Why do some parents force their children to study hard without self-study?

At present, for various reasons, some parents seldom or never study, but they force their children to study. Why? I think there are two main reasons:

First, parents' desire for success is more urgent. Thirty or forty years ago, although people thought reading was very important, due to the limitations of economic conditions and ideological understanding, many parents had no long-term vision, and it was a natural mentality for children to study and study. They don't care much about how they read. Some parents think that successful trees don't need to be cut down. Just like when I was in elementary school and junior high school, my parents asked me how my grades were, but they really didn't care too much, didn't worry, and didn't force us to study, not only me, but also other children and parents.

It's different now. Parents realize that reading and studying can change a person's fate, but some children don't understand the truth because of their age, so they force him to study.

Second, some parents pin their hopes on their children when they can't study. Reading can really change a person's fate. Some people study well and eventually succeed, realizing their own life value. On the contrary, some people don't study hard and accomplish nothing in their lives. When they see others flying far and high by reading, they feel infinite regret. However, there is no regret medicine in the world, so they pin their hopes on their children and hope that they will succeed and make a difference.

I met several parents who forced their children to learn to brush questions every day instead of studying. I reprimanded the child as soon as I had an opinion: "Just because I didn't study hard at school and didn't go to college, my intestines are regretful now, so my tragedy can't happen to you." You must study hard, get into a good university and have a good job. "

Third, it is related to the current educational environment. I remember that 30 or 40 years ago, there were examinations in primary and secondary schools to announce the results, but the competition among students, classes, teachers and schools was not very fierce. Schools, teachers, students and parents are very calm in the face of exam results, and everything is natural. No one will be anxious, and no one will be upset.

But it's different now. The competition between primary and secondary schools is becoming more and more fierce. There is competition among schools, classes, teachers and students. It has become a common mentality for everyone to surpass others and strive to be the first. Those with excellent grades can go to good middle schools and good universities. In the fierce competition, parents naturally dare not relax their children's study, and sometimes even force them to study.

Such parents were rare decades ago, but now they are common. Walking on the street, you can always see parents sending their children to cram schools, and even in ordinary families, you can always see children burying their heads in learning to brush questions.

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