After many years of marriage, when love sublimates into affection, it is actually very lonely …

Is it married, and love is destined to sublimate into affection? Occasionally, I will whisper in my heart at night, "I really want to fall in love!" "The reason why people become complaining again and again, suspicious of the East and suspicious of the West, is mostly because after life loses its goal, there is only endless repetition, and shame and ambition are exhausted by repeated day after day. The mood of wanting to talk about love is actually to miss your beautiful self.

After the child was born, the frequency and frequency of seeing her husband unhappy increased. Probably from the moment he entered the door, he forgot to lock the door, didn't wash his hands, didn't change clothes contaminated by tobacco, and then sat on the sofa. I was like an old lady. I didn't shut up until he carried out the SOP for entering the house.

"How to forget every day? Isn't this something to do every day? Can you be careful! Originally, I would still miss him. Later, these ideas were as trite as singing. If you don't want to sing any more, just shut up and roll your eyes. Or sometimes watching him wear * * *, his waist expanding to both sides, standing in front of the refrigerator and poking around for food, there is always a sigh of "love is dead". After the child falls asleep in the dead of night, when the mobile phone slips into boredom and insomnia, I occasionally mutter to myself, "I really want to fall in love!" " 」

After marriage, love sublimates into affection, which is really lonely!

Every day after marriage, I face a naked partner who reveals himself from the inside out. His next words, his next move, only the cold spots that he finds funny, and those great achievements in playing billiards in high school are going to be rotten ... I almost know, and this person makes me have no expectations at all! Married, love is destined to sublimate into family, and the other half is like family? That's self-consolation. Someone sleeps with his sister-in-law? What family? If you are a lover, you should always contain the element of love!

A small date between husband and wife can warm up love, but it doesn't last long.

Falling in love means being shy when we meet, expecting, rehearsing countless conversations at home, dressing up every day and showing the good side of deceiving people. What about these ... after marriage? Being yourself after marriage is very comfortable, and the risk to be taken is the loneliness of love. I didn't intend to change people, so I tried to find my husband to have lunch outside for a few days. Without children around, it really relaxed them and talked about many future family blueprints. In the next few days, I was more tolerant of his unrealized "SOP", but the effect of small dating was limited, and the days after that remained the same. * * *, loin, jokes, playing pool, eyes are dirty.

The mood of wanting to talk about love is actually to miss your beautiful self.

Suddenly one day, I remembered what my friend said before: "Lamb, when you were single, you were strong.". Going to a physical education class for further study is thinner and more beautiful than when you are in love. " It turns out that when I was single, I could only actively focus on myself in order to have a chance to fall in love and pass the time. The more you pay attention to yourself, the more you can radiate energy, love yourself and love your lover.

Now, on the other hand, I think my husband is unhappy, in fact, I am even more unhappy. After having children, if you want to take care of yourself, you need stubborn persistence and strong willpower besides time. This kind of thing requires only twice as much effort when you are single, but it takes two or three times as much effort to bring up children. If you want to do well again, day after day, year after year, there is no end, and the needs of children are endless. Every time I finish my children's housework, I want to waste time eating midnight snack. Looking at his belly, I hate my husband's loin more. It turns out that the mood of wanting to talk about love is actually to miss my once beautiful self.

If you want to fall in love within marriage, you must first look at yourself.

No matter how many years you have been married, you still want to fall in love. Everyone has worldly desires. Anyone who has experienced the beauty of love does not want to stop at his youth. The more he can do, the longer the better. First, turn yourself back into that young man full of pheromones. Putting on pants ten years ago is also a skill, or finding a goal that is not easy to achieve and studying hard, the days will begin to shine.

The reason why women become complaining repeatedly and disrespecting the East and the West is mostly because after life loses its goal, there is only endless repetition, and shame and ambition are exhausted by repeated day after day. So force yourself to take good care of your body and mind before talking about the possibility of marriage. When you like yourself again, it will be much more pleasing to the eye.

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"This article is the author's view on cooperative innovation, not his position."