My girlfriend said I can’t make her happy

From the perspective of a girl, I understand the psychology of girls better. Most girls will not take the initiative to pursue the boy they like, except for those who really like it too much or who are more individual and brave. Girls. So, if you like a girl very much and think she is also interested in you, then take the initiative and don’t get into a tug-of-war with her. If you feel uncomfortable, the person you like may also suffer.

Whenever a girl is chased by someone, her psychology is very complicated. She may be very happy, but also a little scared. She has a desire to reject this boy who breaks into her peaceful life. You are ambivalent, she didn't mean it. Don't think that she is testing you, she is actually fighting with herself, and she is afraid of being hurt.

Don't be afraid that your initiative will make her resentful. If you don't take the initiative, she won't take the initiative either, so she will slowly fade away. If your initial confession is rejected by her, that's normal. Don't be discouraged, who knows what this girl is thinking?

Maybe if you confess your love twice more, she will be moved by you. A good girl with a kind heart is easily moved.

If you are frustrated once, leave immediately and never go again. Answer this girl, protect yourself tightly, and lick your wounds silently. While you are in pain, you don't know that the girl may also be feeling regretful and regretful in her heart! Maybe she will cry secretly, regretting that she rejected you, and then She is also very sad to see your indifferent eyes, but she will not tell you, and she will never ask you to come back and chase her. Your excessive self-esteem may hurt a girl's sensitive heart.

She will think that you don’t really like him, otherwise why would you just give up on her?

Some people say that it’s really hard for boys and it’s not easy to chase girls. But my feeling is that Yes, this phenomenon is inseparable from the social role positioning of men and women. From a physiological and social perspective, women are always passive. If on the other hand, men are made shy and women become courageous, the world will be prosperous. What a mess! A woman's shyness is always beautiful and touching~~~ I have always heard that a brave man overcame many difficulties and finally won the heart of a beautiful woman. There are very few examples of the opposite.

Some boys are afraid that others will say that they are stalkers and get a bad reputation. But I think it means that when boys pursue the girl they like, they will continue to be nice to this girl after suffering some setbacks. People really like them and they are very sincere. If it doesn’t work out, it’s not a pity. It’s nothing. Who makes people like you? I hate other people messing around. I also hate people who don’t have any ideas and care too much about what others think of them. Boys like this deserve to be unable to find a girlfriend.

Be brave as a man. Girls are inherently emotional and easily immersed in love. Although you have worked hard, once you are truly moved If you marry her, then what you will get is more and longer love. There are many examples like this around. Girls are very gentle and considerate to their boyfriends. In exchange for this sweetness, What’s the hard work in the beginning? And most good girls are very devoted and dedicated in love.

So, I suggest some boys be braver and pursue the girl they like without being so timid. , firstly, it makes people think you are unmanly, and secondly, it makes you feel uncomfortable, but the most important thing is: in the end, you get nothing. Happiness is always earned by yourself, don’t expect others to give it to you. You!

One more thing, I think it’s good to be proactive, because your goal is something you really like. Girls are often passive, and passive people can only choose to accept or reject, so I would rather Take the initiative, love what I love, and have no regrets

1. What kind of first impression should be left on MM (Time: Just started to contact MM)

1. Me I think the most important thing is to let MM see your ambition.

The greatest charm of a man lies in his successful career. Young people cannot be considered "successful" if they don't work long hours. At this time, you have to make M

M think you are a motivated person. heart person.

You can talk nonsense about other things, but this question cannot be vague. You must tell MM that you are full of confidence in the future, that you are not satisfied with the status quo, and that you already have long-term plans. In short, your future Not a dream.

2. Be confident and responsible

Don’t be like a child. Girls are lazy and hope they can find someone to rely on. You have to show your confidence and responsibility. Heart comes.

Having a wrong choice is much better than having no choice at all.

3. Don’t be too serious, but don’t be too casual either.

Be serious where you should be serious, and laugh when you should be ridiculous.

