Inspired by Li XiaoLu's hot search, what is immoral love like?

Like last time, she and her old partner PG One accidentally made the Weibo hot search list again a few days ago.

It is said that there are three videos suspected of "Li XiaoLu's intimate behavior with PG One" on the Internet, which has caused extensive discussion in recent days. This invisibly brought fire to innocent Jerry again, but it was their marriage and family that suffered the most.

Think about the past, the marriage has just calmed down, and now it is immediately tortured.

I remember the last time Li XiaoLu and PG One were all over the Internet, and the "sleepover" incident spread by the Internet did great harm to their careers. The core cause of injury is not "staying overnight" itself, but the status of married women in Li XiaoLu!

Can a married woman with a house, a husband and children really spend the night alone with unmarried young men? Are you sure it's gonna be okay? Did she betray her marriage and hurt her feelings?

As a public figure, you need to face doubts all the time. This is also the main reason for netizens' criticism, which has little to do with staying.

However, the authenticity of online transmission events is limited to online transmission, and this matter has never been conclusive. Li XiaoLu and Jerry are still happily married.

First, immoral love will continue to hurt marriage.

I remember that many people thought that Li XiaoLu and PG One were "pure" friends. After all, it is theoretically impossible for her to "spend the night" with others at the risk of family destruction.

At that time, Li XiaoLu and PG One also insisted that they were innocent. They were both measured and no one was out of line.

At that time, their * * * friend Ma Su also stressed that online is a rumor, and they are both very pure, I testify. ...

At that time, Jerry also issued a document firmly believing that his wife Li XiaoLu was not that kind of woman. ...

Before the real hammer came out, "I firmly believe that someone is innocent", although there are loopholes in the language, but the attitude is still relatively positive.

After all, gossip circulating on the Internet can be completely ignored unless there is a hammer in the end. As long as you don't admit it, you insist that you are innocent and insist on denying it. After a long time, you will gradually become innocent. "Drag the word" is the most commonly used formula of many stars, and it won at the end.

Even if it is not innocent, at least there is no real hammer, and you can continue to pretend to be innocent. Facts have also proved that some stars can pretend to be innocent and innocent. If installed well, the effect is the same. In the eyes of people who eat melons, they are still goddesses and goddesses.

However, the three intimate videos that spread like wildfire seem to be brought with a real hammer, which is very threatening and can be called a final decision. You don't need to add fuel to the fire, just sit down and tell the truth!

Even a little speculation will know that after the scandal, the two still have the pressure to communicate. While defending his innocence, he is still hooking up and doing innocent things.

Once the story spread, it immediately hit many people in the face of drama! Hit the face, this is not the most important thing, the important thing is that you can no longer defend your innocence.

In the face of the real hammer of the video, PG One sent a message and simply admitted the authenticity of the video. He flaunted himself as an injured person under the pressure of wronged online public opinion, and admitted that he really had feelings for her. ...

This is worth pondering. As a third party who destroys other people's marriage and family, what is there to be wronged?

Since ancient times, immoral "love" is not love at all. It is like a cancer, unless it is removed by cruel means, it will continue to endanger the health of marriage until the day it is destroyed.

So, the relationship between Li XiaoLu and Jerry is basically doomed. Unless they can really forget the past completely, right? I hope so.

Second, the problem of marriage and affection cannot be dealt with by "procrastination"

Having dinner with several colleagues and sisters after the meeting, I learned the meaning of "people who eat melons" for the first time.

An elder sister said: If my mobile phone hadn't sent me a bunch of junk messages all day, I might never have known that Huang Rong in Li Shendiao was not! Embarrassment is always inevitable. It seems that eating melons is also meaningful. I finally distinguished the difference between Zhou Xun and Li XiaoLu. ...

An elder sister analyzed: In this case, judging by intuition alone, Li XiaoLu and Jerry's marriage should be hurt by another violent attack, and the children also suffered greatly. Unless they have great wisdom, their marriage relationship may end here, which is quite sad. It's all hammered, so it's hard to install. If we had distanced ourselves decisively, this would not have happened. ...

