What does it feel like to reach middle age?

After middle age, people's inner feelings are getting deeper and deeper, their experiences are still going on, and their days are still passing. The only difference is their mood.

When people reach middle age, what they feel most is life. The more I live, the more I feel that it is futile to care about the gains and losses in life. The ups and downs of life will always appear. What is beautiful is the memory of youth and a heavy responsibility.

When people reach middle age, their parents are getting older, so they need to be more filial and dare not neglect them, because no matter how old their parents are, as long as they are still alive, there are always parents shouting around and others are worried about themselves.

I also have the deepest feeling that my children have grown up and are struggling away from home for their own goals. Every time I send him away from home, I always feel reluctant and worried. But this is the reality. When children grow up, they have to leave their parents and learn to live by themselves. Therefore, they are like birds. When they are full-fledged, they must fly away from their nests.

I think about how parents feel about their children leaving me. No matter how big the child is, it is also the deepest concern of parents. So when people reach middle age, they should not only honor their parents, but also reassure them.

After middle age, people have a lot of feelings for their relatives. After years of ups and downs in married life, the two people depend on each other and share joys and sorrows. The relationship between husband and wife has already been implanted with family elements. Although whoever goes can live, no one wants to go.

Looking at the white hair on my lover's head growing day by day, I often sigh that time has passed and the years are ruthless. It turns out that we are old. The years of companionship, although I don't know how long the future will be, just want to be kind with a clear conscience.

Young couples are old friends. When people reach middle age, the most stable happiness is that their feelings are getting better and better. Although there are not many sweet words, the tacit understanding of mutual love and assistance is very warm.

When people reach middle age, I also like to think of the good old days. There is always a feeling that things have changed, because the years have changed so much that people have to accept its ruthlessness.

When people reach middle age, they feel that tears are getting lower and lower. When they see something that touches the heartstrings slightly, they can't help blindfolding and feeling something. Perhaps the heart softens with the years, and the enlightenment moves with the experience!

When people reach middle age, there are always endless things to talk about. The variety of life, all aspects of life, and changes in one's heart will be redefined because of the maturity of age.

I wonder how many other feelings middle-aged friends have? (See each other)

In 79, it was a sheep. He is a 42-year-old greasy uncle. My wife got breast cancer last year. When people reach middle age, they cannot help feeling too much.

Be filial to your parents and love your wife. Care about children. Only myself, lying with a backache, carrying it when I was sick.

He and his wife have been married for more than 20 years and have a son and a daughter. We are all employees of state-owned enterprises.

The monthly salary of two people adds up to about 15 thousand. My son goes to college and my daughter goes to junior high school. This unit has been allocated a suite of rooms. In the early years of the city, housing prices were low, and more than 800,000 people bought suites.

I could get by at home without spending money. Children are sensible and never spend money indiscriminately.

Two words "breast cancer" were written in the report. My mind was blank. My wife was pale with a report card in her hand, and I helped her stagger out of the doctor's office.

After learning that their mother was ill, the children also cried and asked for leave to go home. I let them study with peace of mind and tell them that I have everything at home.

My wife is still the cheerful and lively person on the surface, and she still loves to talk and laugh. But when it comes to illness, I have laughed and cried. I quickly wiped my tears with my hand.

The treatment effect in hospitals in this province is not very good. Relatives asked someone to inquire about a hospital specializing in the treatment of breast diseases in Beijing.

I took a month off to accompany my wife to Beijing. Take medicine, chemotherapy, all kinds of treatments.

My parents gave me 20 thousand, and my eldest brother and sister gave me 30 thousand. Including our own two months' salary. It didn't take long to run out.

After each treatment, my wife and I went back to the hotel we rented. If you have time, accompany her to visit Beijing.

I am often ashamed of her. Married for more than 20 years, I didn't take her out to travel. This is the only time to go out for a walk.

A few months after chemotherapy, my wife took a shower and began to take off her hair.

I said just shave your head. Losing your hair every day is more annoying.

That night, I picked up hair clipper and shaved off her thick long hair for my wife. My wife cried, and so did I.

My wife wears a hat when she goes out every day. Many people asked her why she suddenly shaved her head, but she just laughed. She didn't want anyone to know.

But after a long time, people around you still know.

My mother-in-law loves her daughter dearly and goes home to take care of her wife for several months. I cannot thank her enough.

Children also cherish their mothers more. Everyone goes home on holiday, one on the left and one on the right holding mom's hand. The wife protein is low, and the children sit in front of their mother to peel shrimp for her every meal.

Job transfer, work is busier than before, but I earn less and less.

At that time, when I was a teenager, I followed my father to sell white flour, open a restaurant and open a hotel. There seems to be inexhaustible strength and energy.

But now I feel that the work is very hard. Being a small leader is also satisfactory. Go home from work and cook for your wife. Go to see the city with my wife on Sunday and watch my children study.

Parents are sick and uncomfortable, so we should take care of them.

When people reach middle age, they are halfway through their lives and have experienced too many ups and downs. A lot of things, want to open, also see through. Money, fame and wealth no longer appeal to me.

Take care of yourself, because my family still needs me. I fell down and no one took care of me.

