How can we find hope in this imperfect world?

All my knowledge and practice in the project of living in the United States are based on social justice, that is, everyone should enjoy equal economic, political and social rights and opportunities regardless of race and class. In the past two years, I have been discussing and analyzing social equity every day, which is no exaggeration. Then I have an illusion that social equity can really be realized soon. Until I came into close contact with people and things in the so-called upper class, social justice was like a joke, but I couldn't laugh. The upper class, which occupies so many social resources, not only creates more material wealth, but also consumes more material wealth, such as alcohol and drugs, while enjoying the social privileges brought by it. Perhaps this is not new to everyone, but hearsay and seeing with my own eyes are still two different levels of mental shock with significant differences, which led me to buffer for a month.

1 social repression

As far as different classes are concerned, fairness can only be realized if low-income groups fight for rights and high-income groups share rights at the same time. But the reality is that low-income groups don't have much room to fight for, while high-income groups enjoy the preferential treatment they have. Preferential treatment is not an independent concept. Without service and parallel comparison, preferential treatment does not exist. The comparison between people and the resulting social repression are the source of countless psychological problems: the recovery of lovelorn often involves gender roles; Depression relief often involves interpersonal oppression; Anxiety relief often involves social expectations. So many times psychological problems are not individual problems, but social problems embedded in groups. Then, under the condition of social depression, psychological counseling is more like scratching boots or throwing eggs at stones, and I feel powerless.

I was helpless and confused, so I discussed social justice with you and how to find a way to get rid of the spirit. A friend recommended a philosophical debate between Huang Zhizhong and Zhou Xuanyi, entitled "Is cynicism the way to spiritual liberation?" After reading it, I got an inspiration: escape is a way, but I choose to live in the present. What I'm going to say next is a part of my updating three views. Maybe you will smell a trace of despair and helplessness, but what follows is actually liberation and hope: I pursue a balance, social balance and inner balance, which is not all happiness, beauty and justice, but also sadness, darkness and injustice; They are always flowing and intertwined, forming a non-static steady state.

Imperfect world

A world without pain at all may be even more terrible. I think of a dystopian book I read before, Aldous Huxley's A Brave New World, which depicts such a perfect world: everyone is set to be happy, they can get everything they want, but at the same time they don't want what they can't get; It is shameful to have sex with only one person without emotional ties; It doesn't matter if there is an error in the program and you accidentally experience negative emotions. There is a medicine called SOMA, which can recover instantly. It seems that the equality and happiness we are pursuing can only be achieved in this extreme way, right? But it is precisely because there is no pain in this world that there is no need for any literary works and artistic works, because they are often used as media to express emotions such as anger, sadness and despair. So no one reads, because it will bring pain, so it is forbidden. At that time, after reading this book, I couldn't help shivering all over, and suddenly I was glad that I still lived in such an imperfect world.

If in a truly perfect world, human psychological activities are still moving with similar laws and rules, then this kind of beauty can not last long in principle. The reason why we admire goodness in human nature, such as selflessness, kindness and honesty, is precisely because of the dark side of human nature, such as selfishness, evil and lies, which control our perception and sensitivity to goodness at a lower threshold level. If there is no comparison between good and evil, goodness will eventually become a universal thing because of excessive habits. The world is contradictory, right? The comparison between people makes us miserable and makes us grateful for the happiness we have.

3 hope of regaining life

My other friend, forced to discuss social justice, just sat down and ordered. Before saying hello, I began to talk about my confusion about society and the world. At first, she looked suspicious? Expression, and then took out a Chinese "three-body" from his bag, quietly turned out a page and read the following passage to me:

Chang Weisi showed an inscrutable smile: You will know everything soon, and everyone will know. Professor Wang, have there been any major changes in your life? This change suddenly changed your life completely. For you, the world has become completely different overnight.

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Then your life is an accident. There are so many unpredictable factors in the world, but your life has not changed at all.

I was very excited and calm after listening to it for two reasons: first, the local library can borrow books in Chinese, or I have always wanted to read them; One is that this passage appeared neither early nor late, just right. There will be no hope for nearly a month. At that moment, I feel that hope is full from the soles of my feet to the top of my head. Having said so much, I have been afraid to say that I have temporarily lost my sense of hope. I do have doubts about the practical function of psychological counseling. If social problems are not solved, does it mean that feeling better is temporary, but restarting pain is long-term? And suffer under other people's rules. But after thinking about it for a month, "Three-body" gave me another powerful medicine: If life is random and dynamic, then your feelings at any time are counted, and my hope for the next stage is frequent contact with the universe, which is another new journey.

The food in that shop is terrible, but I'm happy because-

I hope you can eat it?

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