When my hair turns gray, take me to see thousands of rivers and mountains

01 Beautiful love always comes in many shapes and forms, but life after marriage is a bit static

When we were young, our love was as brilliant as flowers and in various shapes. We looked forward to "when I grow my hair and "Waist, how about marrying me as a young man?" The word "marry" seems to complete our love. In fact, it is not the case. It is just the completion of a certain segment at a certain time in life. Our life is still going on, and our segments are still there. A lot, so we still need to manage it. Marriage just means that we have a love garden that belongs to both of us, and the maintenance of this garden requires the joint efforts of both of us. We need to weed, fertilize, and... We need to learn to deal with the infestation of pests. If we think that entering the bridal chamber is the completion of our merits, then pests will attack us in our unchanging life.

Ms. A, 45 years old, has been married for 23 years and has a 21-year-old son who is still studying in college. Two months ago, she discovered the WeChat record of her husband’s cheating. Later, she suffered from insomnia and tears every night, and had no sperm during the day. She lost a lot of weight while playing lottery, and she lost a lot of weight. Under the persuasion of her friends, she came to seek help from psychological counseling. After arriving at the studio, she started to cry as soon as she sat down. As soon as I asked her the first sentence, she She burst into tears and said that she never thought that her husband would cheat on her. They were college classmates and her husband was very handsome. There were other girls chasing him at the time, but he chose her in the end. As soon as he graduated He proposed to her, and she said she would always remember the morning when he proposed. She had just gotten up and was combing her hair in front of the mirror. He came over and helped her pick up the comb. While combing her hair, he said, "I want to marry her every day from now on." Can I help you comb your hair?' So, they got married like the prince and princess in the fairy tale. After their marriage, they have always been in a good relationship, very loving, and their son has grown up and has been admitted to a prestigious school. Everything seems to be good. Everything looked so beautiful, and she thought she would live a happy life from then on. Unexpectedly, she was completely broken by her husband. She really couldn't understand why God would make such a big deal with her today when her hair was gray. A joke caused such a situation between them, making the beautiful love she was once proud of now so embarrassing. She asked me: Is this really a joke? Is marriage really The grave of love? Is there really no love that lasts forever? If not, then what is the reason?

02 The garden of marriage requires us to weed, fertilize and eliminate pests

I remember not long ago that I saw a piece of news about a loving couple. They thought they would live their lives in an ordinary way like many couples. Unexpectedly, his wife unfortunately suffered from cancer in 1996, and the painful husband suddenly died. He found that life was so unpredictable. They didn't cherish life in the past. They hadn't lived well, so how could they just give up? So, he decided to make some changes and change their original living conditions. So, After his wife was discharged from the hospital after three years of chemotherapy, the husband decided to take her out for some fun and change her living habits and environment... In the past 18 years, he drove his wife all over the great rivers and mountains of the motherland and walked 200,000 After traveling 1,060 kilometers and visiting 1,060 scenic spots across the country, my wife’s illness has been cured under the influence of these mountains and rivers. The husband said that his wife’s health is getting better and better, and she has no more illnesses...

Ms. A said that the partner her husband cheated on was a travel companion she met during outdoor activities. The travel companion was divorced and single, so during activities, she would always find Ms. A’s husband to cooperate with her. Over time, some things happened. What shouldn't have happened, Ms. A's husband felt very guilty afterwards, and proposed breaking up many times. However, unexpectedly, the traveling friend went directly to Ms. A to protest, and Ms. A woke up as if from a dream. Ms. A is a private The company's accountant is usually very busy with his work and has no other hobbies. Mr. A is a civil servant and has a lot of holiday time. He used to be mainly responsible for his son's study in his spare time. Later, after his son was admitted to college, Mr. A Falling in love with outdoor sports, Mr. A once asked Ms. A many times to go hiking and hiking together during holidays, but Ms. A refused because she was not interested. Slowly, the communication between the couple began to decrease. Get up...

03 When my hair is gray, take me to see thousands of rivers and mountains

When I told Ms. A the above news, she was silent for a while and told me She said that she is the accounting supervisor of the company and is very busy at work. Therefore, she has always had work in her mind. Sometimes she would come home and lose her temper for no apparent reason because of problems at work. She has indeed neglected many aspects. Her husband’s feelings, but now she has taken leave for more than a month because of her husband’s cheating. Therefore, it is not that she cannot give up her work. It’s just that these things didn’t happen before and she always felt that making money was more important. Actually, think about it, before I never want to go out with my husband. I just feel that this is how a couple should live a normal life after marriage. How could they have imagined that these things would happen? Now my husband has also completely cut off contact with that woman. He comes home on time every day to cook and do housework. It’s just that the atmosphere at home is weird and depressing....

We always think, isn’t life like this? Busy every day, working hard to have a good life? But we But they ignore what they have now, such as a healthy body, a happy family... What is a better life? Maybe

We will never be satisfied, so we are always chasing what we have not got, but we take what we have got for granted, thinking that it will never leave us. But the constant in life is change, everything is changing. Changes are taking place quietly. For example, the black hair that once was fluttering is now gray. The boy who was once a classmate has now lost all his hair. Once I said I miss you, you can ride a bicycle for several hours to come and see me. , and now every time I ask you to accompany me to climb mountains, you say that I am too annoying...

So, in order to witness our love and protect our happiness, maybe in addition to the original sentence: Wait for me to grow my hair Is it okay for a young man to marry me when he reaches his waist? We also need another vow, that is: when my hair is gray, take me to see thousands of rivers and mountains...