What’s the point of not being able to eat four dishes in this life?

The superficial meaning of not being able to eat four dishes in this life is that you will be poor all your life, your ability is limited, and your living standard will not allow you to eat more than three dishes in one meal. One person said to another person: "I don't think you can eat four dishes in your life." I thought it was a joke, but it was actually extremely vicious. It seemed like there was no curse word, but it was actually full of malice. The Sith was empty. In a deeper sense, the four dishes refer to: the full moon dish when you are born, the wedding dish when you get married, the farewell dish when you die, and the tribute dish when you hold a memorial ceremony. It means: you can’t get married, your child won’t be a month old, no one will care about you when you die, and no one will pay homage to you when you die. The first course: wedding banquet. The ancients said that there are four major happy events in life: meeting an old friend after a long drought; meeting an old friend in a foreign land; a night of flowers and candles in the bridal chamber; and when one is named on the gold medal list. The wedding night is not only a happy event in our lives, but also the most important event in our lives. In ancient times, most people had only one marriage, which also carried the important task of carrying on the family line. Therefore, when people in ancient times got married, they paid attention to marrying with a matchmaker, writing three letters and six etiquettes, and carrying a sedan chair eight times, which was also very ceremonial. In modern wedding etiquette, these old wedding customs have long been simplified. Only the wedding banquet is still very grand, requiring a long time to prepare and spending a lot of effort and energy. This is the first dish I want to talk about today - the wedding banquet. Newlyweds not only have to hold a grand ceremony at the wedding banquet, but also sit around the table and offer toasts. They are often too busy to eat. But not being able to eat the first course is not meant to be a dig at newlyweds who are too busy to eat their own wedding banquet. Instead, it is used to laugh at people. They will be single all their lives, have no chance to hold a wedding banquet, and can only die alone. These words are too vicious! The second course: Full Moon Wine Full Moon Wine refers to a banquet held one month after a baby is born. Because in ancient times, medical conditions were very poor, and newborns had low immunity and were easily infected with diseases. Once they got sick, even small diseases that seem small today, such as colds, chickenpox, etc., were enough to kill a baby in ancient times. . Therefore, the ancients believed that a baby surviving for one month after birth was a difficult time. At this time, in order to celebrate that their children have overcome difficulties and grown up healthily, parents usually hold a full-moon wine banquet with relatives and friends to bless and pray for their children. This is also the second course - full-moon wine. But why can't a person have full moon wine? Of course it does not mean that the baby is too small to eat. But it means that those married couples do not have the opportunity to have a full moon party. After all, in ancient marriages, continuation of the relationship was the most important thing, but if there were no children, or the children died young, the full moon ceremony would not be possible. To say that people can't have the full moon wine is to laugh at people who have no successors and lose their incense. This is really a curse word without any curse words, but every word is heartbreaking! The third course: Funeral banquet There once appeared in a crematorium such a couplet: The first couplet "Come early, come late, come early, come late", conveying to the world that death is inevitable. The second line is "First come, first served, first served, all come", which means that the crematorium is the final destination for everyone, and everyone will come here eventually. It's just a matter of sooner or later. Everyone has a day when their life comes to an end. After a person dies, the family will hold a funeral for the deceased, and will also arrange for relatives and friends who come to the funeral to have a funeral banquet. In the current Internet buzzword, it is "eating a banquet" "! This is the third course - the funeral feast. In this life, when you leave, you can take nothing with you. If you have good popularity while you are alive, many people will send you gifts after you are gone. This third dish is naturally not for the deceased, but to see how many people come to say goodbye to the deceased after they leave. And not being able to eat this third dish is to ridicule the other party. No one will pay attention to it during life, and no one will come to send it after death. It will only end in a miserable way. The fourth course: Tribute: Our country has had the custom of worshiping ancestors since ancient times. During every New Year and festival, ancestors are worshipped. During worship, incense is burned, kowtows are made, and food is offered to express condolences to the ancestors. The food offered is also very particular. Generally, some foods that the ancestor liked to eat during his lifetime are selected. The fruits must not only be fresh and undamaged, but also have a good meaning, and the variety and quantity must also be odd. There are different customs in different places, but they are basically the same. So this fourth course is just that – a tribute. Because offering food is the descendants of the family, the worship of the deceased ancestors expresses the heart and memory of the worshiper. But here we say that we cannot eat the fourth dish, which means that after the other person passed away, he was completely forgotten by his descendants, no one came to worship him, and he could not eat the tribute.

"You will never be able to eat four dishes in your life" is a folk saying. It is generally used to ridicule people with bad conduct and a very bad reputation, implying that they have failed in life, are not popular, cannot get married, cannot have children, and die without anyone. Send it away, and there will be no one to support it after death. But this sentence is too cruel, it is simply the four great tragedies of life, every word is heart-breaking, I suggest you use it with caution!