact the most every day represent your level? If you find that your circle of friends has always been like this, and there has been no fresh blood, you may need to reflect. Should we expand our circle of friends? Of course, parties and activities are really a way to meet people who are more advanced than you. Otherwise, you won't have a chance to meet those big cows. However, if you meet them, you can't impress them and give them the value they need. If you have no solution, you can't get what you want.

Only by making yourself valuable and better can you really enter the quality circle. When you can provide value to others, you can think that you have established a real network of contacts. Don't you like labeling yourself now? What life planner, real estate planner, personal asset planner, personal brand builder and so on. Others can establish contact with you through your characteristics, and when you need help in related matters, they will contact you, that is, use the network of contacts.

In the workplace, the handling of interpersonal relationships has always been a hot topic. For different people, the method is different.

People who like to participate in party activities can get some links to workplace relations through party activities. But what about introverts who don't like to go to parties?

So don't worry about introversion. There are many ways to cultivate interpersonal relationships, and there is always one that suits you!

This question is really difficult to answer. I can only give you some advice from several aspects, and share with you how I did it according to my own personal experience.

Let me talk about myself first. I am also a very introverted person. I used to be afraid to ask questions in class when I was studying. I blush when I talk to girls in college and graduate school, let alone fall in love.

1, frustrated when entering the workplace.

I first entered the workplace, entered a state-owned enterprise, and joined the company with my roommate. Our work content is very similar. But my roommate can talk better than me. Many times I don't want to communicate and ask questions, so my roommate will do it.

So there's a problem. My roommate gets much more performance opportunities than I do. So in the eyes of the leader, my leader thinks that my roommate is much better than me.

I felt depressed at that time and wanted to change, but sometimes I wanted to say it, but I felt I couldn't.

2. When buying a house, I was forced to speak.

In this way, I have been thinking about change, but I have not acted. I planned to buy a house until that year.

When buying a house, you have to call many agents to ask questions. I didn't want to call at first. Then I was scolded by my girlfriend every day, saying that I didn't have the courage to do great things.

So I crustily skin of head, one by one to call the intermediary, call the landlord.

Facts have proved that people can't grow up without being forced. Before buying a house, I hated calling others, even my mother.

But after buying a house, I found that I broke through this barrier. I don't think there is anything terrible about communicating with others. Before, I didn't want to talk to others or make phone calls. Actually, it's more my heart.

3, the second job, I am alone.

Later, I jumped ship and became the head of a department. Although I am the supervisor of an engineer, I am the only engineer in my department.

At this time, no one stood up for me and no one helped me. There is only one way for me to communicate with others bravely.

The nature of my job determines that I want to show my face and communicate with others. Because my main task is to push others to do projects.

I mainly face two kinds of people:

A) The department managers who report to the factory director like me are older and have higher levels than me.

B) Workshop supervisors and team leaders who often cooperate with me.

At that time, I analyzed the difficulty of communicating with these two groups. I think we should start with people below me. People in the workshop are simpler and easier to communicate with.

4. Workshop team leader.

I found that all the team leaders in the workshop smoked. I didn't smoke at that time, but I bought cigarettes with me. Every time they smoke, I smoke. Actually, it doesn't cost much, but I found this effect very good.

Soon, I got acquainted with the team leader in the workshop.

Then I used my second trick, because I was responsible for the collection of workshop rationalization suggestions and the distribution of gifts. So I often look for some improvement ideas in the workshop, and then call the team leader to write reasonable suggestions, and I will give them gifts.

In this way, I will soon become one with them. This gave me great confidence, because I began to speak.

But at that time I was still not very good at communicating with some engineers/department managers.

5, work more, help others more, give people roses, and leave a lingering fragrance in your hand.

I am good at using excel, so I will use this as my diplomatic means.

We have many engineers who often work overtime because they deal with a lot of data. So I will develop some templates for them from time to time and teach them some formula functions.

In this way, many engineers I have trained and helped get along well with me. I also gradually integrated into their communication circle. Usually they don't want to go with me for dinner, because I don't talk much.

Later, at dinner, they all asked me to go with them. Once you enter this environment, you will become talkative. So I gradually learned how to joke and chat with others.

