Why don't modern people like to visit relatives?

I remember when I was a child, I would pay New Year greetings to my two uncles every Spring Festival. After I joined the work, I found that they were ungrateful, disrespectful to the poor and loved the rich, and they never wanted to associate with each other again.

Big Uncle and Second Uncle are brothers and neighbors.

1999, my uncle's house was repaired. In order to make the house square, he paid 5000 yuan to occupy my uncle's one-meter dam. My uncle said that no matter how much money he paid, he would not agree. He also said that he would save up to repair his son's house and get a wife in the future. From then on, the two brothers were at odds and wanted to kill each other. Often fight for a corner of the field, livestock, etc. It makes people laugh.

The tension between my big uncle and my second uncle made us feel at a loss. One year, our brother went to pay a New Year call, and there was no one at home, so he went to my uncle's house first, had lunch at my uncle's house, and went to my uncle's house with gifts in the afternoon. He said with a black face that no matter how big or small, he should pay a New Year call to his family first, and so on, which scared us speechless.

After dinner at my uncle's house, I went home. My uncle and my second uncle prepared a package of gifts for everyone, specifically indicating which two packages are mine. Don't be confused. Repeated refusals failed, and they loaded the car and carried it away.

My brother found that my two packages of gifts were bacon, sausage, jujube and walnut, while theirs were peanuts, yam and grapefruit. The two brothers said that the big uncle and the second uncle were partial to each other and were too poor to love the rich.

I explained to my brothers that I work in other places, and it may be difficult for them to eat bacon and sausages. If you like, I don't want it, you can take it, and the three brothers have nothing to say all the way. In fact, I know that my big uncle and my second uncle are snobs, but I just don't know what to say for fear of affecting the mood and feelings between our brothers.

In 2004, my uncle asked me to help him find his way. After many twists and turns, I was arranged to be an apprentice in an auto parts factory. After working for less than half a year, he was sentenced to three and a half years in prison for stealing metal copper. My uncle blamed me for not taking his son out, and made a scene in my house many times, urging my mother to intercede with a runny nose and tears, making the family fidgety, miserable and depressed.

Since then, I have never been to my uncle's house or my uncle's house. Under the pressure of my mother, they find someone to bring gifts to express their feelings every birthday.