Why do you find blind dates painful?

1. The mother of a colleague in the company who did not reply to the message in time knew that I had been on a blind date recently, so she introduced a boy to me. The boy was three years older than me, but his mind was very immature. , the first time we met was at a hot pot restaurant. As a girl, she didn’t want to have a hot pot restaurant as a first date. After rejecting it twice, he still kept recommending how delicious that hot pot restaurant was. There was nothing he could do about it. , the first time we met, we made an appointment at his favorite hot pot restaurant. The food was okay and tasted good, but after eating, my face was really oily, so he said: "Your face Why is there so much oil and makeup is all gone? Is the powder too thick?” At that time, there were ten thousand things I wanted to say. After all, it was the first time we met, so I still needed to be reserved. I just smiled awkwardly. He smiled and then left. After dinner, he asked to watch a movie. It was already past nine o'clock after dinner. There was no time to watch a movie. So go back and go to bed early. After rejecting his kindness, he went home. He actually didn't even think about sending it to me. After I got home, I forgot about him and went straight to take a shower. I wanted to wash away the hot pot smell from my body quickly. Girls are so slow to take a shower. It took nearly an hour and a half. When I came out, I found dozens of unknown messages on my phone. I got calls all from that boy. There were also many messages sent by him, complaining about why I didn't talk to him, and whether I was dissatisfied with him. I said a lot of them, which I felt were all nonsense. Out of politeness, I felt that I should give him a message. He just responded with a message. When he sent the message, it showed that the verification failed. He actually blocked me. I was very convinced. At that time, I thought, just block me. I didn’t bother to talk to him, so I Blocked him. The next day, my colleagues came to complain about me, saying that I had a bad attitude and that I was like someone who cheated me out of a meal on the pretext of a blind date. I ignored people after a meal and even blocked them. It was not fun. After listening to what my colleague said, I thought to myself, isn't this just a bad person who filed the complaint first? Just because I didn't reply in time, I became a sinner. 2. The one who is 1.7 meters dislikes the one who is 1.6 meters. This blind date saw a boy who was fair and fat, but a little short. He said he was 1.72 meters, but I looked at him and he was only 1.7 meters, with an extra two centimeters. It must be the thickness of the soles. The first thing he said was that I was short and disliked me for being only 1.6 meters tall. Has he never measured his height or looked in the mirror? What does he look like? How tall is he? Not even a few. I never thought that I would be laughed at by a fat and short boy. I originally wanted to leave directly, but when I thought that he was introduced by my aunt, leaving would make her aunt lose face, so I bite the bullet and follow him. He chatted for a few words. When we were chatting, he actually said that after getting married, his salary would be under his control. He was a student of financial management, and the value of the family’s money would only increase in his hands. He also said that he didn’t mind my low salary because his salary was high. His salary is just over 10,000 yuan. Is this already a high salary? In this case, my salary is 8,000, and I don’t feel that there is anything missing. After that, he made two out of three sentences about his disdain for my height and salary. He couldn't bear it anymore, so he sent a message to my best friend and asked her to call me and rescue me quickly, but nothing happened after that. 3. I’m about to get married after just one month of knowing this boy. After I chatted with him for ten sentences, I knew that he must be a good boy at home and a mama’s boy. Nine out of ten sentences were about how his mother was doing and how his mother was. What is the famous saying in the world? The key is that he said that after getting married, he will live with his parents. Because his mother is old, he is worried about his parents living alone, so he must live under his nose. And he feels that he is getting older, so if the conversation goes well, he hopes to arrange the wedding in a month. His mother is getting older and is anxious to have grandchildren, so she has been urging him to get married quickly, and she won’t let me get married after the wedding. I had to go to work because I had to take care of his parents at home and give him a baby quickly. After I gave birth to the baby, I took care of the baby at home and said I was not allowed to go out to work. During most of this conversation, he kept talking, and I was listening beside him. He didn't say a few words. After he finished speaking, he just dragged me away, saying that he was going to my house to meet my parents. After all, We were getting married in a month. It was so scary. I quickly found an excuse and ran away. I sent him a text message on the way, saying that I was not capable and not worthy of him. I have only been on three dates, and all of them are weird. I have already begun to wonder if I am just weird in the eyes of the matchmaker, or else the people introduced by the matchmaker are all like this.