Girls like men who are a little cynical, so don’t appear to care about anything, as that would be too dull.

4. Look more mature

Men who are calm and unhurried in situations are fatally attractive to girls.

2. How to have further contact with MM (time: the beginning of chasing)

1. The most important thing at this stage is not to be anxious, not to make things so clear, let People can tell at a glance that you are chasing them.

Think about it, most people will not fall in love with you at first glance, but they will also not hate you at first glance. They are all children of ordinary people (

Unless you look like Chow Yun-fat, Andy Lau or Kevin Costner), goodwill needs to be achieved as understanding continues to increase

So the key to the problem is the opportunity for further development you want.

Think about it from a girl’s perspective: If you rush over to find someone so directly, the girl must be feeling psychological pressure

If I find out that I don't like you after being in contact for a while, wouldn't it be like playing tricks on you? So if you start out with the attitude that you are determined to win, you will basically be put back immediately.

2. Start with a low profile

First of all, you must position the relationship as a "friend". It is originally an "ordinary friend". You hope to become a "good friend" with good taste

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You can also ask the other person to become a "confidante" or something, but never say "chasing you".

Think about it, if you don't mention "chasing" at all, then the girl will have less chance to "reject" you - why did she reject you if you didn't pursue her?

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This can reduce the psychological pressure on girls and enable you to have a smooth relationship. Don't imagine that I will agree to marry you after only three days of knowing each other.

You need to fully communicate and understand each other. Feelings do not arise out of thin air.

3. Don’t be too impatient in the process of dating.

Be relaxed and don’t pester others all day long. You will get tired of anyone who treats you like this. A good friend of mine told me that the key to chasing a girl's wife is eight words - "hot and cold, playing hard to get" (this is the culmination of many years of hard work by my classmate).

Of course they won’t think well of you if you keep pestering them all day long. If you cool off for a day or two, girls will remember the benefits of your presence.

Also, don’t have the ambition of “I won’t marry you unless you want me”. It’s not good if the price is too low. Sometimes you can use some tricks.

4. Create opportunities appropriately

As mentioned earlier, don’t make things immediately turn into “you are chasing someone else”, and you need to get the opportunity to get close to girls.

It all depends on your creativity.

You can collect intelligence and find ways to turn waiting around into an encounter; you can also pretend to be casual and find the most sufficient

reasons to invite the other person to do something with you. .

In short, this is the most technical place. If it really doesn’t work, you can ask your seniors for advice.

5. Don’t: It is impolite to give gifts to others casually.

Some people are eager to chase girls and like to buy things and give them to others. However, they don’t know that this is the most taboo thing for chasing girls.

As the saying goes, "No reward for no merit." If you give things to others like this, you are putting pressure on them. People will feel that they owe you, so they will

find a way to return it to you. If If I can't repay you, I will find a way not to associate with you, so as not to always owe you a favor.

If you want to show your sincerity, you might as well ask a girl to spend money together, such as finding a good restaurant to eat, or finding an expensive place to play together, girls Of course it can be seen that you spent a lot of money, but after all, the money was spent by two people together instead of turning it into something to take home.

3. What exactly is a “girlfriend”?

1. "Girlfriend" is a fact, not a promise

When you start dating a girl, you change from "ordinary friends" to "good friends", and then to To a "very, very good friend who talks about everything

", you "accidentally" pulled her hand on a sunny afternoon; "Moon on the Willow Head", you suddenly struck< /p>

Kissed her. At this time, she is already your girlfriend. Regardless of whether she admits it or not, she already thinks that you are her boyfriend.

I know the best, but I didn’t even ask “Will you be my girlfriend” until we went to bed? In the end, the girl got anxious

: “Why don’t you ask? I’ll be your girlfriend!”

So, don’t rush to pierce the window paper. The more hazy the situation is, the better it is for you.

