A person's real education is never to trouble others.

Human efforts are limited. You can only identify the people you care about, then treat them well and leave them with your efforts. Let the rest be as it is, we can't please everyone. Kevin Tsai

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Think of a hot search on Weibo the day before yesterday: # Most disgusted WeChat friend #

420 million readings and 62,000 discussions, each of which shows the daily helplessness of modern people. There are hundreds of friends on the address book list, and there are always a few that are a headache.

There is a voice offensive, and I never care about your inconvenience.

There is a thick skin, and the rivers and lakes are collectively called friends circle beggars.

This is what I fear most. I treat you as a friend, but you treat me as a joke.

On a happy day, once you encounter the above situation, this day is blocked.

Wechat friends circle is a place to communicate and contact feelings, because the existence of some "smart people" will only make people feel more tired.

In the world of adults, there are too many things that make people tired every day. It is a basic social etiquette and a person's accomplishment not to disturb others, whether in person or through the screen.

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Before I was 20 years old, I had a female star named Lin Chi-ling who I didn't like. Being so tall and talking so much, I think only people who like to pretend to be weak will do that.

After the age of 20, I have a favorite actress whose name is also Lin Chi-ling. Because I gradually understand that a woman who has experienced secularism and has always been gentle but powerful is the real goddess. That's not fake, it's a magic that makes people feel comfortable after practice.

I once worked with Jay Chou in The Grave of Thorns, and after the film was broadcast, there was a flood of bad comments. You don't want to miss such a good mocking opportunity and keep asking her what she thinks of the zero evaluation of online acting.

No cold face, no embarrassment.

She just smiled: "Does my name have the word Ling?" ? Anyway, since the acting is said, it shows that everyone admits that I am an actor, which is also an improvement. "

Because she is too tall, when taking photos with others, no matter how ugly the posture is, she will always squat, which is her basic courtesy.

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One action, conquer everyone.

Keeping words small, doing things well, and putting gentle power into the bones will inevitably require the talent of emotional intelligence, but more importantly, it is a kind of goodwill to others.

Some people like to add a prefix before speaking: "Say nothing or be unhappy"; "There is a saying that I know you don't like to hear." ......

This sentence pattern is really annoying, and such people are really tired.

I don't want you to add icing on the cake to my life. I just hope you don't add fuel to the fire.

Some people like to hide their rudeness by being outspoken, but they don't know that unkindness and humor are two different things, being outspoken and frank are two different things, and being uneducated and casual are two different things.

Making others comfortable is a necessary skill in life.

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I chatted with my roommate last week, and I also talked about TFboys during the Spring Festival Evening.

After living together for more than two years, she knows that I like Jackson Yee very much, but every time, she throws me an embarrassment that I can't continue.

There are always such people around. When you bought new clothes and haven't had time to put them on, she has already started to comment: this style is too ugly. Do you like it? When you took a travel photo in a circle of friends, she immediately began to comment: I went there last year, nothing interesting, just a lot of people; When you are confident and determined to punch in and run every day, "just you, come on, you won't last three days."

Pots of cold water poured down, making people wonder whether they made friends or met enemies.

Everyone has his own preferences. In this world, no one is superior to others, but some people like to step on others and raise their status.

Such childish behavior, in the eyes of others, is just a self-imposed joke. It's really hard to see your superiority.

One's greatest achievement is not to belittle what others like easily.

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Every day when I come home from work, I go to the restaurant downstairs for dinner.

Every time I meet a couple, I look like I'm in my forties. They wear simple clothes, but the collar of big brother and the sweater of big sister are always clean and tidy.

Two bowls of porridge and a side dish, two people always eat slowly while talking and laughing.

Once, I got off work a little late, and when I arrived, I saw that the two of them were already seated.

Then another man came in and saw them. I thought I knew him, so I said hello: You are here, too.

But the man went on to say: these two people, just order this dish? After a busy day, I don't know how to make your wife eat something good!

Eldest brother elder sister paused and said nothing. But I clearly see that the remaining half dish, two people didn't move a few times.

That dish is full of happiness, because in a word, it's boring.

Zhuangzi and Keiko play together on Hao's bridge. Zhuangzi said, "Is it fun for fish to swim leisurely?" Keiko said, "You are not a fish. How can you know that fish are happy?" ? "

We don't need to comment on the following story, but here we can already understand that human emotions are different and unconnected. Everyone is in his own world, trying to find his own balance of happiness.

We can't add anything to other people's happiness, but at least we can keep our mouths shut about other people's happiness.

There is a saying in The Great Gatsby: "Whenever you want to criticize anyone, you should remember that not all people in this world have the advantages you have."

Wechat circle of friends, not disturbing or shielding, is the social etiquette of adults; In daily communication, real education begins with knowing people, not judging them.

In the final analysis, giving others comfortable space is also leaving a way out for themselves.