If you can't squeeze into the circle, you have to squeeze hard.

Recently, there is a popular saying in the circle of friends that "there is no need to be strong in different circles." At first glance, this is in line with our mentality. Different circles have worked hard to squeeze in, and as a result, others may not welcome us and feel embarrassed in an instant. ?

So what this sentence wants to tell us is that if you are not in your own circle, don't try to squeeze, make yourself miserable and embarrass others. Then we only choose some easy-to-enter circles. What a wonderful thing it is to make yourself happy and others happy.

But why are some circles easy for us to enter, while others are not? Even if you go in, you may not like it.

The first is the easy-to-enter circle. The circle we used to be in must be more influential than this one. Just like in My First Half Life, He Han jumped from Bianchi to Chen Xing, and he was able to offer various conditions for the company, because He Han was like a signboard, and customers followed him wherever he went. When our influence is greater than the circle we want to enter, it is very easy to enter nature.

There is also a circle that we are going to enter now. In fact, there are not many "dividends", which means that the entry threshold is very low. For example, today's college students are sometimes adventure islands. Twenty or thirty years ago, what was the concept of a person being admitted to a university? It's like having a top scholar at home. At that time, graduation will also be assigned, and it is naturally very, very difficult to enter the university. Now that the country is expanding its enrollment, there are naturally more and more college students, but the gold content of college students now is incomparable with that at that time.

See, we don't have to integrate into some circles or rely on our previous influence and contacts; Either there is no "bonus" and everyone can enter. For us, it can neither help us to make progress nor let us enjoy the benefits brought by this circle, so what is this circle for?

Since the circles that are easy to squeeze in are not good for us, what's the use of those that are not easy to squeeze in?

It is difficult for us to enter the circle, which is basically a brand-new field, or we have never met it before. So if we want to squeeze into such a circle, does it give us an extra life experience?

Zhang Quanling, a former CCTV host, majored in German language and literature. Joined the CCTV host after graduation. 18 years later, he left CCTV and entered the investment circle. Looking at Zhang's experience, it seems that there is not much connection before and after, especially from CCTV for more than ten years to investment. Does she have no influence in the host world? Yes, and it's still very big, so why did she enter such a strange field?

In "Romance", she said a passage to the effect that "after so many years in CCTV, she was already too familiar with these things. When she thought of the days to come, she panicked. She was afraid that she could see herself now."

She panicked. Will you panic if you stay in a circle for too long? No surprises, no waves, staying in a circle for a long time, basically settled down. If we don't take the initiative to jump out of this circle, then our future life will basically be like this. It's not bad, just think about it. If Zhang Quanling stays in CCTV, will she still have a chance to meet entrepreneurs who have been young for so many years? Can you still be exposed to so many trendy ideas after 80 s or even 90 s? Can you keep your mind so young?

Maybe we also know that there are many interesting souls and great experiences in the new circle, but it is difficult for us to squeeze in! Why is it so difficult?

Because we are all newcomers, the most direct reason. No resources, no connections, nothing, how can it be so easy to get in!

And their circle has a set of complete and mature rules that we don't know or understand, and may not adapt. Just like a child who just entered kindergarten, it is natural to be afraid of everything in the park.

The last one may be a little dark, but it is true that we will share their "cake" when we enter. The cake in the circle is only this big, and one more person will naturally lose one person, so the "hostility" to us is naturally understandable.

Since new circles are so difficult to enter, why do you have to break your head to enter? How nice to stay in our circle like this!

In today's society, changes are so rapid that we think it is good to keep going, while others are making rapid progress. If you don't advance at this time, you will retreat. Just like Zhang Quanling left CCTV, venture capital, which was unheard of at that time, is now a beacon for every entrepreneur. If Zhang still works in CCTV, one day, that stage will be handed over to younger people, and she can only have one identity, that is, the host.

It is because it is particularly difficult to enter, so the income after we enter will be particularly huge! Take Zhang Quanling for example, and our ancient scholars in China also took part in the exam. They studied hard for ten years, went to Beijing to catch the exam, ate and drank Lazar in a small room for a few days, and may fail in the final exam. Why do so many people want to be famous?

Because this is their only chance to jump from the civilian circle to the gentry circle. Folk saying is carp yue longmen. Once you jump in, it is a matter of glorifying your ancestors and shining the lintel. Is it difficult for you to ask them? Difficult, and particularly difficult, but why did you rush up without hesitation? Because once successful, it will be a huge gain.

Someone told you that the circle is different, don't force it.

Either he can't get in by himself, I hope you don't go in either;

Either he is already in the circle and doesn't want you to come in and share this huge "cake".

We entered different circles,

One more life experience,

One more choice,

Why not squeeze in?

If you can't squeeze in, you won't suffer; But what if it succeeds!

So different circles must be more integrated.