2. What is "confession"?

As mentioned before, confession is actually just a formality. The correct sequence should be: in fact, she has become your girlfriend

Only then can you confess your love to others, and it will be a matter of course. Many people don't understand this issue and always think that someone agrees to be their girlfriend first and then does whatever they want. I can only say that he is very, very "simple" and also Very very "stupid".

3. Is there ever a time when you “have no choice but to express your feelings”?

Yes, for example, a third party appears, or the relationship between you and the girl is not mature but the two of you may be separated for a period of time.

The confession at this time is an immature confession, and the risk is very high, similar to the situation in Go when the situation is severe, and the lagging side is forced to release the "winner's hand"

, if you win, you win, if you lose, you can only say that "unlucky people are born".

4. Don’t say the word "love" easily

I often see "bold confessions" appearing on forums. To be honest, I really think this is a very immature performance. "Love

" is a sacred word, which means pursuit, commitment, and even reflects a kind of responsibility.

Men who say "love" casually are irresponsible.

4. Civilized love should not be forced.

1. Not every girl can be pursued.

A good girl will always be pursued by many people. No. Maybe everyone's wish comes true, but there will always be losers. For example, even if you

study hard and master the most advanced principles of chasing girls, you still can't catch up with anyone in TWINS.

Think about it from another angle. A rural nanny who has not graduated from elementary school, no matter how nice she is to you, earns 600 per month to buy you a gift of

700 (overdraft). I am willing If she "acts like a cow or a horse" for you, you won't fall in love with her. If she cries and cries every day, you will definitely feel annoyed.

So love needs a material foundation, or at least a balance.

2. Chasing girls is a serious social activity.

Don’t annoy others and leave a way out for yourself. Why should a man worry about not having a wife? Some girls are indeed snobbish (a minority)

If you are not convinced, you can work hard and use facts to prove that "she was blind at the time", and never mislead others or yourself.

Finally, don’t appear cynical in front of MM. Being cynical sometimes means “you are a failure.”

(Time: Just started to contact MM)

1. I think the most important thing is to let MM see your ambition.

The greatest charm of a man lies in his successful career. Young people cannot be considered "successful" if they don't work long hours. At this time, you have to make M

M think you are a motivated person. heart person.

You can talk nonsense about other things, but this question cannot be vague. You must tell MM that you are full of confidence in the future and that you are dissatisfied

You are satisfied with the status quo and you have a long-term future. plan, in short, your future is not a dream.

2. Be confident and responsible

Don’t be like a child. Girls are lazy and hope they can find someone to rely on. You have to show your confidence and responsibility. Heart comes.

It is better to have a wrong choice than no choice at all.

3. Don’t be too serious, but don’t be too casual either.

Be serious where you should be serious, and laugh when you should be ridiculous.

Girls like men who are a little cynical, so don’t appear to care about anything, as that would be too dull.

4. Look more mature

Men who are calm and unhurried in situations are fatally attractive to girls.

2. How to have further contact with MM (time: the beginning of chasing)

1. The most important thing at this stage is not to be anxious, not to make things so clear, let People can tell at a glance that you are chasing them.

Think about it, most people will not fall in love with you at first glance, but they will also not hate you at first glance. They are all children of ordinary people (

Unless you look like Chow Yun-fat, Andy Lau or Kevin Costner), goodwill needs to be achieved as understanding continues to increase

So the key to the problem is the opportunity for further development you want.

Think about it from a girl’s perspective: If you rush over to find someone so directly, the girl must be feeling psychological pressure

If I find out that I don't like you after being in contact for a while, wouldn't it be like playing tricks on you? So if you start out with the attitude that you are determined to win, you will basically be put back immediately.

2. Start with a low profile

First of all, we must position the relationship as "friends", originally "ordinary friends"

About giving gifts:

As long as it is sincere, it is best!

Give her a day of careful care!

The most genuine love is found in the ordinary!

Let her feel it! The warmth you bring her in the cold winter!

I believe she will be moved by you!

My answer is not necessarily that! Exactly, I hope everyone can forgive me!