Dreams make life more fulfilling and meaningful.

All people's anxieties, anxieties, fears that they haven't seen the whole world before they die, fears that they haven't tried their best while they are young, and resists getting old before they meet love ... In the final analysis, they are all fears that "people are inherently mortal".

There is a black joke. Many people think that they will never die for most of their lives, and when they look back on their lives before they die, they feel that they have not "lived".

how to solve this fundamental fear?

at first, people failed in their pursuit of immortality.

Now, psychology has worked out an antidote-creating something that outlives us as an extension to live for us after we die.

For example, if the collective to which we belong, the religion we believe in and the value we create live forever, we will live forever as a part.

Find your own meaning and give life a purpose. Every day is like a sunflower facing the sun. It is the best way for human beings to live.

it cures our fundamental fears.

this meaning can be a love and a career, and it doesn't matter what form it is.

the important thing is that we love it, and we feel happy because we are close to it, regardless of the result.

here is the difference between "desire" and "the love of my life".

our desire has come true, and we feel empty.

and love all your life is a powerful force.

It gives us a sense of belonging, makes us feel that life is meaningful, and makes us no longer afraid of death.

We are really lucky to get up every day and do it.

the long night, loneliness and loneliness, as long as it is for it, are all interesting.

"success is to spend your life in the way you like."

He knows what he likes, and he has won the right to regard his love as a career.

success means living your life in the way you like.

this sentence is divided into three parts.

First of all, you should know what you like. Secondly, you should have the courage to pursue it. If you do, you need perseverance all your life.

what's it like to live your life the way you like?

have a good life.

die without regret.

When you are a teenager, you must work hard to find your dreams. Because there is enough time and freedom.

If adults haven't found their dreams, they need to do more, because middle-aged people already need to take on social responsibilities. You must find your dreams while flying, repairing airplanes, and carrying forward with heavy loads:

1. Find yourself at work and know yourself. Dreams are often not found from the beginning. On the journey of life, finding dreams is a normal state, and this process is also the process of pursuing dreams. Don't stop because you haven't made your dreams clear for a while. Only by practicing and practicing can you find your dreams. How can you know what your dreams are without trying? Before you find your dream, the first thing you have to do is to find yourself and listen to your inner voice. But also find yourself in serious work and life: meditation, reading useful books, happy work and serious life. Before you find your dream, another thing you have to do is to constantly find ways to adjust your state at work, find what you are good at and suitable for, and constantly break through the comfort zone on the longboard to the extreme. How to understand letting nature take its course and being proactive. Let nature take its course, that is, follow the trend, do not violate the laws of nature and society, and conform to human nature. Being proactive means going all out in the direction of homeopathy, constantly breaking through and focusing on the key points of homeopathy. This is very similar to Tai Chi. This is to practice at work and find dreams in practice.

2. In this practice, I constantly find my dreams. This dream needs constant exploration, trial and error and adjustment. As long as it doesn't affect you to fulfill your responsibilities and obligations, you must try it boldly, especially middle-aged people should even try it more boldly than young people.

3. Dreams and responsibilities. It is the duty and responsibility of adults to provide necessary social security for their families. Moreover, dreams should not be selfish, dreams should not be divorced from reality, and pursuing dreams should fulfill your obligations at the same time, taking into account both ideals and reality. This is the best state of dreams in my opinion. Dreams and responsibilities can be combined in two ways: the first is to pursue simple dreams after trying to accumulate wealth to ensure the life of family members and even teams; The second is that your dream can be turned into a career that exports value, which not only conforms to your heart, but also creates the necessary wealth to protect your family and team. This is a perfect combination. If your dream is like this, you are a lucky person. If you are not so lucky, then the first situation requires you to learn to adjust yourself, so that dreams and responsibilities complement each other, not restrict each other. Don't completely separate work and dreams into two parallel lines. When you work, you think about your dream, but when you do your dream, you can't devote yourself to it because of your work. The correct posture should be that dreams and work promote each other, use dreams to drive your daily work, use daily work as preparation and accumulation for practicing dreams, and use work to protect your dream-seeking journey. It is very likely that you have never completed the accumulation of wealth. Even so, you should spend some spare time in the process to give yourself the opportunity to pursue your dreams. Inner self-regulation and reasonable allocation of time are also a process of spiritual practice for the balance between work and dreams.

5. Dreams are not necessarily unique and fixed, nor are they perfect until they are achieved. The process of continuous search and hard work is also a meaningful state of life. Dreams are related to one's nature and genes, but they are also related to one's cognition of oneself and society. Self-cognition and social cognition will change with the change of experience and environment, so people may have different dreams at each stage, for example, the dreams in adolescence are different from those in youth, and the dreams in middle age may change, so as Yu Minhong said, the ideals at each stage will be different. Therefore, you don't have to deliberately set a unique and fixed dream. When you haven't determined what your life dream is, you can find staged ideals and goals and realize one after another, which can not only enrich and effectively your life journey, but also explore and approach your final dream step by step. Even if the final dream has not been clear, then the process of constantly realizing self-breakthrough is also a meaningful state of life.

6. What should I do if my dreams are shattered? Some people may suggest that the process of chasing dreams is not so smooth, and you pursue your dreams, but many times reality will return you a feather. You may feel that the process of realizing your dreams is too bumpy, or after some efforts, you find that your dreams are out of reach, and you have no chance to realize your dreams at all, or you find that your dreams are not as beautiful as you think. I think the core reason of these problems is that many people often regard desire as a dream. If you take trying to get and possess something as a dream, it will definitely lead to painful results if you can't get it, and empty results if you get it. The dream that can really drive your life is a kind of love, not a desire; It is a kind of belief, like the only light in the night, which guides you to advance fearlessly, not a specific destination; It is a sense of mission. You are convinced that this is what you should do in your life, and that it is up to you to finish it, not to possess something.