6. Communicate with the department manager

I have to admit, it is difficult to get along with people taller than you. People are born with the concept of hierarchy, or hierarchy. Although we have been talking about equality for many years.

I didn't do well at this point at first, or very badly. When I meet someone with a higher level than me, my voice is obviously low.

This requires exercise and self-overcoming.

I mainly did a few things to slowly establish contact with them:

A) The department manager has a dinner party, which is of course organized by the company;

B) department manager meeting, because although my level is not high, my boss is the same as them;

C) Actively help them to work, help them solve problems and win their approval;

D) communicate with them actively.

It can be said that with the experience of this job, I went to other companies and became versatile. Even if I leave my job, many colleagues will miss me.

The above is my personal experience. I summarize a few points that may be helpful to you.

A) You don't have to have a dinner party or a group building to build a good relationship with your colleagues, but you can also build feelings with your colleagues at work. Use some communication time at work. Such as lunch, break time and so on.

B) take the initiative to speak. If you keep silent, no one will come to you. This should be the most important point. Many people's introversion is a mental disorder. Or the pressure is not enough, once the pressure reaches a certain level, facing the problem of life and death, what you don't want to do will be done.

C) learn to tell jokes. Work is boring, so people who can tell jokes in the office are very popular.

D) Be good at using small favors, and don't have to pay by yourself. Sometimes you can use the company's policies to get some benefits for others, so that others will be good to you. Once I think you are good, I will take the initiative to find you, help you and communicate with you. For example, use your own strengths to help people like me, so that others will become friends with you over time.

E) Finally, believe that you are not introverted. As long as the world is willing to change, there will be no introverts. So try and speak bravely.

I hope the above will help you.

Thank you.

The answer to this question is not necessarily.

Although I am a speech coach myself, I don't like ineffective social interaction very much. Normally, I refuse to socialize ineffectively. But I will definitely participate in effective social activities and even organize myself.

This mainly lies in the main purpose of the party or activity. For example, just yesterday, our company organized a group building, some people didn't like it, but I know very well that the purpose of this group building is to get closer to the new team and have a good opportunity to get to know each other, so I must attend.

If you are introverted and participate in effective social activities, you think it will help you. Whether you go or not, you can refuse some wine and meat parties.

What is effective social interaction? It is a party that can achieve one of your personal goals, such as increasing your feelings with leading colleagues, and hearing many life stories of your predecessors at the party. It's like learning a lot after several lifetimes. ......

If you go to a party, no one will notice you, just as if you didn't attend. If you go to such a party, it's like not attending it. So since you are involved, let yourself be involved, achieve the purpose of effective social interaction, and finally play the role of accumulating contacts.

Good interpersonal relationship is really beneficial to people's development in the workplace. Especially in the system, a good mass base will be a big advantage for you to get promoted (democratic satisfaction is a content of inspecting cadres at higher levels).

When communicating in the workplace, we must think clearly about a problem. Why spread it? What's the use of being popular?

If you work in a private enterprise, do your own things, and there are not many things that need to be coordinated and communicated in your work, then being popular will have no effect. Because you're here to work to make money, it's no use being popular without making money. At this time, instead of spending energy on communication, it is better to spend time on learning and improving business skills.

If you work in the system, there are many things that need to be communicated and coordinated, and it is necessary to establish good interpersonal relationships, otherwise some things at work will be difficult to promote. At this time, efforts are made to establish interpersonal relationships in order to better promote work. It is also to get a higher democratic evaluation when the superior inspects the cadres.

So, how to establish a good interpersonal relationship?

It is enough to grasp the core of value exchange. For example, if you help your colleague when he needs help, he will certainly come to help you next time you need help; For another example, if your colleagues help you, no matter how big or small, you should thank your colleagues, because your colleagues have no obligation to help you, and your gratitude will make your colleagues continue to help you next time.

The key to interpersonal relationships is to go back and forth and interweave with each other. What you owe me, what I owe you. Only when there are more and more exchanges between them will the relationship between the two people become closer and closer. But one thing to remember at all times is what is the purpose of your interpersonal relationship!

