Why do most people like to hear compliments from others, even if others are insincere and insincere?

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Your question should be treated dialectically. First of all, not all people like to be praised insincerely, but most people like to be praised.

If you feel that others are insincere in praising you, I believe you will feel it, so the compliment we usually say is from the heart in a narrow sense. Unless you are an immature child, you can't feel whether others praise you sincerely or perfunctorily.

Secondly, it is indeed a good thing to learn to praise others, which reflects a person's high emotional intelligence, and also reflects a person's accomplishment and vision. Because praising others is an affirmation and encouragement to others, many times it is your careless or careless praise that makes people remember life. Or, it changed a person's life.

Finally, if you want to be a popular person, you must learn to praise sincerely.

I don't fully agree with this view. First of all, everyone likes to listen to nice and pertinent words, which is encouragement and recognition to others. Being recognized by others is encouragement and support to oneself, making oneself more confident to continue to work hard, and learning to praise and encourage others is also a manifestation of a person's high emotional intelligence.

Secondly, others should distinguish whether they are sincere or not. Some people are only used to flattering and praising others on the surface, so they should learn their own ways and means of dealing with others. There's no need to take these seriously, just think of them as jokes and pass by.

Third, it is much better to encourage others than to complain and criticize. Encouragement makes people more acceptable. If you always complain and talk with emotions, it is easy for others to have hostility, so it is very difficult to get along. A pleasant attitude towards others is also a respect for yourself and others, and the efficiency will be improved.

fourthly, some insincere compliments make people feel uncomfortable, but they think this person is insincere and hypocritical. Therefore, to be a man, you must be sincere to others in order to win others' sincerity to you.

In short, everyone doesn't like hypocritical words so much. Although you are praising others, you should be sincere. This requires you to master your own discretion, at least from the perspective of goodwill, and look at problems and handle things from others' positions, so that you will also be respected by others. Be a good person and do things with good intentions. Don't always think about doing superficial phenomena. People are not stupid. Your goodness and your true self can be distinguished by others.

"A good word warms three winters, and a bad word hurts people in June. "

Good words are words of praise, compliments and advice.

good words, words of praise.

sincere praise, which people listen to, is like a spring breeze, refreshing, which can arouse a strong buzz, turn it into a powerful driving force and make people forge ahead.

a kind word is a compliment.

Everyone has self-esteem and wants to be praised, recognized and needed. Most people can accept it even if it is insincere and insincere. However, there is a degree of flattery. If it is too exaggerated and turns into out-and-out flattery, it will be considered false and disgusting.

Everyone has vanity, but the strength is different, which is reflected in different ways. Everyone has a love of beauty. For me, who is nearly sixty years old, I always hope to be young in the eyes of others. It is a common thing to give your seat to a woman with a child on the bus. If a woman asks a child to say thank you, she can't help smiling and saying you're welcome. If you say thank you grandma, inexplicable sadness arises spontaneously.

good words, words of advice.

"Good medicine tastes bitter and is good for illness, but advice when most unpleasant is good for action. 〃

If you are sincere, you should also pay attention to the occasion, the way and the target.

treat each other with sincerity, praise them sincerely, persuade them with words, and always smile.

because everyone has vanity.

People are not saints. They eat whole grains and give birth to worldly desires. They always want to hear compliments from others. This is human nature.

However, if others are insincere, I think everyone should have the ability to discriminate. After all, insincere flattery, if taken seriously, is harmful to oneself.

in other words, people should be self-aware. No matter whether others are sincere or hypocritical, don't take it too seriously. If others sincerely praise you, then thank others for their kindness and don't care about their hypocritical flattery. After all, people live for themselves.

this problem can be explained from two angles.

1. Social culture

It is almost an instinctive reaction for people to like compliments. We live in an introverted society, and everyone is not often praised by others, but everyone wants to be affirmed by others.

second, speaking skills

second, when it comes to criticism. Everyone actually knows more or less about his own shortcomings, and we may not be unclear about what others criticize.

Many people are not close to themselves, but like to criticize others. On the one hand, they don't have the discretion to speak. On the other hand, the people you said may not be aware of it, but they just don't want to face it for the time being. Why do you criticize others from the commanding heights?

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Language is a unique way of communication for human beings, which reflects the highly evolved mental ability of human beings at the biological or psychological level and the progress of human civilization at the social and cultural level.

Everyone is willing to listen to good words, which means that he agrees with a person or an opinion, and thus satisfies his vanity psychological needs. People feel satisfied and need to be recognized, which gives them a sense of value and accomplishment! , sense of identity!

For example, everyone knows that fortune telling is deceptive, but some people always believe it. This is because of psychology. People need to have their destiny or future affirmed and praised. Out of their inner vanity, they always want to listen to deceptive fortune telling words to satisfy their vanity.

anyone who listens to a good word will naturally feel a sense of honor, which will naturally satisfy his desire for success, honor and vanity. Or out of human nature, I hope someone will flatter me to make me feel the embodiment of the value of life.

First of all, you should be particularly good at something, and do it well, that is to say, you have strong business ability in your work.

I am naturally confident because I am familiar with my business, but my confidence is built on these so-called compliments.

On the other hand, everyone has a vanity, which can also be turned into a driving force, but it is also lethal.

Let us have the ability to be praised in our life and work.

Happy New Year

Haha, I just need to know what I am. Sometimes there is no need to tell. Anyway, I don't play in the workplace. Don't I know how much I weigh? Why don't you listen to the nonsense in the sky? He who sees through it will leave him face, just talk less when dealing with him in the future. He can praise you today and betray you tomorrow. Talking less is the best answer, just don't do anything absolutely.

It's human nature to like nice words, because human nature tends to recognize ourselves, and nice words are a kind of recognition for ourselves, but we need to learn to analyze which words are valuable and meaningful.

So, first of all, everyone yearns for beautiful things, beautiful scenery, beautiful people, beautiful things, beautiful poems and beautiful words, and the praise of others is a beautiful word for themselves, even if there is moisture in it, they will take it as an expectation.