It is really pitiful for a married woman to push herself to the point of no way back with her "strength". But on the other hand, is this kind of thing still rare around us? It is better to blame anyone than to blame yourself for not knowing how to cherish.

Not only public figures will encounter such emotional problems, but even ordinary people will occasionally encounter them. They all have one characteristic: they are too lucky to respect their marriage!

From the perspective of marriage and family, all so-called "love" that appears outside marriage is immoral. After appearing, the best way is to cut the gordian knot and separate completely, instead of expecting to continue to communicate after a calm.

In marriage and family, if there are emotional problems, the wrong party can't delay and can't pin the opportunity on the so-called peace.

Third, a brief divorce case

Once, I met a divorced lady and listened to her tell a similar emotional story. Finally, she missed a good opportunity to save her family, lost her marriage, and it was too late to regret it.

The lady's name is Xiao Ye, and she is 33 years old. Married for 7 years, I have a good relationship with my husband. But later at work, Xiao Ye and an unmarried male colleague developed a feeling similar to "love". She thought her husband didn't know.

Xiao Ye's husband is a clever man. Even if he knew the truth, he always believed that Xiao Ye was innocent for the sake of family integrity. Although many people laughed at him for being timid, he never divorced Xiao Ye.

One day, Xiao Ye didn't come home at night, and her husband went to her office to find her in the middle of the night. It turns out that Xiao Ye and a man are holding hands and hugging in the warehouse of the unit. ...

Although the husband and wife had conflicts and almost divorced, the husband did not continue to care, which was equivalent to forgiving Xiao Ye.

Xiao Ye once said: At that time, I misunderstood my husband's meaning. He didn't know, but he gave me a chance. I thought the marriage crisis would be over and calm down. I thought he forgot and accidentally made another mistake. When my husband finds out again, he will never forgive me again ...

In Xiao Ye's story, during the first marriage crisis, her husband warned Xiao Ye: I don't believe what others say, I only believe you, because you are my wife. I hope you will not let me down. Let's live a good life and don't associate with him in the future.

Xiao Ye knew she was wrong, but she underestimated her husband's dignity. After the husband and wife made up, Xiao Ye was silent for a period of time, and no longer interacted with the colleague.

But later, Xiao Ye felt calm and made another mistake. She thought her husband didn't know, but he forgave again.

This case tells us that sometimes people who make mistakes don't have no chance to turn over a new leaf, but delay themselves.

Fourth, marriage and love have ups and downs.

We often say that love has ups and downs. Whether before or after marriage, the feeling of love is similar. But one thing is certain, married people can't expect extra love. After all, it is something that hurts people and hurts themselves. The longer it takes, the more difficult it is to deal with.

In a relationship, the most painful thing in a person's life is probably to see the person he loves most fall in love with others, or show love with others. Even if the marriage continues, it will be punctured from time to time.

Needless to say, everyone who has experienced that feeling knows. Sometimes they can forgive again and again for the sake of family integrity. But there is a limit to anyone's dignity. Forgiving once or twice does not mean forgiving forever.

For any couple, as long as there is a stain in the relationship, as long as the facts are settled, it will never be washed away. Black is not white, some things don't need to be explained, but they will always be debunked. Tie, tie, and die.

Some things happen once or twice. The key is that as an injured person, not saying it will only become more and more passive. There is always a storm on the road of feelings. You have never been the darling of others, but you regard yourself as the most important person in each other. This is a kind of stupidity, and finally it hurts itself.

I remember once occasionally hearing people say that neither salty nor light love is love, but torture. This sentence is true in marriage, but it is wrong to cross marriage.

Some couples, although still family, don't know when they will be cheated by the other half, which is very hurtful. For many couples, this is probably the most heartfelt thing in marriage. Obviously, I have forgiven my lover's mistake, but that person is not enterprising. Do you want to be forgiven again?

A good marriage trusts each other, and sometimes you have to pretend to trust. And a happy marriage is true trust, no need to pretend, and we are still calm.