Why I find blind dates painful 2 After many failures, I begin to feel hopeless and numb. When it comes to blind dates, I always hope for the best and prepare for the worst. Already used to failure. However, every failure is still a bit shocking, especially when you are full of hope, invest time and emotion, and in the end you are always dealt the good guy card. The despair again and again is enough to make people scared. Even now I often ask myself, what is wrong with me, why can't I succeed when others can, and stupid things like not being lucky are just other people's comfort to myself. If you don't find out the reason, you may not be able to grasp the fate even if it comes. So what is the reason? 1. Is it because my looks are not good enough? I admit that I am not handsome. As a standard otaku, I don’t care about my clothes. The appearance aspect is really not good. I tried hard to change it, but found it very difficult. Firstly, I am usually alone in the office. I just find myself comfortable whatever I want. After a long time, I don’t pay much attention to what I wear. . After staying alone for a long time, I do become a bit sloppy. I don’t know how to dress myself up, and my appearance is a bit poor at first glance. However, appearance is something you are born with, and some things cannot be changed. I have worked hard to change myself over the years. I don’t need to dress too handsomely, but at least I need to be neat and clean. 2. The sorrow of straight men: As a otaku and a straight man, it is really your fate to be single. He doesn't know how to sweet-talk girls to make them happy, he doesn't know how to be romantic, he doesn't know how to take care of others, and he can list a bunch of problems just thinking about it. I also tried to learn humor and how to get along with others, but in the end I found that I gave up. How can I study alone in an office? I am still alone, and my social skills are very poor. As a straight man, many times chatting with people who don’t understand anything at all comes across as boring. In girls' terms, they lack an interesting soul, but how to do it, I am stupid and stupid and don't know. If anyone knows, please tell me. 3. Inferiority mentality Perhaps the biggest reason for failure is lack of self-confidence. Thinking about it, I have no successful cases. Every time I talk about work and life, I never have the confidence to raise my lips. What's more, I started to feel scared, because it was such a failure. In 1988, I was an unprofitable e-commerce seller in a fourth-tier city with a monthly salary of more than 5,000 and a mortgage of 3,800. How could I be confident in this kind of life? The greatest sadness is that when others do not dislike me, I start to dislike myself. . When I have no money, all I can think about is how to get rich overnight. Moreover, without money in his pocket, he looks stingy and clumsy. Money is really a person's biggest source of confidence. Having no money really makes me feel inferior, but there are so many people without money. Why do I feel like such a failure? This is obviously the bad nature of the poor, a kind of poverty that goes deep into the bones. 4. Impetuous mentality. For older people, the biggest difficulty is that their mentality is too impetuous. On the one hand, they want to make money, and on the other hand, they want to get married. Every time they go on a blind date, they feel that falling in love is very troublesome. It is best to get a marriage certificate directly. Every time I get along with girls, I feel like I have to chat and give gifts to please them, which is really tiring. How can I please people because I’m so stupid? I imitate the people in the movies who give gifts, treat guests to dinner and watch movies, and do all kinds of tricks. I took the initiative, but in the end I always said we were not suitable. I don’t know what’s wrong with it, and no one told me. I don’t even know how to improve it. Don’t laugh at me. I’m so stupid about feelings. It’s so pitiful and sad. Why do you think blind dates are painful? 3 A survey in China found that about 80% of young people said they were unwilling to go to relatives’ homes during the Chinese New Year. There is even some aversion to some social interactions. Some people say that especially during the Chinese New Year. Relatives always like to ask about their job income. How much did you earn this year, and do you have anyone to talk to? How much is the monthly salary? I always like to get to the bottom of things and ask some private questions. Many people are unwilling to face it and even feel anxious. Logically speaking, relatives are related to us by blood, so we should be more affectionate as relatives. Why does this abnormal phenomenon occur? People don’t want to engage in meaningless social interactions because life is extremely stressful now. Everyone spends most of their time on their careers. And they also have to spend a lot of time dealing with the pressure of social competition. Sometimes life is not very satisfactory, there are always some ups and downs! Who wants to tell people about things that don't go well with them? Life has its ups and downs, and you still need to experience your own life before you can enjoy it. Most young people like to spend their time making friends with whom they are interested. For example, playing games, some friends on the game.

