Why do women want a house from men when they get married?

In reality, we often see such examples. Both men and women love each other to death, and finally have the result, and finally ruined the past love because of a house. Men blame women's fickle reality and are materialistic women who advocate money. Women, on the other hand, seem to find it hard to argue any longer.

Why do women want houses from men? If you know a woman, you won't blame her, despise her, and then deny all past feelings. For her, the house is an instinctive need, but also forced by reality, because women themselves are inherently insecure creatures.

An example of "An" is mentioned in the lecture and reading of Huangdi Neijing, which explains why putting "female" under "rice" constitutes an "An". Radical Mi can be said to be a home or a safe place, because women are inherently insecure and feel that they are always in danger, so they need to be protected. This is not only safe for women, but also reassuring for men.

Genetically, women's sense of security has also been explained. Women's natural bone structure, coupled with the characteristics of menstrual cycle and childbirth, cause women's physical inconvenience and physical strength is generally not as good as that of men. Especially in ancient times, women couldn't behave like men when resisting the attacks of predators and other tribes, and they couldn't run very fast when encountering danger, which led them to be the most vulnerable targets like children, and a strong sense of insecurity emerged. Through the inheritance of genes from generation to generation, this sense of insecurity has also spread to modern times.

In addition to genetic congenital reasons, the old concept that men are superior to women is also a reason for women's lack of security. Although in modern society, the status of women has undergone earth-shaking changes and improvement, in some places, in some occasions, in the minds of a group of people, the weak position of women has not improved much. They are still weak; We should be content with our duties, and people without talent are nameless virtues; You should step back from the background and be a man's helper. Should not be too strong, should not be too sharp. Because of this, too many women regard men as their own days. They are afraid that they can't survive without men and think that men are indispensable to rely on. What men do can be said to affect women's sense of security from time to time.

In modern society, nothing makes women feel insecure more than love. Love is unpredictable and uncontrollable, which makes too many people want to live and die. Many men are tired of women always asking them, "Do you love her?" They think women are so unreasonably neurotic. As everyone knows, it is precisely because women love you too much and care too much about you that they ask you again and again. Natural insecurities lead them to constantly seek verification, even if it is meaningless, but at least a simple "I love you" can make them feel at ease too much and try their best to pay more love to you in return.

What's more, love is sometimes too fragile. When a man loves a woman, he treats her as a treasure in his hand and dares not melt in his mouth; But when I don't love you, I can be more ruthless than anyone else. The past has turned into a joke that I don't want to look back. So too many women who have been hurt by love are unwilling to believe in love, and even build a wall to be isolated from the outside world. You can walk around her, but you will never walk into her heart. It is not that they are too stubborn, but out of an instinct to protect themselves. Who wants to be hurt again and again?

So more and more women have become a reality in love. For uncontrollable love, they will reflexively seek things that will not change, such as house and money, to make up for their insecurity.

In Yi Shu's novel Xibao, the heroine Xibao once said: I want a lot of love. Without love, I want a lot of money. The choice between love and money has always been a difficult problem for most people, and many people will choose the latter. Are women too vain? Maybe, but it is more natural insecurity that drives them to make such a choice. what is love ? It's a vague emotion, come when you say it, and leave when you say it. As for money, even if love is gone, they will not be unable to survive.

Don't blame women for being vain and worldly, they just react instinctively and treat reality rationally. The ever-changing era is full of too much material desires and uncertainties, which suddenly pulls women's sense of security to a very low level.

The house is not only a need, but also an effective witness of your love. Why can't you love her and give her the protection she needs? Why do you want to completely deny everything because of a house, or even slander your loved ones, so that your beauty is covered with mud, hurting yourself and hurting others?

What's more, buying a house is not just a house, but carries your yearning for love. She wants to make a home with you, wash your hands and make soup for you, and have a stable rear for you to gallop on the battlefield. Instead of being in other people's homes, I am worried about moving frequently, worrying about the criticism of the landlord, and worrying that my children will be like themselves in the future, and my heart is full of gaps. Is there a problem?