Not exactly. You also said "workplace". Since it is a "workplace", it is more important to ensure that you are "easy to use" and are not suspected.

Hello, I'm Chang Zhi Dongsheng, and I'm glad to answer this question.

The popularity in the workplace is really important. Having a good popularity can make the work smoother, avoid detours and pits, avoid unnecessary losses, and reduce the passive situation caused by lagging information and untimely communication. In short, good popularity can help the workplace and make you feel at home.

So, how is good workplace popularity accumulated? Do you really need to attend some parties or activities often to accumulate popularity?

Let me express my personal opinion and tell the story around me.

One of my former leaders, a general manager of a private enterprise, likes to drink, and his alcohol consumption is estimated to be only half a catty, but he is very timid, so he likes to make friends and pull feelings on the wine table. When he drinks too much, he will be brothers. Therefore, people who like to drink especially like his personality, like to make friends with him, like to drink with him, appreciate his personality, and then are willing to carry out business cooperation with him. Indeed, he has established some very hard-core relationships through eating and drinking, which can be maintained for a long time and become an important resource for him to help in the workplace.

However, there is another situation. Some people don't like drinking. In the process of contact with him, at the dinner table, they hate being drunk. They rejected his so-called rhetoric after drinking and hated his arrogance after drinking. This kind of behavior will not be understood as a temperament middleman, but will be labeled as having no quality, no alcohol and no intimate friends. But because it is a business or work partner, I don't have much expression, just deliberately keep my distance. Moreover, when he doesn't drink, his manners are very decent, and his professional skills and negotiation skills are very solid, so everyone still admires him.

Therefore, good popularity can not be accumulated by attending parties or activities frequently.

You may be able to make good friends and build a good relationship with people who like to be lively and enjoy drinking, eating and partying, but people who don't like this kind of thing should not adopt this method. And this popularity is not necessarily reliable, commonly known as fair-weather friends.

A good popularity should be to appreciate your ability, like your personality, admire your wisdom and be willing to be true friends with you. This kind of relationship is the real accumulation of good popularity, which requires you to constantly improve your business ability and professional skills, gradually gain the respect and admiration of others in pragmatic work, be sincere and friendly in preheating communication, and so on. This is the right way!

I'm glad to be invited to answer your questions.

The popularity in the workplace is really important and the interpersonal relationship is good. To some extent, it shows that you have high emotional intelligence and strong communication and coordination skills. Good popularity can help you get more support and help in your work, reduce obstacles and work more smoothly, thus contributing to the development of the workplace.

Do you need to attend some parties or activities frequently to accumulate popularity? Personally, I think that good popularity can't be accumulated by attending parties or activities frequently. If you want to please everyone in the workplace, you are nothing more than an "acquaintance" in the eyes of everyone. If you want to become a respected and highly recognized professional through your own efforts, you should concentrate on your work instead of developing your personal charm through parties or activities.

The questioner mentioned that he didn't like to get together with many people because he was introverted. This really varies from person to person. Everyone has his own personality characteristics and hobbies. It is suggested that you don't have to force yourself to get together for the sake of the party, just attend according to your own time and energy. There are many other ways to build popularity in the workplace.

1. Be a polite person, whether to people around you or strangers, and you can keep basic courtesy, so that you can always treat others in this state, and you will get a good reputation and image. Be enthusiastic and sincere in your work. For example, no matter what position the other person is, you should greet them and show them a sincere smile.

2. Take the initiative to help others and maintain a warm and positive attitude towards life. When a colleague needs help, you take the initiative to help him, and the other person will keep it in mind to make your interpersonal relationship more harmonious.

3. You can accumulate good popularity for yourself without doing anything against your moral conscience. In modern society, information is very developed, and what you do can spread quickly in the circle, so to accumulate good popularity, you still need to be a good person, at least a well-behaved person.

Be careful what you say and do at work. Don't gossip behind people's backs, especially when it comes to colleagues' personal privacy. This will reduce the goodwill of others and make you feel untrustworthy.

6. Finally, I suggest you try to change your introverted personality, get close to people around you and make some good friends. As a member of the modern workplace, we should be as extroverted as possible and take the initiative to approach people around us, which will also be of great help to our good popularity.