Not willing to spend time on trivial matters. Like to do things you are interested in. The recently popular short video platform is more relevant to the lives of our young people. It can find things we are interested in and content we like to watch, bringing emotional happiness to people. Relieve emotional stress. Because humans are group animals. No more socializing. Without a place to vent your feelings, people will feel very lonely. It will slowly close your heart. Therefore, real social interaction is not a simple interaction between people, but is often a social interaction that satisfies the heart. People often say. Distant relatives are not as good as close neighbors. Usually, it is due to work pressure or work location, or the living environment is different. There must be a certain difference between the thoughts of the previous generation and the thoughts of relatives! Blind date is a difficult hurdle, just like me. Go home during the Chinese New Year. You will be urged to get married by various relatives. This leads to a very embarrassing scene! I remember my first blind date, the other person was a very shy girl. I was 23 years old at the time. I couldn’t tell whether I liked it or not, but I always found it fun. When we arranged a blind date at home for the first time, when I first saw her cooking in the kitchen, my first impression was that she was very quiet. She is very serious about cooking and has a mother-like warmth. She is two years older than me, maybe this is a coincidence arranged by God. I make clothing. Boys who make clothing are particularly hard-working and have to work overtime until late every day. I told her all these things and she didn't refuse at the time. I think I am a nicer person and have a gentler personality. And he is over 1.7 meters tall. Later, we dated briefly for a few days, and you felt normal. There was nothing to talk about. Just like that, after the Spring Festival, he went to the distant Shenzhen. Work as a cashier in a supermarket. When I went to Guangzhou to make clothing, I talked on the phone several times, but I felt like I couldn't find anything to talk about. Always ask something like have you eaten. Or are you cold or tired? Gradually, I felt very embarrassed. So it goes until August 15th. He sent me a message saying that we are not suitable. In this way, my first blind date failed. Maybe I am a more honest person. I am introverted and don't talk much. Not popular with girls either. In today's society, there are fewer girls and more boys, especially because men have different jobs. There is also little contact with girls. This is often a problem with blind dates. I was too shy to answer. Marriage is indeed a problem nowadays. The proportion of girls is much smaller than that of boys. Moreover, when girls go on blind dates, many matchmakers have failed. Of course, the requirements will become higher and higher. For example, if a boy is tall, has an income, does he have a car or a house, the standards for girls will be higher and higher. And those boys who want to start a family will have lower and lower requirements, and they don't even need to choose a girl, as long as it is a girl. Stay away from those who make you miserable. This is especially true for those in their 20s and those who have just graduated and have just entered society. Relationships and careers are both in their infancy. Nor has it accumulated much achievements or resources. And all kinds of inquiries from relatives will make them feel very inferior. There is no dignity on the face. Want to escape from those who cause them pain. Therefore, in the process of communicating with relatives. Various problems with relatives can make us feel unconfident and psychologically humble. Suppress your inner feelings and pretend to listen patiently. It’s been a long time. Such negative feelings. It will make you feel very unhappy. Which makes it even more repulsive! Of course, we cannot escape these unpleasant things. But we try to avoid these pains. Pursue the life you want. Live every day well!