Why can't you forgive those who hurt you easily?

It doesn't matter that not every apology can be bought. Nowadays, many people begin to feel that they should thank those who have hurt themselves, because they let themselves grow and become strong. I just want to say that this idea is really self-abuse. People who have hurt you should thank him instead. What about those who treat you well in time? How should you treat them? Should we hold the heart of complaining instead?

Blind generosity encourages violence.

Injury is injury, and any kind of injury is not kind, so I really don't like the saying that others forgive those who have hurt themselves. On the contrary, you will be grateful to them. This is not to let them push their luck to harm people? What kind of idea is this? I really don't understand. If I have to thank myself, I might as well thank myself for not being defeated and still choose to face life with a smile.

As Degang Guo said, if you haven't experienced the pain of others, don't persuade others to be generous. Many people around you may persuade themselves not to be sad. They are with you, but in fact, if the needle doesn't stick to someone else, you won't feel the same pain at all. There is no such thing as empathy. These words are just to comfort you now. This is the way society is, so I quite agree with Degang Guo that you should stay away from the unknown.

Forgiveness without a bottom line will only lead to more cruel atrocities.

It's like those people don't understand the pain of others, but they want to stab the wound. They haven't wiped other people's blood, so they stand by and tell you to be strong. Isn't such a person a superficial gentleman? There will always be some people who stand on the moral high ground and give nothing, so they advise others to be generous, forgive those who have hurt themselves and be grateful to those who have hurt themselves.

I think if you forgive someone who hurts you, it is actually a kind of harm to yourself. Forgiveness without a bottom line will only bring you bottomless harm. Just like domestic violence, the psychological and spiritual harm caused by domestic violence to women and children is immeasurable. In order to take care of the family and children, some women may try their best to save this relationship, so they will choose to tolerate their husbands' atrocities, but often the wife's tolerance will not bring her husband's repentance, but will bring these injuries.

Concessions and compromises can't buy respect.

In addition to family injuries, there are also some verbal insults and violence, which will also bring people psychological and physical injuries to varying degrees, and these injuries cannot be erased at all, especially the injuries suffered in childhood, which often accompany a person's life. Therefore, those who ask others for concessions and compromises for unknown reasons are simply cynical and encouraging others to be down a peg or two.

So I think a person should never hurt others easily, but if others hurt you, don't force yourself to forgive others and pretend to be generous. There is no absolute right or wrong in the adult world. Others hurt themselves, we can't choose to forgive, but we can choose to forget. We don't have to be a villain who can report defects, but we shouldn't be a fake good person who forgives others without a bottom line, and we shouldn't be a grateful fool who hurts others.