Spend more time with your family and occasionally go out for a drink with friends. This life is enough.

It is my greatest wish that my family is healthy, safe and happy. Plain is true.

Before and after I got married, I bought three houses one after another. On the edge of the outer ring of Shanghai, a suite has a loan, a daughter and a scooter.

My wife and I are both only children. We are locals of Magic Capital. Our parents are ordinary workers and farmers. We were lucky to catch up with the relocation policy. Our homestead has been moved, and our parents also have pension and medical insurance.

After graduating from college, I entered this unit 14 years. I used to be the youngest department-level cadre in my unit, but with the change of personality and leadership, I was gradually marginalized. My position has not changed for nearly 10 years, and I have reached the professional ceiling.

At that time, I chose this unit and insisted on 10 for many years. I value being close to home and having a stable job.

For the current salary, although it is not as good as the surrounding peers, it is still quite satisfactory. When I first joined the work, I took public examinations many times and wanted to enter the system, but I was stuck in the interview stage. Later, with the growth of age, I gradually lost the idea of retaking the exam.

Almost 40 years old, people reach middle age. Now I think it's good to chat with my parents for dinner every day and take them around when I have time. My daughter is now studying in an ordinary public primary school near her home, and she has not participated in much extracurricular training.

Because my wife is a teacher and is responsible for the usual education, my parents help me pick up and drop off from school. Usually responsible for cooking and other housework.

Usually, I don't have much entertainment when I go to work overtime, and I live a nine-to-five and two-point and one-line life. I don't pay much attention to food and clothing now, just clean and concise, and keep a certain amount of exercise every week.

For the future, I just want to retire quickly and walk around with my wife; Parents are healthy and safe; Daughters can study hard, find a suitable job, find a lover they like and live a happy life.

About the house: I want to say that the lot I bought is close to the outer ring, and the price of 2-3 houses is not as high as that of houses in the same area in the urban area, and the rent is not high.

10 years ago, there were no restrictions on buying houses in Shanghai, with a low down payment ratio and a 50% discount on loans. There was no big concept of school district housing.

My husband and wife are middle school classmates and have similar living habits. Two people can stay at their parents' house on weekdays and weekends without spending too much money. Marry your parents, give some bride price, add provident fund and commercial loans to buy a house. I can only say it's a coincidence. Like the house prices around us now, with our current income, it is very difficult to buy a suite.

For my own career, I used to work in the unit, but it was out of tune with the style of state-owned enterprises. Many people are not used to it and do not consider the feelings of leaders and others. After being gradually marginalized, I was very painful and depressed for a while and thought about resigning.

But I'm not afraid of jokes. I have been in state-owned enterprises for a long time and have no courage to resign. On the one hand, there are different opinions in my family. On the other hand, I feel that I have given up my job for ten years and have no confidence and ability to find a stable job again.

Therefore, when people reach middle age, they will slowly relax, and when they see that their previous positions are not as good as their own people's promotion, they will inevitably feel a little more lost and unwilling. I think as time goes on, my thoughts will gradually disappear.

In recent years, it has become more and more low-key and there are not many friends. My wife and I don't have high material requirements. I don't smoke, and I don't like drinking and playing games. I don't have any requirements for electronic products or cars. It's good to have enough. It's been nine and a half years since the last car, and now my mobile phone has been used for almost five years.

Wife doesn't buy expensive bags and cosmetics. I may have lived in the suburbs since I was a child. I have never seen the world, and my income is not high. I just want to save some money to deal with the health risks of my family in the future. At the same time, I can also save some money for my daughter's dowry in the future, so that I can have a little confidence.

We don't have much chicken blood for our daughter's education. At present, the extracurricular activities of Daughter Newspaper only sign up for the art training activities in Shaoke Station and Children's Palace. At present, extracurricular tutoring is taught by my wife every day. As for my daughter, I always hope that she can stay with me and become a teacher or doctor in the future. But this is just her personal opinion. When she grows up, she will have her own ideas.

My parents are almost 70 years old. The usual fun is watching videos, playing mahjong at noon, picking up our children after 3: 30 in the afternoon and buying or cooking some dishes for us. I really appreciate them.

Parents also have their own life circle, and they can travel with mahjong partners and friends regularly, but this year they have never traveled far because of the epidemic.

We will take the children to my parents' house at the weekend. Our parents have no material requirements for us. They have old-age insurance and medical insurance, and each has a relocated house for rent. I just hope it won't cause us any trouble.

This is the life experience of an ordinary middle-aged person, ordinary and monotonous, timid and boring. Although I still have yearning and longing in my heart, the responsibility is still on me. There is still a long way to go. I wonder what will happen in the future.

Sometimes I think: What kind of life have I been pursuing when I reach middle age?

What I want to pursue is the stability and balance between myself, my family and my career. On this basis, I will work hard. Even if one aspect develops slowly, as long as the overall stability and balance are maintained, I think it is worthwhile.

Metaphorically speaking, I think life is like a stool with three legs, which represent self, family and career respectively. Too long or too short legs will affect the balance. The three maintain a stable balance, and you can sit down regardless of your status or wealth.