A story about having your own opinion without relying on others

There is a story:

It is like this:

The grandfather and grandson bought a donkey and went home. The grandfather saw that his grandson was young, so he let his grandson ride on the donkey. , while walking, some people said that the grandson did not understand filial piety. After hearing this, the grandson asked his grandfather to ride on the donkey. At this time, someone pointed out that the grandson did not care for his grandson. What should I do? The grandfather and grandson simply stopped riding and led the donkey away; but some people laughed at them for letting the good donkey go and not riding it. They were just two fools. After hearing this, both the grandfather and the grandson rode on the donkey, but there were still people He said that these two people were really cruel and wanted to tire the donkey to death. Finally, they had no choice but to tie up the four hooves of the donkey and carry it away.

Due to lack of independent opinions, the grandfather and grandson ended up in embarrassment and ignorance due to repeated temptations from others. Now it seems that this story is a bit too outrageous. This kind of thing rarely happens. But when I think about it carefully, there is still a very profound truth to it. For example, what are we two like now and what should we do? I think it's the same thing with the donkey

First of all, no matter what you do. Everyone must have their own subjective ideas. No matter where things develop, your own subjective thinking should always play a leading role. If there are deviations or errors in your own subjective ideas, make appropriate modifications and adjustments on the premise of grasping the overall direction. You can listen to other people's opinions or suggestions, but whether to adopt them or not must be based on the overall development of things before making a choice. Do not blindly follow their orders.

Secondly, do not do things in a hurry or blindly. You must have a plan, handle various affairs calmly, and have a grasp of the minimum and maximum limits, so that you will not go out of line and make things develop along the general train of thought and direction.

Again, don’t act based on emotion or loyalty. Everything must be based on principles and goals, but the theme and idea remain unchanged, the purpose remains unchanged, and only the process and methods to achieve the goal have changed.

Only when you have your own opinion can you have thoughts, when you have thoughts can you have ideas, only when you have ideas can you have results, and only those who have results will have a happy life. If you lack your own opinion, you will achieve nothing.