The first half of my life: Why are more and more people disappointed in marriage?

In the first half of my life, it was a TV play about marriage and family. Housewife Luo Zijun has a sense of crisis and her heart is extremely empty and uneasy. Under the intervention of Xiao San, her marriage with her husband Chen finally ended. Chen said that the promise to take care of her for life turned into a joke. It is not difficult to have a vibrant love, but it is not easy to maintain a long-term marriage. Many people think that the temperature of love and marriage is different. Love is hot, and marriage is lukewarm.

Chen is tired of his wife Luo Zijun. He complained to his lover that his wife was always suspicious. When he wanted her to find a job, Chen described his wife like this: she didn't want to do anything, and she couldn't do it well. Chen disapproves of such a wife from the bottom of his heart. But Zijun has a reason: when he married me, he told me not to work, and he said he would support me for life. Even so, Chen abandoned Luo Zijun, and he didn't want such a life.

There are three reasons why more and more people are disappointed in marriage:

1, invalid communication

Communication in marriage is very important. They are not on the same channel. On the one hand, communication fails, on the other hand, it is unwilling to communicate. The temperature of marriage without communication will drop to freezing point, and many contradictions will escalate without communication.

2, personality disagreement

Personality disagreement is an important reason why many couples are dissatisfied with marriage. Many people think each other has changed since they got married. But in fact, when we are in love, in order to develop the relationship, we may unconsciously play the role that the other party likes. The other party thinks they are filtered and beautified. But after marriage, each other will be more real, each other will show a complete personality rather than a microcosm, and the shortcomings in the natural personality will be magnified.

3, always focus on the other half in marriage, don't grow up again.

When your eyes start to leave you and always focus on the other half, our own growth will stop. At this time, if you lose your self-awareness, it is easy to turn yourself into a boring person and make the other person want to escape. Therefore, for women, the best emotional reserve is never how to persuade the other person to change his mind, but to find the lost self first, so as to rebuild the balance of the relationship.

Modern women should demand more equal roles in marriage, hoping to give consideration to career and family. Taking care of one's own work, taking care of children and dealing with the relationship between relatives and friends of two families often weigh heavily on modern women, which are all factors affecting the quality of women's marriage.